Mother-Daughter Pageant Team

Mrs Rhode Island! Great to see you again...you look fantastic! Best of luck to you and your daughter!!

It is all about this mom, she is the one who wants to win. She said that the 1000.00 was alot of money, HA HA she went and had botox done and bought a 5000.00 dollar dress. She knew she was going to win it was FIXED!!

This mom, Traci Lin, should have her child taken away from her. That poor little girl wanted nothing to do with this ridiculous pageant. That mom should realize that her days of pageants are over, and stop abusing her child and forcing her to partake in this sexist out dated ritual . And by the way, her 5000 dollar dress is tacky. She should have invested that money in a college fund for her daughter so that someday her daughter can get a real job, and so she doesn't have to teach aerobics and do pageants when she is 40 years old. Poor child. Traci Lin, grow up!

I did Miss America Preliminary pageants for several years, so I understand the pageant world and appreciate all of the valuable things that you can learn from it; however this mom is WAY over the edge! This obviously wasn't about her daughter, but rather HER. The need for botox and lip injections, just reinforces how low her self esteem truly is. This woman only feels good about herself when she has won something, likely anything, but especially a pageant. The most obvious example of this would be the need for her to wear her title banner to the airport. I'm sure her daughter didn't suggest it, but even if she had, people with true class would know that it wasn't an appropriate time to do so; especially when it was for the return of her military husband!

She's obviously competitive, but to use it to "one up" your daughter is ridiculous. A good example is the number of beads on their dresses and how mom made sure that Alexis understood that her dress had a LOT more. How silly! Coaching her on stage with comments like "head up". That is controlling to the extreme. For God's sake, let the child get some level of enjoyment out of this! Just like the dance routine, which was exercise moves, which is obviously what mom wanted versus asking her daughter for input. Sad...

I sat watching this episode and felt physically ill watching the vanity and insecurity of the mother and how it adversely affected her daughter. How sad that a grown woman, who seems to have a great life with a loving husband and 4 kids, can't stop living out her dreams, even if it is hurting her child! How many times did Alexis say that she wasn't really excited about the pageant stuff? What about her saying that she didn't really like being on stage? Sure she was happy once they won, but that was partially because she knew that it made mom happy and that took pressure off of Alexis.

I hope that Traci reads this and sees the damage that she is causing. If you can't see that you are doing damage then watch the episode and how you said that your daughter was happy being "average". What about her being happy with who she is and that she is a winner no matter what? You take her self esteem down a notch with each little comment that you make, none of which are encouraging or uplifting. You could stand to take lessons from the other mother featured in this episode. She left the stage in tears telling her daughter how proud she was and how beautiful she was. That is what a loving parent does! Offering her a DS IF she does what you want AND you win is sick and honestly very selfish on your part, since winning was only truly important to YOU! What about telling her that you will celebrate either way, but that the most important part is to have fun and gain something valuable from the entire experience?

My opinion is that Traci needs therapy to deal with her insecurities and parenting classes, so that she can see that belittling her child is nothing more than emotional and verbal abuse!

Again you wonderful people of the nation only saw the part the producers wanted you to see. Not the fun and silly sides that happened too. And yes the botox and lip injections were done for free! So, I thought why not try it, the lip thing will not be happening again! As far as her not wanting to be there yes again that's what they edited. My son Mark actually helped put our routine together and made up the words to our cheer, he was cut out also. We were laying on the ground at times laughing so hard having fun with the routine and again that was left out! They portrayed me exactly how they wanted too and look at all the talk it has stirred up. THAT IS CALLED PUBLICITY!
My daughter is not that confident on stage yet and she knows this. But she still loves to do pageants becuase they are fun and she learns the value of winning and losing. I don't win every pageant but I have tons of fun. I have never had a bad experience at a pageant whether I win or lose. Just know that this is tv and does not happen daily. I wore my banner to the airport because it was a show about pageants(not sure if you were aware of that?). AND ALEXA WAS THE ONE WHO WANTED TO WEAR THEM! She is the sweetest little girl and yes she will grow up and go to college. We actually have the money to buy my dress and our children go to college. WE ARE VERY BLESSED. By the way my BS degree from college is Fitness and Exercise Management. I won't be stopping this for a very long time, it is very rewarding to help people live longer and healthier lives. Have you ever helped and inspired some one to lose weight so they can have surgery for their cancer? I have! Have you ever helped someone truly be happy and healthy? I am more than the pageants and the tv show. I am a wife, a mom,a coach, homeroom mom and house keeper! Just remember that everything is not what it seems. WE really are regular people who happened to be on the show and this is the outcome, I have no regrets except I wish I had control over the editing!
I love Alexa very much, she is fine and will always be the best little sweetie in my eyes.
P.S.- I didn't win the money on my own,(we were a team) she won part of that money and I told her she could use it how she wished. The DS was what she wanted- she earned it!
Karma is very real and we embrace all of the wonderful things that have come our way since the show!
Peace -Traci

bamajules - don't tell me about cancer, ovarian cancer at 25, mother died of Non Hodgkin's Lymphoma.
It's all about you and once again believe you are ugly inside.

