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Dear Troy i have a friend that is in desperate need to find the comfort and closer from the abscence of his birth mother. Im looking for a way to know where she is with out meeting her just yet knowing if she is alive and doing well for herself. His adoptive parents knowonly the last name and all of our searches have come up empty handed. Please help me help my friend feel some comfort after 21 years of his life.

Thank you for this chance I hope you can help.

From Lexy

Hi I am still looking for my husbands birth parents/siblings. He was born dec 14 1957 at drs hospital in coral gables florida. His adopted parents were wonderful but are now deceased. A few years ago a young lady named sarah katz contacted us through another adoption site stating she thought she was my husbands half sister. same father different mother. she said his name was dominic or nick irrera from ny and birth mothers name was possibly janie campbell. dominic supposedly married someone else possible caroline or carolyn on the day of my husbands birth but have been since divorced in 1958. Sarah never contacted us again but stated she lived in indiana or illinois. birth parents years of birth were 1932 and 1935. please if you could help us in any way we would certainly appreciate it as we have children and would like to have medical information or heritage info. thank you in advance. Birth parents were from a n.e state according to non id info ny, nj, wv or pa.

Dear Troy and Katie,
Hi my name is Shona, I am 55yrs old, my dad died last month, mom died in Feb 2006. I'll get to my request first, then fill you in on some background. I like many others, am searching for my bio dad.
He was my dads CO in the Army, stationed at Fort Ord, CA in 1953. He was a 1st Lt and that's all I know. I've heard his was fromPA but relatives left that know stuff are mid to late 80's and really don't remember much. I guess mom and Pete were engaged, they went to Philly for awhile, mom got mad, went back to Santa Cruz, CA to be with her parents. Somewhere along this she discovered she was pg w/me. And I guess dad stepped up and married her, she was 18 or 19. I loved daddy with all my heart, it broke when he drove away when I was about12, didn't see him again until I married for first time in 1974. During this time he married again and while I was at my mother parents farm in Idaho, his now ex wife called me and told me dad not bio dad. I think I was about 10yrs old, so I questioned everyone, mom had 13 brothers and sisters. Well, after I told everyone that I had pushed the issue, dad got mad and told my younger sister and she called me. That's when I found out about Pete. Oh name is Pete P Kondracki, served as 1st LT US Amry, Fort Ord, CA 1953, year I was born. This has really messed with my head, my P/t person said I can't fix whats wrong with me health wise until I have all the pieces!! I know you only do one Angel show a week and I'm not too proud to beg, so I am, PLEASE.Please Help me!! To tell you a bit about how I "fit in", I didn't. Kids at school used to ask if I hd been switched at birth, I was so different from the other 3. I've never "fit in", the other 3 are really bonded with each other, I hadn'[t spoken to the oldest sister since mom died, she called to say dad was dying but wouldn' t leave us alone to talk when I drove from Clackamas, OR (by Ptld) to Grants Pass, S.Oregon My first husband burnt out house to the ground, suffered a total loss, all pics, even birth pics for the 2 kids. So a really elderly aunt and uncle too a bunch of photos out of their albums, from 1950 on.....I left them w/mom when she was sick as I was due to come back in two wks, she died as I was walking out my door to get to her. oldest sister and brother too all pics, all new or good clothes and shoes and had cleaned out her room of all but icky stuff(clothes) I was told I could have her old clothes, asked about the other stuff, brother and his wife started in on me, yelling what did you take inventory?? No, mom was convinced they were stealing from her so make me echk ALL every day. So, old clothes from mom, asked about dad, I don't even get an old best!! After all I am not really his! Neither is the oldest but they had a strange close relationship and no I don't mean a sexual one just super close and butted the other 3 out of the way!! Dad told me I looked just like Pete, that was "part of the problem) He looked at me and saw Pete, so did mom, result was I was shipped to my grandparents (moms side)e every summer for all summer, whe I didn't want to go one yr, musti've been 17 I was told I had no choice, there was no way she was keeping me for the summer! My own mom, never called or wrote either for the whole 3 months. I grew up dirt poor, yes we did the cardboard in the shoe and I can'T imagine what he did to deserve never being there for me.You would think she would have wanted something better for her kids! I have multiple heatlh problems that might be explains by the other side (paternal) Dad said he always felt bad by the way she treated Pete. But dad never let me get close so I guess I really am looking for the father fiigure!! Well, I'll close this now hopefully we'll be talking soon. Again, Please HELP ME
Both set of grandparents for the kids were never there for them, I would like them to be wanted by others...please call me or email! God Bless you for what yoiu do!
Ciao, Shona

