Another No-Show Mom?
If you have been watching The Locator since the start, you saw an episode where a young woman named Wendy asked me to find the mother who walked out on her when she was a young girl. As hard as I tried, I could not coax her mother to come out of the shadows and I was left to merely reading Wendy a letter from her mom. It tore my heart out and was, hands down, the hardest moment of the entire 3 seasons of The Locator so far, for me.The episode you will see this weekend is incredibly similar in many ways; a daughter seeking the mother who left her behind as a young girl and my frantic search to find her, which was a challenge because I was working with information she recollected from her childhood! Limited by the memories of an 8 year old girl, I set out to crack this case with the deep-rooted personal need to solve it and bring this mother to her daughter. What a challenging case and what an end to this episode.... please gather your family and take the journey with me! JOIN THE SEARCH!
As you may have heard, I have started involving the people who follow me on Twitter in some of the searching process and it is working out great! When I am on a case and need some fast info, I simply ask my Twitter followers for some help and so far, they have answered every single question I have put out there! They are amazing! I have nicknamed them "Lil Locators," and they are! To those who have joined me on Twitter and are helping me solve cases, thank you! If you and your massive mailing list of friends and family are not following me on Twitter, please start! I could use the help! I am building the largest team of people finders in the world and would love to have you on my team!
A SHOUT OUT TO MOM & DAD
As you watch The Locator, you no doubt see my mom working side by side with me. I just want to publicly say how awesome she is and how much I love her. She is a great friend, a wonderful mother and an amazing people finder. And while I'm at it, let me also point out something else. Someone you never see on the show (he keeps a low profile) is my dad. But he is a great man! I would have never been able to build the search organization we have had he not instilled in me entreprenurial skills, ethics and morals. I guess I'm just saying I love my parents and will never be too old to say it. I'm a grateful son and a blessed man.
Troy
"The Locator"
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As a birthmom, I have a very hard time understanding how a birthmom could NOT want to meet and be in the life of their child. My beautiful daughter and I met in 1998 and my life is complete. You are so right about missing pieces, you can't find peace until you find all the pieces! The hole in my heart is full with love for her and her family, yes, especially her adoptive mom and stepdad.
Thank you for a great show. I watch each one.
For Wendy & Christopher,
My husband is black. I am white. We have been ridiculously happily married for almost 34 years because we have always tried to keep God first in our marriage. We are blessed to be the proud parents of 4 daughters and 1 son whom we cherish more than anything on this earth!
I saw your story for the first time last night and I haven't been able to get you out of my mind or out of my heart! I am at a total loss to understand your mother but I do feel very sad for her. You are such a beautiful young woman inside and out and it greatly grieves me to see you hurting the way you are and I think feeling as a child does that you must have done something wrong. We all came from Adam & Eve so race is really a non-issue! Read 1Samuel 16:7 to see what God sees when He looks at us.
I would so love to be your Mom and give you the biggest hugs ever!!! If I can help you in any way please email me so we can "chat". Or maybe you guys would even like to email my kids. They range in age from 20 - 31....I don't remember your ages.
I'm remembering you both in my prayers!
I was just watching a repeat episode tonight. This mother is so selfish and pitiful. If I was Wendy I would expose her for what she is to her new family. Wendy does not need this evil person in her life, but she needs to be exposed. It seems as if she is living a good life and do not want these 2 bi-racial kids to "ruin" it. She should not spend a lot of time on her, but she should make an effort to expose her. That would be real closure. She would not get out of this world before all of her secrets are revealed to everyone she knows.
Every time I watch this show I cried like there is no tomorrow. It seems to be so real but this is very far from the truth. Let me explain myself. About a year ago I paid to Troy and Staff for the search of my daughter. The first time I spoke to them they assure me that my case was not difficult because I had provided them with a lot of information that will help solve the case. 3 months later I called for an update and they told me that they were droping my case because there was nothing they can do to help. Is this show real or is another way to take peoples monies? I have paid to many other agencies a lot of money and they all said the same. They tell you they can help but once they have money becomes very difficult to even speak them and Troy is not the exception. For me this is anorther agency that takes peoples monies, hope and trust. My heart has been ripped so many times by people without regards. I paid to omnitrace to continue with the search and I hope that this time everything goes OK.
my heart broke for Wendy and Chris. Wendy, you are beautiful woman, your strenght, your grace and dignity in the face of such a traumatic childhood is unreal.
there is no doubt your mom feels pain and desperately misses you. YOu said in the begining of the show that you understood she made the decision for reasons that made sense to her at that time. She is clearly not strong enough to have you back in her life. there are no words that describe the thought of giving up my children. you are right to not wish harm or ill will towards her. she needs prayers - how can someone live with themselves? she is in her own personal hell every day. you and chris take the love from your family and focus on the future. love your girls and give them what you wish you had. if I could take away your hurt, I would. god bless you.