Traci, I knew you when you were with your first (of many as will probably turn out) husband. All I can say is he is lucky he escaped your train wreck. I bet your doofus current husband would pay him to give you back.

You should let your daughter grow up before teaching her to be just like you.

You have some serious self esteem issues if you're criticizing your daughter like that. Constantly nagging her, and being competitive with her.
That's like Michael Jordan bragging he can beat a 5 yrs old in a game of 1 on 1 basketball.
Yeah, you have a nice body, but you're a high maitenance w#@$e. Your little girl has more sense than mommy does. You're just living vicariously through your daughter.

THANKS to all of you for watching and making our episode one of the highest rated! WOO-HOOO!

Guess you all missed the part where I am a homeroom, basketball coach, chauffeur to guitar, dance, gymnastics, friends houses, and volunteer for various non profit organizations. Let me see my CURRENT very wonderful husband, (calling him a name is so childish) lives in Tampa mon-fri- so I am single parent through the week. I have a house to take care of and I teach aerobics and am a personal trainer. I have had some touch-ups,( so what) and if you lived near me you could come to my kickboxing class to see that I work hard for the body have.
OH, BUT YES MY LIFE IS ALL ABOUT ME 24/7! Who are you kidding. Just having 4 kids is a full time job. Did I forget to mention helping with homework?
As far as the Botox, etc. It was free! I won't be doing the lips thing again!
But, it was awesome for the show.

Creative editing makes for a great show. I new when we auditioned for the show that this could happen. What is really awesome is Alexa is totally oblivious to all of this nonsense. She asked after the show why they made me look mad at her, so I explained it too her and she was ok with it.

I am the awful mom in America- boo hoo poor me-
oops I forgot IT'S ALL ABOUT ME- THIS WAS MY MASTER PLAN AND YOU FOUND ME OUT.(HAPPY smile)

Don't forget to check us out in IN TOUCH WEEKLY next week. I am sure it will be entertaining. Season 2 is going to be great, you will have to hold your breath and wait!

I am high maintenance and have no problem making my own money to live this life.
For all of you who let life pass you by without making the most of it - so sorry for you.
LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO HATE- LET IT GO!
Peace and Harmony, Traci

It does seem that the mom here is just using this to advance her own agenda. Why else would she throw in the In Touch weekly or season 2 comments?? Being a "reality" star is not what one should aspire to.

I hope the liitle girl turns out OK. Not only this mess, but her father away much of the time.

OMG!!! Leave this lady and her family alone,,, Such haters in the world its sad!!! What does her personal life ,who she was married too or how many times, how many kids she has , Botox, ect,... Ask your self this does it affect your life? prob not.. To each there own..

Traci, don't sweat all of these negative comments! As someone who is from your community and has friends that know you, it's obvious that there was some heavy-duty editing going on. Right from the beginning the episode was structured for you to be the big bad Fleming Island family versus the good old Middleburg kin...talk about perpetuating local stereotypes!

As for the whole money thing, you commenters have NO IDEA what Traci's financial situation is like. It's ludicrous that you can *ass*ume that she's driving her family to the poorhouse when you have no clue as to her husband's rank or how hard Traci works.

If you believe everything you see on t.v. as the god's honest truth, then I've got a bridge in Brooklyn that I'd like to sell you...

You are nothing but a joke to yourself as well as those who claim to befriend you. You are nothing but a selfish narcissist. The "all about me" syndrome that excludes the real love for your kids that they so desperately crave. This depiction on the show is laughable because you are a whole lot worse that anything shown by this footage. Your about as fake as the other 90%% of your body. You are a threat to anything and everything that gets in the way of your agenda. If you want to be in pictures, have them do a documentary on you for your narcissistic personality disorder. At least it would be factual.

Not a Mom, just a "be the a perfect child".
I believe every post leaning to being a mother is well stated.
Grow old gracefully. Many people are denied the gift.

