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I have a problem with giving it up to quickly. Is this common

My name is Sarah i'm 22 years old. I'm a black girl who's mainly attracted to white men. For, whatever reason it usually takes me awhile to find someone who has the guts to ask me out or for my phone number. I usually get the same line "I was so intimidated of you". So, maybe its the sexual build up that makes me do it. I have no idea. But, for whatever reason I find myself sleeping with my new love interest fairly early in the game. Like the first chance thats available. Not, straight from the bar no! But, I mean for example i've been speaking with a young man for a little over a week mainly through text messages. I'm already considering doing the do right now! I won't sleep with just anyone I have to genuinely like them. But, afterwords I usually feel kinda crappy only because I'm wondering if this guy will respect me anymore because i'm a kinky chick who can't control her sexual desires.
I don't know if there's a coralation between my own issues I am a recovering cutter, and even dabble in the fetish lifestyle.

So, my big question is am I just a grown up now?And, as a grown up I'm bound to have casual sexual encounters? Or, do I have a bigger issue?
I'm just trying to do some soul searching because I wanna nip this in the butt now before I'm 45 with a laundry list of bad relationships.

You may not have the answer but even if you can relate to me or been through this it would be good to hear.
I thank you in advance

sarahleesinful
April 11, 2008 10:40pm

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Re: I have a problem with giving it up to quickly. Is this common nowadays? I understand what you are going through. The best advice that I can give you, is wait, get to know the person, and if they truly love you, and you truly love them, than the sex wont even begin to matter. Good luck, and I hope you find that guy that you are willing to stay true to yourself and wait for.
By on April 22, 2008 6:36 AM
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Re: I have a problem with giving it up to quickly. Is this common nowadays?Hey girly.. After doing the deed we often ask ourselves how soon is to soon?? At the time we do not feel guilty because we train ourselves this is ok for the moment 'After the high comes the crash' an instant downer .. Often enough this a question we tend to debate with our consience and mixed emotions .. The answer is truly in your heart... Simply ask yourself why do I find myself driven for this action that makes me feel confused at the end .. ask yourself if you lack a true relationship with your persona that you punish yourself un-willing.. Often at times woman want some kind of approval from the male, therefore; they give up the most valuable part of their life 'There body' and we truly forget that we have more to give than just sex... When you find yourself alone with a partner try seducing him more with your mind than your body .. Trust me if this man is truly smart he will find you amazing 'walk away knowing you have control of your universe' Let a man feel intrigued about your classy self ... 'A woman can cross the world in one elegant movement and always fell brilliant about it'... Try this for sex and you will find yourself in utter control ! Take care of yourself and others along the way.. Lola
By on April 22, 2008 1:33 PM

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