I'm Not a Stuck Up Diva!

By Tedmenia Hardaway, aka Meme
All my life people have told me that when they first see me they instantly think I'm a stuck up diva because of the way I dress. I like to dress up and always look glam...that is just my personality. Also, I am in the beauty industry and believe that it's only right that I look the part. That's just me! When I go somewhere I always make sure I look my very best because it makes me feel good. Still, after people begin to talk to me and hang out with me they ALWAYS say, "You are cool and down to earth [...] We thought you were going to be a b*tch, but you're really a fun person to hang out with." And, once a friend, always a friend of mine. Some of them that I try to get rid of just won't go away because they love my company! Some judgments I make about others is the way they dress for certain occasions. For certain occasions people should go out of their way to look presentable, so for that reason I do judge people for the way they dress and wear their hair, especially if it's a special occasion and you just come looking like your going to the park or something, lol. I also find myself judging people when they have that attitude that everyone first judged me for having. That straight out b*tch attitude. And when people don't care about other people's feelings, then I judge them for being evil, disrespectful and having an 'I don't care' attitude. I guess subconsciously we all judge people for whatever reasons, because that's just human nature. When you first see someone you automatically have your own opinion of what you think that person is about, or their lifestyle, etc. So I'm sure there are other situations that I judge folks.

Well for me I think snap judgments can go 50/50. I have on numerous occasions made a snap decision about someone and have been 100% RIGHT, but I also know that on some I was wrong. People make snap judgments about people you don't really know - not anything, like what they do for a living, what type of situation they're going through at that moment. You might just meet someone at a bad time; we all have bad timing. I have a gift of discerning spirits so I'm usually pretty good on my first impression judgments, but like I said you just never know until you start talking to the person and you may see something totally different.

What I hope people would take from this show is:

1) For people to give others the benefit of the doubt. Don't be so quick to down someone or put yourself on a higher pedestal.
2) Most women usually have the same issues, whether its self esteem, integrity, life situations, etc. so we need to stick together as women, and help each other as opposed to talking about one another.