I dont agree with all of the comments about your appearance. You are a very pretty woman and all of the people commenting would more than like have work done if they could. I have competed against you before and you really are very pretty.

That said I was pretty shocked at how much your daughter truly appeared to NOT want to be ther and yet she was there anyway. She really did appear to be ther only to make you happy.

The thing that made me the most angry though is that Janet, Mrs Florida 2007, and you, Mrs Puerto Rico 2007 know eachother! I know this because I was in the Mrs. United Staes 2007 pageant as well. Had your daughter appeared to really want to be there and had she done as well as the other little girls.. that would be one thing. But she didnt! in fact she was in tears much of the show. Therefor I question the honesty of the win! I think the Meeks should have won and I think they showed so much more character and the positive side of that little pageant. You on the other hand made it seem very negative. And $1000 a lot of money??? Come on!!! How much are entry fees for these pageants Traci???? The ONE that I did with you was over $3000! I do feel bad for the husbands that are helping shell out for these contests. Even the Mrs. United States pageant is a rip! Hmmm, funny that it was never televised..... You are beautiful and fun... be happy with that. A crown on your head is nice once Traci... but you are sooo much more than that. THAT is the message you need to send to your daughter.!

Yeah, I gotta say, $5,000 on a dress? For this pageant??? This cheesy little pageant? Damn mom, you should have done the math and tried to buy something a little more reasonable and try to come out ahead. I sure hope you spend as much money on your son(s) as you do on your daughter.

I had to leave a comment after watching the Access Hollywood post interview. You are a mess Traci. I know you cant believe everything and that there is power in editing, but this is ridiculous. Your daughter does not enjoy doing the pagents at least not the way you want her to do them period. I get the thing about teaching your daughter proper manners and keeping her posture on point but do you have to correct her so many times in front of the cameras. Can you say embarassing. There is a time and place for everything even when it comes to your kids. And you killed me when you showed her up on the leg lift thing, you did the same thing when it came to the amount of beads on your dress. I am not going to say that you are a bad mother because I don't know you at all but girl you really made yourself look like a self centered woman who only cares about appearances. And sweetheart you did that all by yourself you can't blame editing on that one. Oh and also the demenor and comments from your daughter and husband said alot to. I noticed that you havent made a comment after someone said that if you felt as though you did nothing wrong then why were you on the defense so hard? I thought you like to be judged? Aren't we making your day? Please don't think any of this is hate. Myself and other people just see something that is not right. We are just trying to help you because obviously you can't see what you are doing. A lot of us need this it is called constructive critism. Take it sweetheart please. I felt pretty bad for your daughter during some of those moments.

Traci, you need to get a clue (or buy one!) about your ego. One day when you are all alone, you will always have your mirror.

Wow. You didn't offend me too much until I watched that Access Hollywood interview. Did you actually say that your daughter was fine with being 'average'? What exactly do you think you are? With your Mary Lou Retton hair cut from 1982, trout lips, tanorexic skin, and muffin top ... you are definitely nothing more than average. The haircut alone makes you less than average. Mary Lou called, she wants her hair back.

Your little girl on the other hand? She sparkles like a diamond and you can't stand it. Find an adult to compete with and stop projecting your insecurities onto your daughter. She's worth ten of you.

Traci obviously has huge issues with herself and is trying to project her insecurities on to her innocent child. There is nothing wrong with being an average child, in fact children who lead a normal lifestyle are less likely to be messed up when they are older. (Hello- Drew Barrymore, Lindsay Lohan).
Does it even bother this callous woman that her child thinks that her mother, "likes pageants better than me"??

Shame on you Traci. People like you shouldn't have children.

Traci...you finally did it! All you did to get there was use your daughter to do it! Good job! You won a "Mother Daughter" pageant! By the looks of things...you were competing with your own child! Perfect! What do you think your daughter is going to think when she sees in this episode that you put yourself way above her. Good confidence builder! NOT! Living thru your child won't make you find inner peace. How ridiculous paying $5,00 for a "Mother Daughter" pageant. It's not Miss Universe. Listen to your daughter...SHE DOESN'T WANT TO DO IT! That was obvious when she said she didn't want practice. And geez...lighten up on the criticisims towards your daughter. It's not about you lady! Take her to the library and make others admire her for her brains! Both of my daughters (18 and 23) are drop dead beautiful, very intelligent, and incredible athletes. They are posed and well mannered...as their parents we are confident that we laid the foundation for them to be the amazing young women they are today. They live their own lives...they don't need me living it with them!

Jesus this show makes me sick and you are the WORST !!! Fake boobs, fake tan, fake lips, and fake HEART !!! I pity your daughter and her unfortunate tendency to be "average"...

