How Can I Get Him Off The Computer?
My BF has this thing where he is always on the Computer. He even erases the history files after he is on it. I know he has stuff on E-Bay and Craigslist that he checks but once i found porno site that he looked at on his phone and that wouldn't bother me so much if he just didn't lie about it. He says He is just checking his stuff and i do believe him but he cheated on me 2 years ago and in away im still not over it. PLEASE HELP ME. I need the advice.
Hi!
If he was just playing computer games like my fiance I would not worry. Even though I love him...how annoying. Anyhow, here is what I think...
1. Make it clear to him what you want him to confess to you i.e. porno etc. You deserve to have him be completly honest with you after the cheating incident.
2. If you haven't already talked to him about your concerns. Tell him you trust him but it is hard after the cheating. Also, deleting information online is odd. The only time I do that is if I have a surprise planned for my man.
3. His behavior does seem deceptive, but maybe he just doesn't want you to worry about the porn. Maybe, he is looking at it instead of cheating. I would be a bit protective of your heart. You know him best though.
4. Although I never reccommend snooping on a guy's computer, because guys hate it a lot! If you are really worried or in a very serious relationship you need to know the truth. You could get software to see what he has been looking at after it is deleted.
5. I would suggest talking with him about the situation calmly in caring manner.
P.S. My fiance reminded me that installing spy software on someone else's computer is illegal. Which I knew already knew, but I thought it would be important to point out. Also, he says he deletes his history all the time. He says it cleans things up, so he does not have a lot of history to sort through. Then again his major is computers.
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I'd say do 1 or 2 things.
#1 Get online yourself! Email email email yourself if thats what it takes! Send emails to yourself your mother....set up an email to the cat if so be it! Sometimes mirroring things your man does wrong or hurtful makes them understand better than nagging and whining. It seems they become immune to your complaints and stop listenng after awhile. But when you do what they do.. and they realize its also what they do... its a better argument.
#2 Parade around him sexy as hell when you find he's online again.. acting oblivious to how sexy your prancing around him. New lingerie, different positions.. dim the lights, hand him his favorite alchoholic drink and strip dance for him! His mind should definitely be off the internet and onto you and you'll get a good workout ;-))