If Ever There Was A Gentle Giant
This episode is one for "the guys" in your life because it contains men being men...until life comes full circle. At that moment--and you'll know the second it happens--these "men" get an opportunity to let their hearts take center stage as some extraordinary healing occurs. I always say that real men cry, unhappy men don't. See if I'm right as you watch this one unfold.Following that episode, is another and the FINAL EPISODE OF SEASON TWO. (I can't believe how fast season two went by!) In this episode, you will see why I love to say, "birthmothers are heroes in my eyes." Cindy makes a very deliberate decision to give her a shot at a two parent home despite the painful process she would have to endure. Wait until you see how this one turns out! :-o !!
IT'S NOT OVER!!
My team and I will continue to be working on new cases, reading your posts for help (www.TroyTheLocator.com) and sneaking in and out of towns all across America granting reunion wishes! My next stop may be your town or neighborhood! I will also continue to Twitter all summer long and will even be giving away some cool Locator hats, shirts, etc. to those who keep a close eye on my Tweets! (I want to see how good you are at locating, so watch for clues coming in my summertime tweets!!)
Let me take a second here to tell you thank you so much for ALL you have done to help me and my team this season. You spread the word far and wide about the show, you blogged everywhere about The Locator, you told millions of people to tune in through your emails and tweets, YOU made it possible so I could grant a lot more reunion wishes than I ever would have imagined. THANK YOU! You are part of The Locator team and I hope you stay close by as we prepare for the next season of The Locator! (God willing)
Keep watching this blog and be SURE to loop as many people as you can into our Twitter stream so we can continue to build this little Locator family we have going strong.
Now go give one last email blast to all you know to tune in to the season finale TONIGHT!!!!
Locate ya later, :-)
Troy Dunn
"The Locator"
p.s. Have a memorable summer with your families! Make time for laughter!
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my mom what to find your brother and my uncle terry johes and we hhave not seen him seens he was small i what to know how he doing and i love your show u help people who needs help.we need your help finding my uncle terry johes.please. thx michelle neiwerth,
David and WVU:
Thanks you for such tender and heartfelt sharing. It has been 4 years since Jenn felt the need to escape to another state. All we could hold onto those first months was the hope that she would find her way back.
Although ours was a straight out adoption, and not burdened with "step" issues, we struggled to find out how we could blend.
In the end, we made peace and didn't ask Jenn to choose who she could or would love. Now, if I don't get a phone call every other day, I call her. We skype at least once a week so that our grandson knows us.
Love really does outlast the pain. I had to overcome the feeling of betrayal and embrace an expanded view of family. By the way, it was much easier as a romantic thought when she was a baby!
Let me be the first to say that my wife and I are not perfect but any mistakes made were made out of love for our daughter. Our daughter didn't need to have a "Locator" find her father. We knew where he was and we have no problem with a "relationship" with her "biological" father. However, We didn't feel that it was our responsibilty to call him and initiate a realationship that he has ignored for so many years.
A television program on the event takes it to another level and an assault on the Mother with lies from the "bio" father and teenage daughter is an all together different thing that I doubt either of you can imagine the hurt.
The "bio" father didn't see her...he had every other weekend, holidays and weeks in the summer. He was only an hour away...he "chose" not to see her or call or write(despite what he says on TV) for 13 years. But, on national TV, he would seem to be a martyr.
Although I am dissapointed with my "step" daughter for untruthful remarks on the show....and I'm not surprised by the lies from the "bio" father trying to save his own skin on TV....I am outraged by the show that allowed all these lies to air without care for the truth. A show that advertises as a "reality" show...but has very little reality.
The Locator creates a 30 minute movie with every show. And they will create a good story...reguardless of truth. In each story, there is a damsel in distress, a hero(usually Troy but in this case it was the bio father AND Troy), and finally there is a villain(my wife and I).
I could create a show about the same story that would easily paint an entirely different story about the whole thing. He really had to reach to get the story that the locator showed.