What exactly should she do to fulfill your expectations...??? Win in a pageant that has more than, um...say 10 contestants...??? Learn how to do that weird leg-lift/stretch thing that has no use in the "real world"...??? Maybe spend five thousand dollars of YOUR college fund on the tackiest dress I've ever seen...???

I'm considering myself to be the luckiest woman in the world right now ~ my parents took me to museums, the symphony, the park, taught me to ride a bike, how to read, and how to behave like a little girl, not like a dolled-up prostitot piece of meat to be paraded in front of a bunch of fake, cheesy judges who are only in it for the money.

BTW ~ keep winning, honey !!! At 7 - 8 grand per pageant, winning $1,000.00 for each Grand Supreme Mega Elite Universal Super-Duper Crown, you'll be...

Bankrupt...???

Morally, you already are. You suck.

I am sorry, but I can't approve of you mothers and fathers allowing your little girls have hair, dress and sooooooooo much make up that they look like they are 25 years old just to win a Little Girl Beauty Pageant. The key words here are LITTLE GIRLS. And I really hate it when you moms and dads say on TV that you are doing this because your daughters really want it. I have seen the little girls crying, pitching fits not wanting to do this and I have seen one who didn't make it in the top 5 and she saw her mom run into a room crying because of it and this little girl told the camera she was alright with not winning, but her mom was not. Who is it here that wants to win? My main reason for being against these pageants and the moms and dads is: We have enough problems with sexual offenders in this world and you parents and pageant promoters are FEEDING these sexual offenders with these pageants. PLEASE STOP!!!! let these LITTLE GIRLS be LITTLE GIRLS. Stop trying to age them to the age of 25. And for the woman who said these pageants are just like have your child in sports. Well, I will DISAGREE with that. I don't dress my kids up to act and look an age they are not. Playing football they wear pads and helmets to protect them. Make up, fake hair, fake tanning and revealing dress doesn't protect a child. My husband and I have 3 teenagers. 2 sons and a daughter. When my daughter was growing up we were asked 100's of time to put her in modeling or pageants. We would not allow it because of all the reasons I have pointed out. If you want your daughters to be confident and be great speakers, then put them in Speech and Debate Classes. Parents wake up and smell the roses before it is tooooooo late for your daughters.

WOW! If anyone is jealous I would have to say its all of you that are posting this nasty stuff! Traci was simply pushing Alexa to do her best on stage. Why not? If she doesnt give it her all, she will only embarrass herself, then how would she feel? That little girl went to bed thinking she was really something special, why? because her mother pushed her and made her bring out something that even SHE probably didnt know she had inside. Alexa was probably happy being average because that was her comfort zone, she didnt have the self confidence to be anything but average. Well guess what, now she does, Alexa was shown that she can do anything with a little bit of work, determination, and motivation. Alexa knows shes got it going on now! My daughter is getting ready to do her first pageant this saturday and I hope she does half as good as Alexa, Maybe Traci can give me a few pointers on how to motivate my daughter to be her best!

Dear ophelia105b, It is obvious you don't have children or at least a daughter. If you did you may have a chance of understanding where I am coming from. We only put our daughter in something like singing, sports etc. that did not require her to change her appearance, etc. heavy make-up, fake hair, fake tan etc. If she has to change her outside appearance to win something or whatever she never did it and she is a perfectly bright and happy almost 16 year old and by the way she is a singer/songwriter. We will be going into the recording studio when she and her brother finish writing their 4th song. Believe it or not she- to this day doesn't wear ANY heavy make-up, fake hair, fake tan etc. She doesn't want to be someone she is not. I feel that the moms and dads putting their daughters in these BEAUTY PADGENTS are hurting them instead of trying to make them better kids. And whatever happens to the kids will be the parents fault. Do you remember what happened to Jon Benet Ramset? Her murderer has never been caught and that family never stoped blaming themselves for putting her in these padgents. This family and the cops think the killer could have been as a result of the padgents. The padgent moms and dads are taking the same risk of that happening to their child. Like I said before the sexual predators are out there and they won't stop till they get what they want. I don't want anything happening to these girls or any child, that is why I speak out. I don't watch Little Miss Perfect, I only watch it twice to see what happens. I hope you padgent moms and dads wake up and smell the roses before it is toooo late.

