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My mother is everything a mother, person, friend, mentor, and on and on, could ever be. She taught me so much. She taught me not to judge anyone by there outer appearance. She taught me to love with your whole heart. She taught me to love myself. I could go on and on, but I can sum it up in SHE IS THE BEST IN ME, SHE IS THE BEST I COULD HOPE TO BE, SHE IS THE VERY BEST. I will always thank her and love her with my whole heart. Kay

My mother lost her 1st born to: LEUKEMIA in 1951 - there was NO HELP back then! I was born 3yrs later, but although mom somehow managed to take care of me through her DEEP depression, she would NEVER ALLOW ME to GET CLOSE to HER -- fear of losing another child I assume (as she always looked so HAPPY & FULL of JOY in photos of her & my older brother, Bobby!!! She was NEVER very happy, if at all, after I was born -- I know she loved me & she told me how proud she was of me, but I was NOT ALLOWED to Snuggle & get close to her -- I was held at arms length. I loved her & that hurt soooo much! I'd often PRETEND that some, wonderful, warm woman would come along & swoop me up & away & give me ALL the LOVE & ATTENTION that I craved soooooo much!!! That NEVER happened! And then to add insult to injury they went & had another kid (a boy -- whom she doted on -- thinking he was a replacement for Bobby, I guess -- he wasn't!!!!). So, I was pushed even farther away! I remember once when I was about 4 I told her & my aunt that I wished my aunt was MY mom! I guess it hurt her & for that I am terribly sorry, but it wasn't the fault of a 4yr old! If she'd've given me the LOVE & ATTENTION I needed, I never woulda said it!!! My father appreciated me & gave me as much love & attention as he could, but he worked sooooo many hours that I didn't get much time with him, but he taught me to write my name, ride a bike, about the stars, & tie my shoes. He's play the sax for me & rub my back to relax me at bedtime! He'd bring me special gifts for no special reason & I adored him!!!
However, my mom & I would argue & disagree, over it seemed, everything: at 5 she wouldn't let me wear a pink shirt with red shorts to go out & play -- I remember I wanted to wear it sooooooo bad & she adamantly wouldn't allow it -- I mean who cares what a 5yr old wears to play in??? She then took me to a dance school & I wanted to join Ballet & she insisted on TAP DANCING -- I refused, I got neither! At 10 I wanted to learn the organ & another aunt was willing to teach me, but mom INSISTED I learn PIANO 1ST, I learned neither!!!
MOM & I never agreed on much, she was trying to live vicariously through me I guess, I thought she was just being mean back then. I STILL LOVED HER THO !!!
When I was just 15 she had a STROKE & died 3wks later. I couldn't go over to the coffin as I'd NEVER seen anyone dead b4, but my gr-mother & auntforced me -- it was horrible for me!!! I couldn't even grieve for 2yrs, but finally one day I broke down & bawled for all we'd lost & all we would miss & how much I needed her then!!!
I JUST WANT MY MOM BACK !!!!! I love her sooo much & we were just getting to know each other & understand each other & poof she was gone & I was ALONE.
I LOVE YOU MOM, I MISS YOU SOOOO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Barbie 40yrs later I still love you momma & I need you soooooooooo much!

Hello, well I have to start by saying that I don't know what I would do without my mom. She is my best friend and has always been there for me. All of her life with being a single parent, I have watched her work extremly hard to get to where she is today. She was born in Trinidad & Tobago and joined the military when she was 18 and moved to the states. I remember her working several jobs after going into the reserves, just to keep food on the table and a roof over our head. Although she struggled, she never showed me her stress, and always showed me a good example of what a woman should be. I remember when I got accepted to college in London England, she was extremly supportive. Not knowing how we could afford me going to school in Europe, she encouraged me to go and said that she would figure it all out. She has always put me first as her daughter and even put me through private school so that I could have a good eductation despitethe her single income that was coming in.

Today she is a Master Sargent in the Army getting ready to retire in July 2009! I have watched her come so far, while maintaining so much strengh and dignity. She now owns her own home, and takes care of my Grandmother who she finally convinved to come live with her. My mother achieved so much and I she inspires me! She truly is the best mom!

I want to thank my Mom for her devotion to our family.....more importantly, to my two brothers and I. Our Mom only gave her very best every day and made sure we were safe, happy and very much loved throughout our lives.
Growing up had it's "tough love" side too from my father. He was mentally abusive just about every day. I usually would keep my distance whenever possible. Through it all my Mom was always my rock!
I had finally understood for the first time at the age of 42 with the birth of our son Anthony, just how difficult it can be raising one child, let alone three or more! My mom was the most awesome role model any daughter could ask for and I aspired to be just like her in every way. I am proud to say that I am a happily married woman who is confident in all I do, thanks to you Mom. I love you and miss you and wish we weren't living so far apart!......Hope to see you soon!! Love K to Gloria V. in Dunedin, FL) XOXO