Dear Katie,
I am checking everyday here to see if i get a response or any commit from someone anyone. Just a little hope is all i need. Some days are harder then others. It's been 30 years that i have been looking. I am sure there are others like me looking this long and probably longer.But at this point in my life i am feeling hopeless. Ok thanks for listening i'll keep trying. I thank you and your son Troy for helping people like us find our family's.I pray for you everyday.
Linda

Dear Troy & Katie-
I don't know if you will be able to help my husband, but I thought I would give this a try. My husband was adopted in 1974 near Toledo, Ohio. We do not have any information on the birth mom, we just know that she gave my husband up for adoption right after he was born. His birthday is 8/30/74. Unfortunately, my husband was born during a time when records about the birth parents were sealed and he can not access any information unless the mom or dad want to contact him. Any help would be appreciated.

Dear Troy and Katie,
I find what you do to help families find each other so wonderful! There are so many reasons out there why families become seperated. Unfortunately, I also have one of those stories. My birth father is a "dead beat dad". I know who he is and where he is, but that's not who I'm looking for. I'm looking for my half-sister and half-brother, not only for me, but for my paternal grandmother as well. About a decade ago, my father, the "dead beat dad" announced that he was NOT the father of my half siblings, but 99.99999% of what he says is a complete and utter lie. I have never met my half-siblings eventhough all three of us are in our mid-to-late 20's. Over the past year my paternal grandmother and I have discussed my half-siblings, whom she hasn't seen or communicated with since they were just babies. I would like to ask for your help, not just for me, but for my grandmother, my half siblings and my 9 year old son as well. My son has no natural aunts or uncles, as his father is an only child as well. I would really appreciate any help that you could give me.

Dear Troy and Katie,
My name is Lynette Dawn Hatch, I much prefer being called Dawn. I am not even sure you can help me, but my doctor suggested I might want to give it a try. So here I am, my mom got pregnant by a married man, from what I understand from her sister it was a summer fling while he was in Messena Ny working on the St Lawerence Seaway. I have never met this man or truthfully had no reason too, he knew about me and still chose not to get to know me all these years. But now at the suggestion of my Doctor I might need to find him or his family. 10 years ago I was told I have Lupus, within the last three years the lupus started attacking my kidneys. November 2007 I went into kidney failure and was in ICU for a week. It is a every day battle to keep my lupus in any kind of a remission. As of now I am not in one, but we are hoping to try a low dose chemo to slow the lupus down or put me into a remission. If the lupus continues to attack my kidneys I will most likely need a kidney transplant. My son and daughter do not match me, my granddaughter does but she has numberous health issues of her own so I could never ask anything like this of her. Though I know she would happily hand one of hers over to me.
I was told his name is Lynn Albert Lacey, his name is on my birth certificate that my aunt was able to get for me. My mom passed away in 1979 so getting any more information from her is not going to happen. I was told he lived in New York possible Rochester but that is back when I was born in 1956. I was also told he was married and had 4 children of his own with his wife, again not sure if this is correct.
I realize he could possibly be deceased like my mom but somehow I have to find out just in case the low dose chemo does not work and the lupus continues to attack my kidneys. I also know there is a good chance his family may not want anything to do with me and I could be once again beating my head against a brick wall, I just do not know where to turn.
Troy, Katie, you two are my only hope right now. So please will you consider helping me.

