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What Will You Never Do?
My friend O' Solo Mama tagged me with this question and it's a good one.
By Alaina Sheer
I've been pondering it for days and here's my list in response to O'Solo Mama's list:
1. I will never use the fact that I raised my son solo against him. Never will he hear a guilt trip about "how hard" I had it raising him because while it is extremely challenging this was not his choice -- it was mine and his father's. When I found out I was pregnant some of my close family and friends, knowing the state of my marriage, actually suggested an abortion. I didn't even consider it for a moment. I was in love with him the minute I knew he was growing inside of me. I wanted my son, regardless of what my marital status would be. There is a reason he came into this world and I'm just so proud that I had a hand in bringing him here. He was meant to be.
2. I will never settle for a Mr. Good Enough. Yes, my son could use a more engaged father and yes, every mother should have the support of a good man behind her but I will not be settling just to have one around.
3. I will never have a public wedding again. If I do ever find a man we'll be saying our vows, after at least three years together, and it won't be in front of many people. It will be on an island somewhere with only a few of our closest friends and I'll probably be wearing a pink dress!
4. I will never stop dreaming. I can't help it. I dream a lot. I'm always dreaming of what's to come, whether it be in my day, my moment or in my life. I just can't imagine that anything will ever stop me from dreaming of what the future holds.
5. I will never have plastic surgery. I welcome my aging self... I actually love all of the gray hairs I've earned in the past few years. I'm only 30 but I have a huge gray streak in my jet black hair and I keep it there as a badge of honor. My wrinkles will be treated no differently.
What will you never do? Let me know... I just love this question.
By Alaina Sheer
I've been pondering it for days and here's my list in response to O'Solo Mama's list:
1. I will never use the fact that I raised my son solo against him. Never will he hear a guilt trip about "how hard" I had it raising him because while it is extremely challenging this was not his choice -- it was mine and his father's. When I found out I was pregnant some of my close family and friends, knowing the state of my marriage, actually suggested an abortion. I didn't even consider it for a moment. I was in love with him the minute I knew he was growing inside of me. I wanted my son, regardless of what my marital status would be. There is a reason he came into this world and I'm just so proud that I had a hand in bringing him here. He was meant to be.
2. I will never settle for a Mr. Good Enough. Yes, my son could use a more engaged father and yes, every mother should have the support of a good man behind her but I will not be settling just to have one around.
3. I will never have a public wedding again. If I do ever find a man we'll be saying our vows, after at least three years together, and it won't be in front of many people. It will be on an island somewhere with only a few of our closest friends and I'll probably be wearing a pink dress!
4. I will never stop dreaming. I can't help it. I dream a lot. I'm always dreaming of what's to come, whether it be in my day, my moment or in my life. I just can't imagine that anything will ever stop me from dreaming of what the future holds.
5. I will never have plastic surgery. I welcome my aging self... I actually love all of the gray hairs I've earned in the past few years. I'm only 30 but I have a huge gray streak in my jet black hair and I keep it there as a badge of honor. My wrinkles will be treated no differently.
What will you never do? Let me know... I just love this question.
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1. I will never choose a man over my children. As a teacher, I have seen far too many single moms choose their boyfriend or new husband over their own children. I have seen children ignored and abused by men while their moms stand mute. I have seen them shoved to the back while "new dad" gets all the attention and never does wrong. Before I got divorce, I was totally puzzled by this. Now that I am a single mom myself, I am even more baffled. This leads me to my next item...
2. I will never NEED a man. I would like to be in a relationship. I would even like to get married again. I would like my children to have a stepdad who is a wonderful role model and influence. But after 4 years on my own, I know I will never again feel like I need a man in my life to be happy.
3. I will never stop learning. I love teaching, partially because I am constantly learning in order to better myself and my students. I will always seek out new places and experiences, new voices and insights. There is far too much in this world for me to think I know "enough".
This is a good one!
This is a reply to O'Solo Mama
That is definately normal to feel that way!! and well i am a guy and well it will probably be a long time before i marry.
1. however i do feel that having both a male and a female parent like figure is important. I will not say that it is the properly way to raise a child...but i will say that it will fit the "norm" of our society because that child will have a hard time relating to men.... and men are the other half of the society!! And definately do not blame yourself!!
This is a reply to mcgeek
1. i will always give affection to both my wife and kids the same (however i am not married and i dont have kids, so i am just talking the talk... for now!!)
NOW MY TURN!!!
I always want to try some thing new
however:
1. i am straight and i do not plan to have a relationship with a man!!!
2. i dont ever want to hit a woman!!