This is my second time watching the show with Wendy Radcliff.It is very transparent on why her mother didnt want to meet her.She has started a new life without her bi-racial children,and her whole marriage has been a lie.He doesnt even know that the woman hes married to and has fathered her children,has 2 half black babies.He may have athing against blacks and she to satisfy her own selfishness goes along with it.Hate may have been taught to there kids and she is just fine with that,but now pandoras box has been open,believe shes looking over her shoulder.I hope and pray that Wendy takes it among herself to make Jennifers life come crashing down.She had those kids of free will(if not she wouldve stopped a one),and to never speak of them is just hateful.I bet she praises the younger ones,and she feel they will hate her if they found out there older siblings are bi-racial.Wendy,shes living a lie and so is her new family,so go tell the truth to everyone.Wish you happiness and Luck.
I was about to make a comment but the person at the beginning of the blogs had said it for me!!! but wendy, i can tell you this.no matter what happens in this journey we call life. you make sure you tell your babies(i don't care how old they are they will always be your babies lol) that you love them. Oh yeah,that person that people call your mother... Her loss. god bless you girl!!
Dear Wendy and Chris,
This is the second time I have watched your story on Troy's program and again my heart aches for you and your brother. I cannot imagine what it was like for you to discover that your mother didn't want to meet with you, it is clearly her loss and in my heart I do believe that your life is a better one without a woman who cannot get past her hatred for your father to have kept her sweet babies near and dear to her heart yet went on with her life to raise her "other" children. I do hope that she pays a dear price hourly for her decisions. You are an exceptionally beautiful woman who I will keep in my prayers as well as your brother. Be happy in knowing that you were better off not having to live with a woman who is so far unlike yourself...L.
Wendy, I saw your segment last night, and it is all I can think about! My heart breaks for you. Just know there is a special place in hell for mothers who abandon their children. There's no excuse and reflects a cruel, self-absorbed person. Karma will catch up with her. I pray for you and hope you find what you need to move forward. Like Troy said, "don't let her define you" and try to do everything in your power to forgive her...not for her sake for yours! God bless you and your brother.
After watching the episode on Wendy & her brother Christopher (A Daughter's Dream) that were looking for their mother I was so moved by this beautiful young woman who reminded me of my own daughter.
If I could have --I would have put my arms around Wendy and tried to hug the hurt away--but that would not have been the same...for her. I truly will not be able to believe that if this mother saw her daughter she wouldn't want to do the same...and that is to bring her back into her life.
When Wendy said that she was 'crafty' ....just like her mom--and she thought it would make her mom proud....it broke my heart...because you could see how hopeful she was...that it would. I hope she knows that it would make most mom's very proud.
I will hope that Wendy and Christopher realize that they may never be able to change their mother's decision--but that they did have family that cared about them and a father that loved them.
I know we should be forgiving...I know Wendy wanted to be forgiving ....just to have her mother back in her life....but I don't think the mother deserves Wendy.
You've overcome so many things in your past Wendy--Please be strong. I am sending prayers for you and your brothers to find peace and happiness.
Hi Wendy,
I wept with you and for you. I wept for my two girls who are both adopted, they know thier birth mom but still struggle with why they were given up. They will always have questions, but at least they have a relationship with her. Our journey in open adoption has had its ups and downs, but it is a journey filled with GRACE.
I pray that both you and your brother will find PEACE. As angry as I am with your birthmom I will pray that with time her heart will melt and she will be able to be transparent. I applaud you for your strength. You are WORTHY, God will never forsake you. God Bless you both.
Laura
I agree Troy, I felt so horrible for Wendy and her brother. But I wasn't surprised that it happened. CNN just recently covered a story of a white woman who was turned away from a justice of the peace who refused to marry her because her fiance is black. One would think that in this day and age those sentiments exist. I was shocked! Who isn't mixed today? Well, bigotry is still alive and well in certain places in this very country. So for this woman to erase her black children didn't surprise me. I pray that Wendy can get past this and accept the fact that she did nothing wrong.
I just saw the episode re: Wendy & her brother looking for their mom who gave them up years earlier and Troy found her but she only "typed" them a letter and couldn't even sign it, bc their father who died, put their mom thru so much and she remarried a white man and in my opinion didn't want her half black kids around anymore.
As a person who lost her parents both at a young age and would give her right arm to have them back again for just one day, I think Wendy and her brother are better off to not have contact with a selfish woman as this person who can't put her personal issues aside with their father to establish a relationship with her own children. How can she put her head on her pillow at night knowing her own kids are out there and she doesnt' know anything about them anymore? My heart broke for them after watching this episode but even though Wendy cried after Troy read her the letter (and he said he had a difficult time deciding if he should let them know about the letter or not) she now knows what kind of a woman she is and i hope she finds closure in her life and can move on. Wendy, please know you are a better person than your mother and you and your brother are wonderful people and your father loved you and would be here today for you if he were alive today. God Bless you both.