We are prepared to let our "adult" 18-yr old live her life and "let her go". Although, she will be on our minds everyday. I hope that we can be together again.
grandmasassy is correct. when I said raising 4 children was the hardest thing I ever did, but the most rewarding thing I will ever do! It's because it WAS the hardest thing I ever did. Kids can put parents through all kinds of emotions, good and bad. The reason my daughter and I have a good relationship is that now she has experienced being a parent, and she now knows it's not as easy as she thought it would be. Now that they are all adults (all 4) and we talk about past struggles we all went through. They see why we as parents made the decisions we did. This is where the rewards come in at. They think they know everything at that age and there's nothing you can do to convience them otherwise at this time. Only time, patience, and understanding will heal the pain and let the truth come out.
My 2 children are adopted. Our covenant was that we had hearts and walls that could expand - when the time came, the bio family would be added to our family, it would not replace us. Our daughter has located her family: they signed a paper saying they wanted to be found. It took less than four hours from the first phone call to Bethany Christian Services until Jenn was speaking to her bio Mom.
Of course it was bumpy and uncomfortable. Of course many tears were shed. Some family members treated Jenn as though she could somehow transition from us to them easily. In the end, Jenn is blessed by two families, multiple grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins, and 4 half-siblings. Her brother Jason is the only one who she considers her full brother. I would do this again willingly. Now married and with a baby boy, she lives in the same town as her bio family. I speak to her almost every day, and I will always be Mom.
The only downside to this has been the fact that we cannot locate Jason's bio family. Having seen how this process could have a good (if long and painful) outcome, Jason hungers now to know his family.
I watched this episode through the prism of my Jenn who struggled in her late teens and saw finding her bio family as an answer to the problems in her life (an abusive first husband). My guess is that the fairy tale will wear thin pretty quick, and the reality will be that behaviors of years ago will be discussed, forgiven, and new relationships based on who they each are today will form.
I grieve for the mother and stepfather who feel that they are somehow the losers in a competition. Please be patient. Your love will not be forgotten in the long run. Instead, rejoice that the child you love has had the courage to do something difficult. Be unselfish in your claim on her. Think in terms of years instead of days or hours. She will always be yours. Someday she too will marry and have children. If you build walls now out of anger or pain, you may one day be grieving for grandchildren you don't see. Instead, build a gate.
Interesting that you chose "the kool aid" thing,
wasn't that "follow me or else"? I responded to you because I can see that there is some pain here. I know it's hard to let go of an adult child. With all the love and suport you have given over the years she should have the tools to form her own opinion and cultivate healthy relationships.
Wishing you peace and understanding.
I'm the step father and I don't waste my time with people who drink the kool aid....ultimately I would like to talk to Troy about why he allowed a very young lady and a negligent father lie about a person who did everything for that young lady and was a FANTASTIC mother.
Unfortunately, Troy does not respond reguardless of all my attempts to reach him.
I have read several coments from "wvu1987" and just wanted to make a coment. I raised two children that are not related by birth, they are related to me by LOVE. Freely given bouth ways, from them to me, and from me to them. Their mother and I divorced 20 years ago. One of these children had never even seen there father or even a picture of him. "since her birth" This same child asked me to help her find her bio father and I was happy to help in any way I could. This finaly happened for her just one month ago today. If your are the person I think you are, why are you wanting your daughter to dislike a person that you as an individual have a problem with. Yes you and the step dad were there all these years and and that is a lot of work, I know, I have raised 4 children and it is the hardest thing I have ever done,and by far the most rewarding thing I will ever do! Please don't forget the saying of " If you love it,let it go, and if it comes back.........?
As for the money thing, I feel it's gerat that someone can support his own family by fulfilling "other people's dreams". Troy, keep up the good work.
I'll get right on that Troy...
I wish I could hang out with my daughter but she's waiting for a phone call from a father who you hooked her up with after he already had left her 13 years ago. Probably be another 13 years before you have to find him again for her.
It's funny that her mother and step father were always there for her.
Be a man Troy...let everyone know that you are all about "SHOW ME THE MONEY!!!"