Marriage is Work...a LOT of Work
By Jenny MascheMany would agree with me that marriage is work, a LOT of work! There are times that are good and times that are bad, really bad. Bryan and I really didn't know how easy we had it before children. I believe the stress of finding out we were having sextuplets, to the hospitalization, to near death experience, and having six newborns and a TON of family around was more than enough stress on our marriage!
After we were settled back in Havasu there were a lot of emotions and lots of anger due to extreme exhaustion and extreme stress. We sought counseling with our pastor and his wife simply because we knew we needed help! It was a like an SOS..we were drowning here and we needed someone with fresh perspective, biblical guidance and someone who cares that we succeed as a couple!
Over the past two years we have met regularly with our pastor simply because we need it! We get so angry or hurt or start competing over who is doing more at home. We just need someone to sit down and help us to remember our priorities and someone who we consider very wise to give us wise counsel to work out our disagreements. It has saved us!!!
Along with counseling, Bryan and I try to do regular date nights, whether dinner or movies or just sitting at Hastings reading books. Without time alone together, without babies or family we become strangers and quickly start heading in separate directions. We believe in marriage, we believe in commitment. We believe it is SO DIFFICULT at times, but it is worth the fight! And lastly we believe in the blessings that follow our commitment to one another and our obedience to the Lord.
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I agree that "date nights" keep couples together! We do date nights at least once a month! It puts the youth back into our step so to speak :)
Love your show :)
Date nights are what keep my husband and I together! We get so caught up in our full-time jobs and parenting we forget about each other.....so it's nice to take some time for just "us".
Hold firm in your faith, no matter what the world says or does a Christian can always draw on the strength of the Lord. I love your show and thank you so much for the humor you bring to our home each week. It is nice to see a loving couple that respect each other and love their children. Family is a blessing and I'm proud that you include your extended family, so much. We look forward to many more years of your family adventures.
I love love love this show!!!! It is the only show I watch. The kids are so cute! the relationship between Bryan and Jenny is very loving and you can see the amount of respect that they have for one another. I hope there will be another season, because this show is like no other.
Love the show...but I giving you forewarning to give it up. It is going to ruin you marriage!!! You guys are so similar to Jon and Kate that it's ridiculous. I say stop while the getting good.
7/16/09
As I watched the show tonight I became really concerned about all that biting ! Every time it happened,which was quite often , I would grit my teeth ! That is not cute ! I tolerated a lot of stuff from my children, when they were very young , because of their age but biting wasn't one of them . How are Brian and Jenny going to feel when this happens to a child that isn't a sibling ? I can't imagine letting my little granddaughter play with these biters . I am not a spanker , I do believe in the time outs but that doesn't seem to stop the biting . Somebody needs to help these parents before these children go to daycare or school . I know the old fashion way worked for me and that was a tap on the month . I only had do it once and then there was no problem from then on . But I realize that is not allowed in this day and age . The Dr. in tonight's show said at this age there no reasoning with them and she is right . How difficult to have to raise your children where all the world can see and judge .
Other than that biting , I do enjoy watching the show .
You are wonderful, Jenny!
As a young girl who is still trying to determine God's will for her life your marriage is a re-assurance in a world of failing dreams. The divorce rates for Christians are extremely high and it is so nice to see a family admitting they really have to work at marriage. Thank you for your honesty and inspiration to younger christian women.
I love your show. I've spent much of the last few years in a similar situation. I worked full time nights and weekends while my husband worked days leaving me home with our 3 kids who are now 4 year old twins and a 3 year old. Having multiples and another just 16 months behind is hard enough but adding in the stresses of little sleep and an off-shift job is nearly impossible. You are extremely blessed to have the love and support from your extended family. Unfortunately my marriage did not last. My ex moved out about 6 months ago which has left me working my full-time nights/weekends job while friends and family volunteer to sleep over and the stresses of raising all 3 little ones on my own. I really respect your views on marriage, your ability to admit you need help, and the commitment you both have to each other and the family. I wish you the best of luck and would love to watch another season!
I just found your show recently because I stopped watching another show about sextuplets on another channel. They broke my heart. As much as I enjoy your show, you are entertainment for me. Please protect your marriage and your family.
You are a beautiful family and I really hope you do continue with what you need to do to keep your family in tact. I wouldn't want you to end up like some of the other family's on TV.
Everytime I watch your show, I get teary eyed. Jenny, you are a beautiful mother and you really make me want to be a better mother for my little guy! My baby is almost 2 and so as far as the last episode I saw when you had the child doctor on, I just wanted to tell you to check out 123 Magic. I had a friend suggest that for me and it really does work and it is super!!! easy. I think it would help you soooo much with all those babies. Best of luck and just stay humble.
I love the show! I love your family!I love your kids! I saw your family document when you were still pregnant. And wow! It is great to see them in WE TV and watch them grow up. I love the family support around you. Its just a great family atmosphere. And great to watch. It makes my day when I watch after a long day at work. I hope your family love will keep growing strong! All the blessings. Your such a loving wife and mother. And your husband is just so sweet and fun to watch trying his best in being the best dad. I'm about to be a mommy.. its a learning experience to watch your show. Thanks.