Traci.....
Well, you did say "I love being judged"! I have been watchig this show since it began. I enjoy it, event hough it would not be a preference hobby for me and my now grown Daughter. And, I've never mposted a message/comment here before...but after viewing the episodewith you and your Daughter I simply had to.
You are so out of touch and unaware of yourselfand behavior. Your Daughter is going to have soem serious self-esteem issues because of the demeaning way you treat her. You are so self-absorbed and narccisitic! Constantly telling Alexa that she is not doing something right and trying to morph her into your dreams is pathetic and poor, poor parenting. Why the heck are you ruining your Daughter's view of herself. She is going to have so much resentment towards you when she gets older and has a better understanding of what you put her through. SHAME ON YOU!!! Why don't you just go enter your own pagents and leave her alone. She clearly isn't you and while you think she's just average (did you really say that on national tv, or even utter those words aloud?) and you are so perfect, she is not diggin the whole experience. You want to be a beauty Queen...fine, do it...but stop abusing your daughter and trampling on her to obtain your own glory. I cannot believe how overly and inappropriatly confidant. You are "average" in my eyes, if even that my dear. And hey, I have nothing againt Botox (I use it too) or facials or tanning (even if you look orange!), but you are making your daughter look like a child prostitute!! And your $5K dress.....inappropriate for your age and body type...sorry, but sometimes the truth hurts. And finally, just curious...were you mortified when you saw that episode and a 'fly on the wall' view of how you came off as a attention starved middle aged woman???? I don't mean to sound so cruel...but you did put yourself out there for all to see, and sadly, that sometimes backfires.

I must say that these comments are a bit over-the-top. I have Little Miss Perfect set on my DVR to record all episodes and look forward to watching them. I have a son, age 11, and was curious about pageant life. So, I do enjoy watching the glitz the makeup the dresses and seeing what it is like to be part of the fun. Overall, the girls seem to love it. Everytime the episode re-airs with you and your daughter on it, I am a bit hesitant to watch it. Now, there is 'creative editing' to be done when you watch any reality show, and I understand that. However, why would WE TV put you in such a negative light and have Access Hollywood follow that drama? You would think that creative editing would have corrected the damage that WE TV did to you, but after watching Access Hollywood, it appears the same 'creative editing' was used. How sad. Are you truly like that? I would like to see a post from you Traci that truly defines what went wrong with the editing on both programs. I am a positive person and just want to hear the truth about how you should have been portrayed and how you are in real life. I read thru the posts out here and haven't really found anything more about you other than you got the botox for free, you love your daughter, you manage your money well, and you take pride in your appearance. What are we missing here? Why are there so many negative feedbacks about this episode? I truly didn't enjoy watching how they portrayed you on either program. I am not looking forward to seeing another repeat of your episode, unfortunately. I felt the need to type this today bcs I watched your episode this a.m. before coming to work and felt a little disturbed by your behaviour. Since you make an effort to comment on this message board, I am hoping you comment on mine. I love the glitz, I love the glamour, I didn't love your episode. I am hoping that you appear in Season 2 (if there is one) and they give the 'true' side of you. However, I don't know if coming back on the show will reprieve you. I hate to even say it, but it was truly distasteful. I am sorry to say. I hope you are in a positive light next time. As for your daughter, I have no comment. A child doesn't need to be judged by a message board; she didn't seem to want any of the attention anyway. You were 100% about getting the attention. Sorry, but everything they 'edited' you on and showed on TV was all about how you are better than your daughter and it is ok that you think your daughter is average. Why would anyone say that? What did they ask you to get you to say something like that? Thank you for reading. Please respond. This message was typed with a kind heart. Please don't mistake this message for anything other than that.

Traci Lin, I hope you are getting the message of most of the comments. I know it is hard to hear and that you don't know those of us who leave comments but when your own family says it is time to stop then I hope you are listening. It was very obvious that Alexa did not share your enthusiasm and only hoped to please you. I was concerned by the look of fear or uncertainty on her face. I sincerely hope that your relationship with your daughter is not permanently damaged. Also please be sure the other children are not feeling left out. Traci, you are a very attractive woman. Perhaps you can find fullfillment in aerobics competitions. I wish only the best for you and your family.

Give it up people you look like idiots!!!!!!!...danceing with your kids trying to look cool and impress people.... whats wrong with you bloggers that support this crap?!?!?!? and im so glad shelby didn't win cause she was terrible. this bull crap should be banned. like i said before its a pedophiles dream come true. not to mention your putting this on television and not careing that any pervert sitting at home can watch your child and gettin his rocks off... whats wrong with you people!?!!? READ THIS GET IT THROUGH YOUR THICK SKULLS THAT THIS IS NOT RIGHT!!