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Is Two Better than One?
When it comes to kids, is having two or more easier than having one?
By Alaina Sheer
I am one of six children. Coming from a big family I always envisioned myself having at least two children. Having just one, I thought, would be a serious infraction of that one child's rights to having a brother or sister - something I can't imagine having grown up without. Siblings, after all, live along with you after your parents are gone. But after my unexpected pregnancy and my expected divorce the plan of having one right after the other got tossed out of the window. Being a single mom has plenty of plus sides, especially when the alternative is being miserably married - as I was. With that said, one of the major downsides is the fact that 90% of the time it's just my son and I - and between juggling work, laundry, cleaning and overall child maintenance it leaves less time for quality play time than I would desire.
He is not neglected by any stretch of the imagination, but I hate that my son doesn't have a father or a sibling to play with when I'm busy. It also drives me a little insane because I can't even sit down, or do any of those household chores, without an interruption every five to ten minutes. I wish I were exaggerating but I'm not. Every five to ten minutes - like clock work. It seems there is no reprieve. I like being at his disposal though and running up to help him set a train track or to pull down a new piece of paper on his easel, because he deserves at least that much. My best friend, Mia, lives just down my block with her four-year-old daughter, Sydney, and this past week when Mia took off for a much needed vacation Sydney spent 36 hours with us. Not only did I get more than 10 minutes at a time to sit, focus and work on whatever was at hand, but I also heard Sydney teaching Benjamin the alphabet, singing him songs and showing him new games. I couldn't help but think - damn, this is SO much easier. I know it's clearly more expensive to have more than one. But isn't having two or more children easier for the entire family? As for what I plan to do about my little conundrum - obviously, there's not much I can do aside from finding a sperm donor - but that is out of the question. I'll just have to see what the future has in store but I think it's fair to say I definitely want to either have more children or find someone who already has a few.
By Alaina Sheer
I am one of six children. Coming from a big family I always envisioned myself having at least two children. Having just one, I thought, would be a serious infraction of that one child's rights to having a brother or sister - something I can't imagine having grown up without. Siblings, after all, live along with you after your parents are gone. But after my unexpected pregnancy and my expected divorce the plan of having one right after the other got tossed out of the window. Being a single mom has plenty of plus sides, especially when the alternative is being miserably married - as I was. With that said, one of the major downsides is the fact that 90% of the time it's just my son and I - and between juggling work, laundry, cleaning and overall child maintenance it leaves less time for quality play time than I would desire.
He is not neglected by any stretch of the imagination, but I hate that my son doesn't have a father or a sibling to play with when I'm busy. It also drives me a little insane because I can't even sit down, or do any of those household chores, without an interruption every five to ten minutes. I wish I were exaggerating but I'm not. Every five to ten minutes - like clock work. It seems there is no reprieve. I like being at his disposal though and running up to help him set a train track or to pull down a new piece of paper on his easel, because he deserves at least that much. My best friend, Mia, lives just down my block with her four-year-old daughter, Sydney, and this past week when Mia took off for a much needed vacation Sydney spent 36 hours with us. Not only did I get more than 10 minutes at a time to sit, focus and work on whatever was at hand, but I also heard Sydney teaching Benjamin the alphabet, singing him songs and showing him new games. I couldn't help but think - damn, this is SO much easier. I know it's clearly more expensive to have more than one. But isn't having two or more children easier for the entire family? As for what I plan to do about my little conundrum - obviously, there's not much I can do aside from finding a sperm donor - but that is out of the question. I'll just have to see what the future has in store but I think it's fair to say I definitely want to either have more children or find someone who already has a few.
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Two is great! I had four. When it comes to dealing with children, once there were three, I found it wasn't so bad going places with them as they got older. It is the "duckling theory." Adult in the lead with youngest to oldest following behind. There was one time I took my four, my sister's three, and four of their friends to a St. Louis Cardinal's baseball game, alone! We sat in the nosebleed section so it was quite a walk through the stadium. We all had a blast. Ages -- 7 to 14. Full size van required, lol.
i had two in one shot so i don't know if its easier maybe its more convenient. like u said they have each other to play with and to keep each other busy. but as a single mom of twins it was hard when they were newborns or couldn't walk. as they get older yes its easier. no pampers, milk, food or diaper bag or stroller to carry, lift or push along. i would rather carry one newborn and a diaper bag then two newborns, a double stroller and a huge diaper bag.. if u have the help yes its easier but if not u'll turn into super woman. lol