How do you survive the death of a child?
I lost my youngest son a little over a year and a half ago. He was in the Navy, married and had two little boys. He was not married to the mother of his kids but to another woman who none of us knew. He was having some problems in his marriage which I didn't know much about either but he had told me he was getting divorced.
Less than two months later he was dead. They say he took his own life but that is so hard for me to believe. The Navy had it under investigation but we haven't heard anything.
My husband and other children don't want to talk about it. Every time that I try to talk to them they tell me to let him rest. I need answers and I also need to know how to go on with life withoutt him or answers. If anyone out there has any answers please share them with me.
I am so sorry for your loss...Loosing someone is very painful and lonely. I hope you get the answers about your son quickly. I have a son who is 29 and if I lost him I wouldn't know what to do. I will pray for you and your family.
Kim
I am so very sorry to hear of your pain... I do understand. I too lost my son, 2 1/2 yrs ago. Like you, I face family and friends who, in one way or another tell me to "let him rest". My son was 26 yrs old when we lost him, some may have questioned that he took his own life, however those of us who know him... know that it was an accident. Though troubled, he had too much to live for.
I understand the need for answers, it can be all consuming. I am certainly not the best one to give advice, I have made many mistakes...
However, I can tell you that others who have been through what we have, seem to be the best ones to talk with. There are many orginizations where you can meet and talk with others who have lost a loved one. The one I personally found to be helpful is an on-line group. You can find them by googling Love Never Dies. There is also a book with the same title that I found helpful. They have a forum and on-line chats, and most of the people you will meet are parents (mostly mothers) who have lost children... their common belief is of life after death and communication.
One piece of advice that I received from another mother is "The elephant that sits on your chest will never go away... however he will loose weight". I wish you luck in your search... know that you are not alone.
E.