Things are a great challenge right now, but I promise when the kids are older you'll enjoy each other again. It's hard to control chaos and remain civil to each other. I wish I had a magic wand for you. Please don't turn into the bickersons like other couples I know. lol Umm Jenny no fair looking so fabulous and beautiful after having 6 babies!! Bryan I know they are fussing about your weight, but when you have little ones running around and you work all day it's almost impossible to be buff!! Just relax and do your best to eat right for Jenny & the babies.
Please be good to each other, it's not about committment, but love and respect.
Jenny has more patience than I do with 2 children, she inspires me to be a better mom. Bryan really needs to grow up, I have NEVER seen a man whine so much, I told hubby it is a shame Jenny couldn't have met Jon 10 yrs ago & then Bryan & Kate could have fabulously clean kids!! But seriously I love the show & wish the best for this special family.
Jenny I think your an amazing mom. I cannot
imagine having so many children and handling it the way you do. I have two children and don't have half the patience that you have! You also seem
to have as much patience with your husband Bryan. It just seemed a little odd that he would make such a big deal about you not wearing your
wedding ring. I thought he was kidding but when he kept going on and on about it just seemed like he has some insecurity issues. Also, I think next time Bryan wants to order cheesecake then he should eat it without forcing it on you. He felt guilty about eating it, so let's force you to eat it and make you feel bad as well, even though he knew
you were running a marathon! I think that those
are issues that could easily get much bigger, so
it's something that he really needs to work on.
Brian & Jenny,
I commend you! As a marriage and family counselor, I am glad that you are taking the steps to keep your relationship alive! I watch your show weekly and my husband and I just laugh at how much we are alike! During your episode where you talked about who does what, Brian was making comments about diaper-duty and I looked at my husband and said"Don't get any ideas!" Even that you met is the same! I think what is really important and this might be due to how you both met is your communication skills, which are great! I love seeing how you relate to each other without yelling, name calling and etc., especially with the stress that you are under raising multiples!
You are both doing a great job, keep it up and thank you, thank you, thank you for not being afraid to talk about and live out your faith! It is refreshing!
Matthew 7:11
I love your show! I have one son that is the same age as your sweet babies, and I am in awe of you being the great parents that you are.
I think it's wonderful that you have the insight and dedication to put your marriage and family first.
We enjoy watching your show and laughing at all the funny things toddlers do. We can relate a bit to your life...on a smaller scale, of course!
Take care.
I just found your show. I was an avid fan of Jon and Kate plus 8 but I am so disappointed with them. Your family is so fun to watch and you seem to speak to each other with respect. Please continue to invest in your relationship. (***If anyone posting on this board is from Brian and Jenny's church: Why don't you try to coordinate 2 people each week to agree to babysit on a designated night to allow the parents to reconnect on an ongoing basis so that it would not be a drain on their extended family? What a blessing that would be!) In the meantime, thank you for letting us into your home. You seem like a nice family and you seem to appreciate your support system. Please continue in this vein and I believe God will continue to bless you.
Ugh i cant imagine with 6 it is REALLY hard. I have twins, and since they were born me and my husband have worked really hard to make sure our relationship stays intact!
I think you guys are great (with God's help) and the Hayes family are too. You are representing Christianity to a lot of people (but unlike J&K you are doing a good job)
Hang in there and good for you for realizing you need help (not just more "things"), and for accepting it
I really enjoy the show. I know that there are lots of people out there with their own opinions and advice about how you two should or shouldn't keep doing the show and getting rich and blah, blah, blah; however, I think it speaks in volumes the fact that you had the babies dedicated to the Lord at your family church. I look at your show as an inspiration, as in..you aren't doing what another couple and their children are doing, you are your own family thing. Sometimes God uses us in various ways to be examples, so perhaps this is your ministry or living testimony. My husband and I went through the whole "roller coaster" ride of not being able to have children for 8 1/2 years...now I have 16 month old twin daughters and every time I look at them I am reminded of what _IS_ possible. Anyway, I enjoy the show and I look forward to the next season.
It is so much fun to see you with all your kids. I loved your choice in Halloween costumes last year and would like to copy you with our little ones. Do you have the info on them that you can share? Thanks so much.
Jenny,
From your special to your series, I have enjoyed seeing your family on TV. I live in Yavapai County, so we're really not that far apart. I have been to Kingman and Havasu, and was excited to see some of the places you've been with Bryan and the gorgeous kids! I said to my husband not too long ago, "Hey, they're in Williams!" and, "Look! That's the zoo you went to with your family a few years ago!" Keep loving one another, and if you ever think of Brian and Luke as your seventh and eighth children, it's certainly OK-I think of my husband and doggie as my third and fourth. Perhaps I will one day run into you in Yavapai County. God bless you, your marriage, and the kids (the fur-child also!).
Love your show. why don't they show it more? hope they did. God bless you and your love ones.
I have been looking for this show, must have missed it during the last few weeks. Glad to see it back on, and hope it will be renewed. Jenny and Bryan are fun to watch and I enjoy their honesty with life in general. I hope they continue to have their faith in God and that they will continue on as a loving, caring family. Great show!
I really like your show, and the realness of your show, The family closeness is by far so good to see these days, Jenny you are so real and such a good mom, You arent like the other show of (8) that is by far nothing as good and real as yours, and you dont put anyone down, or belittle anyone, you at least admit you have help..and you all including your parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles,
brothers, sisters, and and the friends you all have, you are truly blessed and a inspiration to many stay at home moms and working moms, JUST SO REAL THAT IS WHAT MAKES YOUR AND BRYAN SHOW GREAT.