dear Troy & Katie,

I want to say how grateful that you raised such a wonderful man like your son, I have had the chance to meet him before many many years ago while working in Office depot in fort myers, florida. I now to you begging for help! My name is Melissa and I am 35 and have been trying to locate my half brother billy balder, he would be 25 or so, and the last time i saw or heard from him was xmas of 93. He is my father's son, and my father left my mom when i was 3 months old, in July of 93 is when i finally meet him and my brother. My father and step mom stopped talking or returning phone calls to me right after , dec 25th 1993 was the last time i talked to him. I tried to contact them for 16 yrs, but never did a card or letter ever get returned. then in 2003 I helped my mom get back child support from my dad since he never paid her, i did it for her, she did it for me to help with my medical bills, i am disabled. I beg you please help me find my brother, I have a feeling that my dad & step mom never gave him the cards, letters and presents, or let him know i called.. even now i still called and left a message like i have for 16 yrs to wish them a happy new year, I don't care that my dad doesn't want to know me, know his grandson's ! but i its my brother, he is the last hole in my heart and nothing can fill that emptiness, please help me find him..His name is Billy (william balder) of Wanatah, In, my dad is Jerry Balder.. all i get is information about my dad nothing of him.. please help me,,, sincerely, your fellow floridan Melissa Polley

I LOVE THE LOCATER .. i cry every single time it makes me appreciate my family and friends. i want to thank your son for everything he does for people he is a very special person.

I need to find my birth father I'm growing up and I desperatly need him. My step-dad is never around, my birth mom is ok but any day know i could get lets just say it could be bad and I want to meet him b4 I die. I understand he's a junkie and probably dead but i need to find him. Just to know what happened my information is weak all i know is he has blonde hair, green eyes, and his name is Scott. PLEASE HELP ME!!

Hello Troy and Katie! Let me start off by saying what you and your team does is amazing and so powerful. And yet, so selfless. My name is Rochelle . I am 22 years old. I saw your advertisements about finding people are are disconnected for whatever reason. I stared crying before the intro on Troy's video even hit 2 seconds. Every time I see it on WE TV, I have a strong urge to contact you and I finally have. Everyday I think about my biological parents and where they are today if they remain alive. I recently found out that there were (are) extreme alcoholics and I fear the worst about their where-abouts. Me and my biological sister were separated when I was 8 weeks old due to them not "wanting us" and incapable of taking care of us. I have been trying to find them every chance I get. I even drove to Tennessee (from Chicago) trying to locate them in many different libraries archives. Obviously I have had no luck. There are so many questions I have to ask them. My biological sister has had many resentments and no way to handle what has gone on in the past and takes it out on whomever is close to her. She was in and out of juvenile detention homes and she is now missing. I just want to end this turmoil about them and hopefully find the answers to thousands of questions.
To give a little bit more of a back-round on this...the wonderful woman and her husband that saved us actually ended up almost adopting us, but because of financial reasons, it never happened. She is now a very powerful Family Law attorney in Tennessee. I have tried asking her many questions, but she simply does not have the answers for me. She told me to write to Nashville and get my records that way, but it takes too long, and I don't know how much time I have left to find them. The family that has adopted us is a wonderful, strong family. To me, I feel like something is missing.
A year ago on November 16th, I was diagnosed with Lupus, and it drove me even further to find out who my birth parents are. I have a nineteen month old, and I would like the answers I know she is going to ask as she gets older. I can't go on any longer not knowing "why", "how", or whatever the question is. I just hope there is something Troy can do for me. I want to be able to put this part of me in the past and be able to move on instead of dwelling in the past of "what would or could" have been. I am just letting you know...that i will probably be writing a lot until I get a response. I have tried so many other agencies, talk shows and no one can seem to help. Thanks for reading this!

hi troy,
my name is madison and im 13 years old. i know that you may not reply to me personally, but as long as someone does, i will be happy. i have only met my father once, and it wasnt really like meeting him at all. i was in court with my mom on something to do with child support about a year ago. i was very very eager and happy that i was going to see the man who i could finally call my dad. but when i saw him, he didnt even look at me. it broke my heart, but that didnt stop my curiousity and determination to try and put him into my life. i think about it everyday and even find myself crying over it. i would love more than anything to have the chance to know who my father is. even if he doesnt feel the same way, i would like to try. if it doesnt work out, at least i could finally move on and not wonder about him anymore. so if you can, please help me meet my dad.
thank you

Dear Troy and Katie, PLEASE READ I AM DESPERATE

My 31 year old boyfriend Mitch's health has declined so rapidly the past year and not having a family medical history (because he was adopted) has made receiving a proper diagnosis nearly impossible. Please please help him. I am getting scared for him because he has been to SO many doctors the past few years and his case is so complex. It breaks my heart to literally watch him deteriorate before my eyes. I honestly believe he must have something rare, and if he had a family medical history, it would unlock the mystery behind his illness. I am desperate for him to finally find his biological parents. And I know he is too, but he has given up his search because of how difficult it has become.

