HELP ANY ADVICE WILL BE APPRECIATED

I'm hoping you could give me some advice on this question I'm about to ask, my man is 49 and I'm 48. I've been married,divorced and commmonlaw with my last boyfriend for 10 years and my husband 18 plus years. My current boyfriends longest relationship was 1 year. My relationships were lets just say dysfunctional,abusive,and me being the caretaker and the child... Finished with that so I won't get into it. I know what I want now, just taken my 2nd boyfriends death 3 years ago and my x's abuse, Now my man, beautiful, spiritual, nature lover, cares for his body, etc. We laugh like children, we love like crazy, I went to school with him 30 years ago then pow out of no ware we hooked up...Love story "yes" ok hes very independent but so am I, when I love I love, that I do not want to change but I need to be couscous that I have learnt the hard way even with family and my female friends. My man calls me before work, and when he gets home, then our goodnight call before bed....We Laugh and talk like we are bestfriends. We have intamacy he tells me his fears, his dreams and the same goes for me, I have to poke a bit to get him comfortable, He is very imature with relationships and i don't want to be the expert because I aloud and participated in the unhealthy relationships I had. I want to see him after work not just when he says jump he says, can I come over only when he doesn't work or waits til saturday because he won't work sundays because he plays soccer for fun with the guys. How do I tell him I don't want a phone relationship even though when were together we walk talk watch t.v. listen to soft music etc. I am a giver and thats who I am, he has so many great qualities, I feel selfish for wanting more of him and not "just me buying flowers, making picnic lunches, bringing dinner and buying groceries...." "Whats his first clue or is it just me!" How do i deal with his imaturity of having a relationship when he has no experience. Oh I could go on, but I love to write also and this could turn into a book. Wev'e been together 3months.
Thank you again