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Take Five with Jeanine and Thomas After Their (Almost) Wedding Day

Bridezilla Jeanine
Monday, September 10, 2012

Take Five with Jeanine and Thomas After Their (Almost) Wedding Day

Bridezillas is famous for featuring the most outspoken, outrageous and outlandish brides-to-be! But as many viewers know, last season featured a couple who stood out from the rest—Jeanine and Thomas. Jeanine blamed Thomas’ family for their arguing, yet Thomas’ family blamed Jeanine for her take-no-prisoners attitude…and Thomas found himself somewhere stuck in the middle between his raging relatives and his bitter bride. The end result: The engaged duo did not make it down the aisle and live happily ever after! So the big questions remain—where are Jeanine and Thomas today? WEtv.com caught up with the couple to find out what they have since learned about themselves, about each other, and if they see a future together as husband and wife.

Jeanine’s Take
Q: What have you learned about yourself since your original wedding date? Specifically, one negative quality that you would like to change?

A: I’m the type of person who always gets my way, and this attitude doesn’t require me to ever care about anyone else. So after watching the show, I didn’t see anything wrong with my actions. All of my qualities make me who I am: from the tone of my voice, the way I communicate, even my facial expressions—and I wouldn’t change a thing. However, I wish I would have confronted Joe (Thomas’ father) prior to the day of my wedding, but Thomas—and his cheap ass who saved nearly $10,000 by having our wedding in Minnesota instead of Florida—refused to let me talk with his family. And after seeing the episode, I don’t feel that I can ever get over Joe’s closing response that “things turned out better than expected.”

Q: Along the same lines, what positive quality have you learned about yourself during this process?

A: I learned from watching the show that I am very headstrong, determined, ambitious and persistent. Although these are all good qualities, I definitely need to learn how to keep myself in check and not hurt others, especially those who matter most to me. I’ve also learned that as long as I keep my eye on the prize, there’s nothing I can’t accomplish.

Q: If you could change one thing about Thomas, what would it be? Are you two in counseling? Future plans for counseling?

A: If I could change one thing about Thomas, it would be who his father is. I also wish Thomas would support me, was a better communicator and would not allow his family to talk bad about me. I researched some counselors but their credentials didn’t fit my needs. So no, Thomas and I are not in counseling, but he needs it and I hope he starts seeing a
counselor sooner rather than later.

Q: Can you name one thing you admire about Thomas’ family?

A: I’m going to sound like I’m contradicting myself, but I love their closeness! They gather for all of the holidays and for each of their birthdays. My parents always worked on Thanksgiving and Christmas, so I wanted that sense of togetherness. I guess my immediate family is so divided and disconnected that when I see Thomas’ family and their closeness, I thought I was hitting the jackpot. Yet one thing I love about my family is they don’t interfere in your relationship—even if I call and complain, they don’t share their opinion. But Thomas can share one bit of information with his family, and the next thing you know his mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, sister, and brother-in-law are all calling to offer their two cents.

Q: What advice would your give another bride who does not get along with her future in-laws?

A: Family is important, but it’s also important for family to be supportive of your decisions regardless of their opinions. My first piece of advice is to make sure that your soon-to-be-husband doesn’t allow his family to speak poorly about you. If they do and your fiancé doesn’t defend you, then that’s a green light to your future in-laws that their son doesn’t respect you. Also, learn from my mistake and make sure that your husband-to be gives his parents a set of boundaries. If your in-laws continue their actions, your marriage will fail. As long as you’ve tried your hardest to control him, don’t ever feel guilty about your relationship failing. I say this from firsthand experience.

Thomas’ Take

Q: What have you learned about yourself since your original wedding date? Specifically, one negative quality that you would like to change?

A: After seeing myself on the show, I’ve been able to see how much of a people-pleaser I am (“pushover” as they call it on the blogs). I always try to stand on both sides of the fence when it comes to conflicts, either by holding my tongue or being walked over by one person in order not to p*ss off the other. The way I see it—if I stay out of conflict, then my life remains stress free. But the biggest problem with this tactic is that Jeanine is a control freak! She takes advantage of the fact that I go along with whatever comes my way, and in turn she directs everything toward her own personal agenda. I’m treated like sh*t and expected to stay bent over while taking it! The WE viewers got to see this firsthand, especially the way Jeanine spoke to me and my family.

Q: If you could change one thing about Jeanine, what would it be?

A: What would I change about Jeanine? WOW! What wouldn’t I change about Jeanine? First of all, she has no respect for anyone or anything! She can never accept being wrong, even when she knows that she is—she’ll fight until she convinces you otherwise. It’s impossible to attempt reasoning with her, and if I’m trying to argue a point that has any sort of logic behind it, forget it. She is completely irrational! So if I could change anything about Jeanine, it would be her inability to accept responsibility.

Q: What steps are you taking toward reconciliation? Counseling?

A: How do you counsel someone who doesn’t think they are wrong? That’s just it—you can’t! Therefore, Jeanine and I have made no attempt at counseling because in her mind, I’m the only one that needs to change for our relationship to work. And I’m not exactly sure if that can be fixed.

Q: Is there anything you would like to change about your family?

A: I come from a very close-knit family. Jeanine is not used to this, so for some reason she clashes with them. In fact, my family—in Jeanine’s eyes—is the main reason for the troubles in our relationship. But really, I wouldn’t want my family to change a thing.

Q: What advice would your give another groom whose family does not approve of their bride?

A: At the end of the day, your family will always be there for you. Whether they agree with your decisions or not, they will support you. I know from personal experience with Jeanine that the nightmare stems not from your family, but when your wife can’t stand your family (and she may try to convince you that you no longer have immediate family aside from her). And that’s when you need to either get the hell out or put your foot down right away because sh*t is only going to get worse!

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