Mitch attempted a few times to look for his biological mother/parents. He even started a local support group for adoptees. (The Long Island Adoptees Meetup Group: http://www.meetup.com/liadoptees/ ). But every time he searches, he hits a roadblock because of events that occurred after he was born. Plus the sicker he becomes, the more difficult it is for him to have the energy to search. I thought when he started the support group, he would be on his way to finding his biological parents, maybe hearing about resources from other adoptees who were also searching, but it has been difficult for him to even hold meetings because of how ill he has gotten :(

Mitchell Craig Grafstein was born January 22, 1977, and was believed to be adopted in New Jersey. He was raised in Dix Hills, New York (Long Island) and still lives there. Family members won't tell him details, but it is to his understanding that he was born in New Jersey and that he was very ill as a baby. He was taken all along the Eastern seaboard to different hospitals and then did not get to go home for several months after he was born. All throughout his childhood he had several health problems arise, and unfortunately his adopted parents did not get him the proper medical care. This part of his story I can not get into, but he can share details with you if he feels comfortable. But basically because of how his parents handled these things, (or neglected to handle these things) they even today will not accept responsibility for their actions. And they are absolutely no help when Mitch has asked them for information to find his birth parents. They will not give him his birth certificate. Mitch realizes his parents would not be happy if he made contact with his biological parents, but it honestly doesn't matter. Not only is this important for his health and obtaining a medical history, but it is important for his soul. It amazes me that his adopted parents wouldn't want him to at least get a family medical history, seeing how sick he has become. But again, this is just another instance where they are failing him as parents.

Mitch and I have watched your show together. We discussed all the issues and feelings that arise when adoptees go throughout life missing a huge part of themselves. When your show first aired I told him he should write to you, but he is a procrastinator, so I decided to write to you for him :) I know he wants to know where he comes from, who made him the person he is. He is SO different from his adopted family, he often describes it as feeling like an alien. We often say how amazing it would be if there was this whole other family out there of people just like him. I know he feels the empty void inside from not knowing where he came from. He deserves to have this void filled. He deserves to finally be able to put the puzzle pieces together and to feel like a whole person. If there are family members out there, he deserves to know them.

Mitch is the most caring individual I have ever met. He always puts everyone else first, often neglecting himself in the process. For once, he deserves to be the one taken care of, not the other way around. Please help him. Not only for the medical reasons, but for so many other reasons that I could not even begin to attempt to write about in a short letter. I Love Mitch so much and all I want is two things for him: to be HEALTHY and to be HAPPY.

I would be forever grateful if you could help him. Thank you.

p.s. I can't help but wonder how many other adoptees are effected by not having their family medical history. Even if they do not want to have contact with their biological family, shouldn't adoptees at least have the right to medical information? Is this an issue you often come across when helping people?

Please email me and I will give you the complete contact info.

Sincerely~
Elissa Feinberg
solipsist22@yahoo.com

Hello there my is Julia i am looking for my nephews they are brothers. They are my middle sister kids for one reason are another she really have little to do with them.But i am the youngest sister. I want to find my nephews. I don't want them to think their family don't want them. Because that is not way true. We love them and i am looking to find them
I only know where one my nephew is located I think i haven't heard from him in years. His name Albert Don Robinson he is in thirty his date of 9/29/1974 I think
If u can help me with anything i would me very grateful
His other brother is Douglas Lavell Moore I don't know his birthday ..............If you can help me please do
thanks Julia Fields

