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Who Will Officiate?
It's now time to start looking for the right person to marry us. Where do I begin?
By Sara Cardace
This week I suddenly find my wedding planning on hold, as we haven't gotten any proposals back from the caterers yet and the tastings we've lined up are still to come. A blissful reprieve!
But I'm not taking the week completely off. Apparently, I really need to find an officiant and book them pronto, since we're now at...let's see...four, five, six...OH MY GOD, WE'RE AT THE NINE-MONTH MARK. I knew it was coming...but still. Good. Grief. (Note to self: Enquire whether wedding planning qualifies as a Xanax-prescribable trauma.)
Anyway, fiancé John and I are planning to hold our ceremony in the same space where we're throwing the reception. Thank God our event coordinator Darius has a whole complicated scheme as to how it's all going to work out--apparently there will be artful draping, temporary corridors, and a team of staffers whisking things to and fro--though of course I have only the vaguest sense of it all. To be honest, I kind of faked my way through the explanation because he seemed so convinced that it would work. (I trust him implicitly, and I'm lazy, so there's that too.) I do feel like it's all somewhat taken care of. But I'm told that now it's time to find someone to do the ceremony.
Having worked at
Our basic requirements are pretty minimal: We want someone who's warm, laid-back, and cool with the fact that we want religion pretty much left out of the picture. That's not too much to ask, right? But it does seem like it's going to take forever to schedule a bunch of meetings with a long list of people in the hopes of finding the right fit, and honestly, I'm already feeling stretched totally thin and I'm dreading the prospect. I would love to know how other brides have gone/are going about this....
Now that I think about it, I guess the first step should be
to send an e-mail to everyone I know who's had any experience with
Oh, and also: The bridal shower. Um, help?
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I am using a company called New York Marriages. The officiant's name is Keith. We spoke to a ton of Officiants before calling Keith. All the others were a little strange, one guy could not remember anything we told him, in the end Keith was the one that fit our needs. We did not want religion either. Keith seems to me to be what you want. He is warm, laid back and has a tremendous speaking voice, good diction, and is a great public speaker. You are going to need someone with a strong voice to fill that large venue. He also has tremndous knowlege of the whole licence process. We are very busy too, this man came to our house at like 9:00pm to meet with with us! the web site is www.nymarriages.com. Good Luck
Wow, thanks! I will definitely check them out...
xx
Dubious Bride
Do you think it would be a good idea to hire a wedding coordinator? It seems as if you are all wedding'd out. And you haven't even trimmed the surface of planning yet. Yes, you have the big stuff, but it's all the little details that drives brides crazy. A great coordinator are worth their weight in gold. They know things about the wedding industry in your area that you wouldnt know due to the fact that you dont orchestrate a wedding every weekend like they do. I highly recommend it. If you dont you will invest all this money for one day that you will be too stressed out to enjoy and have the "i cant wait to get this over with feeling" instead of it being a day that you looked forward to for so long.
They are also great at negotiating deals with vendors in your area due to the fact that unlike you being a one time client they constantly bring clients to vendors which makes them able to get a better deal for you. Just think about it. I'm a wedding coordinator and even I'm hiring one for my big day because I want to be a bride for the day not be concerned about if the candles are lit or if my cake arrived on time...