Lyin boyfriends,husbands,fiances, what is a girl to do......
i have been with my boyfriend/husband/fiancee for 12 years i started seeing him when i was 18 and he was 25 we had a daughter one year later he made 2 possibly 3 kids during our relationship, went to prison for 6 years . he came home 11 months ago everything has been better then i thought it would be .but in the back of my mind i was always waiting on it to come it finally came. I find out that he has been comunicating with an old female friend friend that lives in california i guess she wanted to come to visit so he pays for her airline tickets i find out aboutit and ask him and he denies it of course, now am i crazy for being upet about this situation.i'm really rethinking this whole relationship...... what do think i should do ?
Are you Kidding!!! Listen to yourself. JAIL LYING CHEATING OTHER CHILDREN!! I think you need to dump him and be by yourself for a little wile. Once you realise YOUR WORTH than you will find a better quality man. TRUST me they are out there!
Oh, baby girl, ask yourself this question. What kind of life do I want for myself? What kind of life do I want for my child? Do you want your little girl to be with a man who is just like her (donor) father when she grows up? By staying with him and letting her see how he treats you, ( And Children SEE everything when you think they are not looking) your'e letting her know it's ok to be with someone who treats you bad. I married quite young , I was 18 years old and a senior in high school when I married my first husband; he was 27. He was a very mean, controlling, degrading man, he'd never hit me. but he would push me or shove me, and say mean thing to me like: You've gotten so fat and ugly over the years I'm doing you a favor by staying with you no-one else would have you. He would tell me how stupid I am, and accuse me of sleeping with EVERYONE including my father, my brothers, my best friend, the mailman etc. I wasn't even allowed to have friends unless he approved of them. I could not talk to any men unless he was around. I finally reach a point in my life where I felt I deserved better. And my daughters deserved a better future, and that it is not ok for a man to disrespect you in any way. I felt my son needed to know that this is not the way to treat women period. SELF RESPECT. LOVE YOURSELF, AND RESPECT YOURSELF. IF YOU DON'T NOONE ELSE WILL LOVE AND RESPECT YOU. I agree w/ ski2mars79 Realize your worth. Do me a favor, I want you to watch this wonderful movie called THE JOY LUCK CLUB. Its a story about 3 Asian- American women who found their self worth. Or you can watch THE COLOR PURPLE. Or do the most important thing of all PRAY. Find inspiration to free yourself from this type of life. Because HE will never change, he will only say what he wants you to hear in order to keep you around. And he'll appologize and change but it will only be for a little while. I'm sorry I wrote so much but when I read this, it sparked so many, many, memories and heartaches for me. My prayers are with you.
hello,
when i read your story i thought i was reading my life story cause i'm going thru the same thing i feel for you and i wish i could tell you to walk away but i'm just as confused as you. All could tell to be strong and pray alot cuase the only thing keeping is the pray a whole alot something i feel like just walking away but feel some bad cause he is back in jail and real sick. wish you the best luck.
girl please let this loser go he will never change
i know i went through it, it is a pattern with these guys
in and out of jail,love yourself, respect yourself and
and your child,run for the border,i am not going to get into details,after one last beating i looked at
myself and walked out,when he realize that i was
not there anymore he beg me, he chase me,told me
he love,i told him love is not suppose hurt got an
order of protection finally he got the message and left me alone.There are help out there you have to find it,bring God into your life,i've been free from this
person sinde 1996 and i never looked back,now i am married with two children with a wonderful man
you can do better love yourself first and everything
great will come.Good luck
You should have left along time ago! If you were seeing him and he fathered two children with different females other then you while he was seeing you. You should have taken you child and left him! He is not going to support you, he been in jail for six years, he is willing to jump back to another female.
YOU DESERVE BETTER, YOUR CHILD DESERVE BETTER, leave him and make home somewhere he cant find you. if you do not think of your self, think of the child, she deserve to have a better home then seeing her mother be cheated on over and over by a man you call her father.
You need to ask yourself. If all the evidence point to him cheating on you with this woman. Why are you still there? How long was he gone on this trip? And how did you find out about. And does he still have contact with this woman.
You're not crazy for being upset with this situation you're crazy for staying with a man like that. MOVE on already! Do you really plan to grow old with this jailbird?
You know exactly what you need to do. Why are you even asking us this question when you know the answer yourself. He does not and will not ever respect you because you have allowed him to do it for 12 years. The old saying is "Men can only do what women allow them to do." If you have any respect for yourself, you would get him out of your life by any means necessary.
i have been with my boyfriend for almost three years at first our sex life was great then it got a little rocky but now he came to me and told me that he not into sex anymore but the tricky part about is that he is addicted to porn and he watches it before he go to work either on tv or computer and his excuse is that he watches them to see if he can get turned on so he can have sex with me. I think it's just an excuse because he's lost interest in me or am i wrong? We now have sex maybe once every month or two i mean i try to be sexy but that don't work even being naked in front of him is a turn off. When he is at work sometimes i see him nude pictures of and his response is don't be sending me pix like that when at work or u nasty just little smart comments and then he goes on all these single webs and be having girls off there texting his phone and sending him nude pix. When i confront him about them his words are and or why u looking in my phone or i just do that for fun or entertainment. We don't hug each other, kiss i mean just not affectionate at all. He turns his back on me at night, hides his phone and when he comes home puts it on silent but when he walks out the door turns it back on. We barely go anywhere together unless it's the grocery store and sometimes he won't get out there with me, Pretty much just don't seem to have any respect for me and says he's a grown man don't question him cause he can do as he pleases but he lives with me. Help me please tell me what to do and let me not forget he says he's not leaving because we have a 1 yr old son together and don't want no other man raising his soon but do i deserve to be miserable for the rest of my life please somebody help me
When you love someone its very hard to let go, but if the relationship is this bad how bad is your marriage going to be? Letting go is going to be hard but you have to be strong and tell yourself you deserve better. No one is worth driving yourself crazy for. You need to do whats best for you and your daughter. You don't want your daughter to grow up thinking that this is how women should be treated. I wish the best of luck to you and hope you find the happiness YOU deserve.