Hello there Katie and Troy!!!! Wow!! What an honor!!! Here we go....My name is Marta Rosalia Anderson Reyes, I was given up for adoption from birth in Santa Maria, CA. Born Sept. 4th, 1964, since age 7 I knew I was special. Yes, I found out I was an adoptee. 12 yrs ago I posed as a lawyer at the Santa Barbara Superior Court house and retained my 16 page Adoption court paperwork! I was desperate!! So my bio mom is Paula Duran de la Roche, bio dad is Jesus Gonzalez, and on my court papers from the S.B. Welfare Dept. it states that "in lieu to "Arturo Torres Gomez" (presumed father)! Well like any adoptee, I first searched for my bio mom, and 1 yr ago today I located her here in Anaheim, CA. She lives with her sister "Rosie" and her husband "Albert". Rosie and Albert have 3 children together.. Sandra, Bert, and Linda. Here is where it gets twisted...Paula and Albert have 3 children together also!...Allen, Judy, and Ronald. I was born between Judy and Ronnie. No one even knew about me untill I started searching and calling! So far Ronnie and Bert know about me because I have spoken to them on the phone and Ronnie I have enjoyed the company of him comming over to meet me! Bert is a Hollywood director and I have been in contact with him by phone and email! Linda was the first person I contacted and she has made it a point to try to keep me a 43 yr. old secret because of Paula's wishes. Judy has M.S. and Allen has passed on in 1997 from a trucking accident. Sandra, lives up in Northern California and doesn't really keep in touch with the family from what Ronnie tells me. The family has had nothing but lies and secrets told to them..one thing is that all 6 kids were lied to and thought that Rosie was their mom and Aunt Paula was just that an Aunt. Unitll they got older in their teens and found out the horrible truth! Even back in Durango, MX till this day they think this! No they are not Mormon. Catholic! Then Linda and Allen grew up thinking they were twins! Because both sisters had them same yr! So they told them they were twins! Untill of course they were old enough to figure it out!
When I spoke to Bert he asked my what was the name of my father on my birth certificate and told him. He shocked me when he told me that 'Jesus Gonzalez" was also "Allens" bio father and not his father "Albert". Right before Allens accident he got a copy of his birth certificate and it stated that indeed his father was ....Mine!!! My only biological "full fledge brother" and I will never get to know him or anything! I called Ronnie with the news and he wouldn't believe it because he swears that his Dad is Allens dad. I was so happy to find another "piece" about me that I didn,t think of how devastated Ronnie would be. And now I feel a little distant from him because of that. Well staff at "The Locator" and Mr. Dunn I am not getting anywhere with my Bio Mom because she does not want to meet me and she is like an hour away from me!! I would love to seek my and Allens bio father "Jesus" who at the time of my birth was 24 yrs old. Bert told me that Allen was on his way to search for Jesus and then he was killed on the 101. I need to do this for him first then me!! I want him to be able to cross over to the other side if he left this unfinished business behind!! I love my only brother that I now think about every day. I need your help please!! I mean how in the world will I ever find our father!! If it's not too much I would like to find my "Presumed Father" as well! Since my mother doesn't want her 44 yr. old secret to come out. I don't need the emotional pain that she has instilled in me after all my life I was told that she loved me enough to give me up! It doesnt make any sense at all!! On my case I was named "Baby Girl Gonzalez" ....my real birth name!! I think that this is quite a story and I am sure there are more skeletons in Paulas closet but I will not quit untill I find my heart in some one elses......my father! I would love to be considered for the "Angle Case" your cast seeks! You are my only answer to my search! I have done just about all I can do.....Will you help me?
Thank You for Listening! and God Bless You all for All You Do!!
Marta Anderson aka: Baby Girl Gonzalez

