Another No-Show Mom?
If you have been watching The Locator since the start, you saw an episode where a young woman named Wendy asked me to find the mother who walked out on her when she was a young girl. As hard as I tried, I could not coax her mother to come out of the shadows and I was left to merely reading Wendy a letter from her mom. It tore my heart out and was, hands down, the hardest moment of the entire 3 seasons of The Locator so far, for me.The episode you will see this weekend is incredibly similar in many ways; a daughter seeking the mother who left her behind as a young girl and my frantic search to find her, which was a challenge because I was working with information she recollected from her childhood! Limited by the memories of an 8 year old girl, I set out to crack this case with the deep-rooted personal need to solve it and bring this mother to her daughter. What a challenging case and what an end to this episode.... please gather your family and take the journey with me! JOIN THE SEARCH!
As you may have heard, I have started involving the people who follow me on Twitter in some of the searching process and it is working out great! When I am on a case and need some fast info, I simply ask my Twitter followers for some help and so far, they have answered every single question I have put out there! They are amazing! I have nicknamed them "Lil Locators," and they are! To those who have joined me on Twitter and are helping me solve cases, thank you! If you and your massive mailing list of friends and family are not following me on Twitter, please start! I could use the help! I am building the largest team of people finders in the world and would love to have you on my team!
A SHOUT OUT TO MOM & DAD
As you watch The Locator, you no doubt see my mom working side by side with me. I just want to publicly say how awesome she is and how much I love her. She is a great friend, a wonderful mother and an amazing people finder. And while I'm at it, let me also point out something else. Someone you never see on the show (he keeps a low profile) is my dad. But he is a great man! I would have never been able to build the search organization we have had he not instilled in me entreprenurial skills, ethics and morals. I guess I'm just saying I love my parents and will never be too old to say it. I'm a grateful son and a blessed man.
Troy
"The Locator"
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Wendy, I saw your segment last night, and it is all I can think about! My heart breaks for you. Just know there is a special place in hell for mothers who abandon their children. There's no excuse and reflects a cruel, self-absorbed person. Karma will catch up with her. I pray for you and hope you find what you need to move forward. Like Troy said, "don't let her define you" and try to do everything in your power to forgive her...not for her sake for yours! God bless you and your brother.
After watching the episode on Wendy & her brother Christopher (A Daughter's Dream) that were looking for their mother I was so moved by this beautiful young woman who reminded me of my own daughter.
If I could have --I would have put my arms around Wendy and tried to hug the hurt away--but that would not have been the same...for her. I truly will not be able to believe that if this mother saw her daughter she wouldn't want to do the same...and that is to bring her back into her life.
When Wendy said that she was 'crafty' ....just like her mom--and she thought it would make her mom proud....it broke my heart...because you could see how hopeful she was...that it would. I hope she knows that it would make most mom's very proud.
I will hope that Wendy and Christopher realize that they may never be able to change their mother's decision--but that they did have family that cared about them and a father that loved them.
I know we should be forgiving...I know Wendy wanted to be forgiving ....just to have her mother back in her life....but I don't think the mother deserves Wendy.
You've overcome so many things in your past Wendy--Please be strong. I am sending prayers for you and your brothers to find peace and happiness.
Hi Wendy,
I wept with you and for you. I wept for my two girls who are both adopted, they know thier birth mom but still struggle with why they were given up. They will always have questions, but at least they have a relationship with her. Our journey in open adoption has had its ups and downs, but it is a journey filled with GRACE.
I pray that both you and your brother will find PEACE. As angry as I am with your birthmom I will pray that with time her heart will melt and she will be able to be transparent. I applaud you for your strength. You are WORTHY, God will never forsake you. God Bless you both.
Laura
I agree Troy, I felt so horrible for Wendy and her brother. But I wasn't surprised that it happened. CNN just recently covered a story of a white woman who was turned away from a justice of the peace who refused to marry her because her fiance is black. One would think that in this day and age those sentiments exist. I was shocked! Who isn't mixed today? Well, bigotry is still alive and well in certain places in this very country. So for this woman to erase her black children didn't surprise me. I pray that Wendy can get past this and accept the fact that she did nothing wrong.
I just saw the episode re: Wendy & her brother looking for their mom who gave them up years earlier and Troy found her but she only "typed" them a letter and couldn't even sign it, bc their father who died, put their mom thru so much and she remarried a white man and in my opinion didn't want her half black kids around anymore.
As a person who lost her parents both at a young age and would give her right arm to have them back again for just one day, I think Wendy and her brother are better off to not have contact with a selfish woman as this person who can't put her personal issues aside with their father to establish a relationship with her own children. How can she put her head on her pillow at night knowing her own kids are out there and she doesnt' know anything about them anymore? My heart broke for them after watching this episode but even though Wendy cried after Troy read her the letter (and he said he had a difficult time deciding if he should let them know about the letter or not) she now knows what kind of a woman she is and i hope she finds closure in her life and can move on. Wendy, please know you are a better person than your mother and you and your brother are wonderful people and your father loved you and would be here today for you if he were alive today. God Bless you both.