Dear Troy and Katie,
My name is Debra, I'm 39 years old and an adoptee. 16 1/2 years ago, I was living in Lewiston, ME and had an odd encounter. I had just started an adoption search when a neighbor came by the house. He asked what I was doing so I filled him and in and gave him details that I had (very few). Imagine my surprise when he told me his girlfriend's last name was the same as my birth surname and that we resembled eachother. Our surname is very common in that part of the state so I took it with a grain of salt. I met his girlfriend, Wanda, who told me her mother had in fact given more than one child. She told me her mothers name as well as her two sisters names. I never did confirm if she was my sister and shortly thereafter I moved out of state and we lost contact. Fast forward to last year, 2007, I am surfing MySpace when I recieve an email from a woman I did not know. I start to read it, she gives me her name and where she lives and that she too is an adult adoptee. My heart began to race, and then my breath was caught when she revealed her birth mothers name.....it was WANDA'S mothers name! Laurie called me a couple of hours later as I had given her my phone number after reading her email. It turned out we ARE sisters and I had not three sisters (Wanda, Wendy and Michelle the three names I carried in my heart all these years but two more as well!) Here is the heart breaking part....when I met Wanda she spoke to me of a brother who was also relinquished but as she had been told had died as a young child (about 2 or 3), Laurie gives me the same story but this time I am told he was a teenager. Finally, a few months later, our sister Lynn the oldest of the three that were relinquished, found her adoption papers and it listed that our brother, Brian, had been adopted on April 1, 1970, our birthmother (who the stories of his death originated from) story was untrue!!!! We are still desperately seeking our brother. Just knowing he is out there has given us hope that we can finally reunite all 7 siblings. His birthdate is January 8, 1970, in Lewiston, Maine (we got this from Lynn's paperwork) and he was placed with a foster family by the name of Holbrook and was adopted as I said April 1, 1970 in Bangor, Maine. It would mean the world to all of us, Michelle, Lynn, Laurie, Wanda, Wendy and I to find our brother and have that one piece we have been missing all these years. Any help would be wonderful as our PI has hit one dead end after another and my sister Laurie, who was the one who started this search is dealing with a personal crisis in her own life right now and cant possiblly focus on finding anyone right now. My adoptive parents had the chance to take Brian when they finalized my adoption but couldnt afford to take on another child at that time....I missed out on him twice already in my life, I dont want to miss another.
Debra

Dear Troy & Katie,
My name is Judy and I am trying to help my 80 yr. old aunt find 3 of her biological children. In 1950 in Fauquier Co., VA she was pregnant with her 4th child and social services came and told her she needed to have prenatal checkup instead they took her to prison (I believe b/c she wasn't married to the father b/c he had another family) that area of the country was ruled with an iron fist at that time, nevertheless the oldest child @ 6 yrs old was put in foster care and the 2 smallest ones (4 & 6 yrs old) were adopted out. I have the case #s of the adopted children and I also have a copy of a marriage license of the oldest child when she turned 18. I have been searching for the last 17 yrs (b/c it was my mother's dying wish that I help her sister find her kids) and keep running into brick walls. My aunt has a medical condition that is inherited b/c her brother has the same thing and those children are entitled to knowing the truth. Time is of the essence b/c my aunt is not getting any younger. I am not beneath begging for help, would you please help.

Dear Troy and Kate
I was so excited to hear about your show from a co-worker.I often talk to my co-workers, freinds, and family about my mother. I haven't seen her of heard from her since I was almost 9yrs. old that was in 1973. One weekend my sisters and brothers and myself were having a visit with our dad and furture step mother and never seen my mother again. This has been so hard for me not knowing if the person I see at the mall, shopping or on vacation could be her. I have tried to find her on my own and thruogh one agency years ago but did't get anywhere. I spent time and money and alot of tears looking for her. Once I called a daytime talk show I watch on TV they were doing a show on mothers looking for daughters and daughters looking for mothers and I didn't even get a call or letter to let me know that they couldn't help and that was last straw, I had to stop my search . Although I still look at people and wonder I had a family to take care of and that my son in in college I can continue. I need all the help I can get. I miss her so much.Her name is Jeannette A. Couture last time I saw her was in South boston Ma.1973.
can anyone help
sincerely
Pamela coveney

I WANT TO KNOW WHO WON THE CONTEST. THEY SAID IT WOULD BE POSTED BY NOV 2

Hi Troy and Katie
I just want you to know that I am so excited about this show. It has opened my eyes to the possibility to finding my sister someday.
She and I have the same father but different mothers. Here mother is still alive and would like to see her and my mother is gone. Also our father is gone and I just wish she would come home so I that I could meet my sister.
The last time I remember my sister is when I was about 4 years old and we were at our grandmothers house in Grand Bay AL. I know that shortly after that she was adopted in Citronelle, AL and grew up there.
She was borned exactly 10 years before I was and that means that she was borned in 1950 and I was borned 10-21-60. I have seen a picture of her and we could have been twins. Funny to see a picture of someone and know that she is your sister and only have a few memories of her.
Someday I want her to know that I have been searching for her for about 10 years now. I have her birthday and her last name that I know she had after she got married. And I also know that she has a daughter with the name of Candy.
I am 48 years olds now and just want to get to know my sister and let her know that I think about her alot. She is part of me that is missing.