Young marriage...can it last?
My brother and his young fiancee of one year have decided to take the plunge this time next year. They are both serious about marriage and they are a lely couple. I do think they will be happy together for a long time. He is absolutely in love with her and you can see how much she loves him. She gets along great with his family and he likewise. I do think they are rushing it a little they have only known each other under about 2 years and my brother is in the marines. They have only been engaged less than 9 months. It is hard on his fiancee I cant imagine how she will deal with this as his wife. These are the things I think they should be taking the time to work out before walking down the aisle and then trying to deal with all their issues. Everything is doubled once your married. Dealing with it before hand just makes for a longer honeymoon phase in my opinion.
I'm in a relationship with a Marine as well. I can't really tell much about the situation from what you've said..but when are they planning to get married? I mean, a lot of Marines become engaged b/c it helps them to know they have someone back home who will be waiting for them. It doesn't necessarily mean they want to get married right on the spot but it's comforting sometimes to have that symbol of commitment if that makes any sense?
I think a marriage can survive if both parties involved are equally determined to make the marriage last, then they shuld be fine. People need to finally realize that there isn't that 100% perfect relationship out there just waiting for them, and that they have to work hard to make sure their relationship lasts. I don't think there's anything wrong with getting married young, but perhaps there is with getting married too quickly. I can't imagine getting to know everything about a person in less than a year. I would need at least 2 years to be sure...and even then you can never be completely sure. Heck, I've known my boyfriend for almost 10 years (dating for almost 2) and we're still not engaged because we don't feel the need to rush anything.
Well I think that you brother is in love and know that she is the one he wants to be with. Have you asked your brother if they haved talked about those things or are you just assuming that they haven't. They could have very well sat down and made a life plan for themselves. I understand the difficulties, my husband is in the army..currently serving in Iraq (for 15 months). No it won't be easy for her but she has to know what she is in for, afterall she has been with each other for sometime now.
Let them do it. Different folks different strokes. What works for you or someone else may not work for your brother. If the two are in love, they're better off getting married now before they fall out of love and into that content stage. Plus, him being in the marines and away will keep the honeymoon stage going. It only dies when you see that person day in and day out in your normal routine.
Well I understand your concern but it depends on the couples maturity and how young is young to you and sometimes age is not the problem I have seen some 30+ year olds who are VERY immature with all that being said I do agree with the above comment that by him being in the marines will maybe keep the honeymoon a lil longer although if one of them is an out of sight out of mind type could be a problem However my grandparents married very young and have been married for 50 years now you weren't very specific though about their ages and other things just how YOU disagree with their decision but my opinion to you is don't push its their lives not yours and if you push you may push your way out of their lives if its a mistake allow them to make their own all you can do is love them and offer your support now and if it goes wrong or right for them who knows they may be the couple to last a lifetime who are we to judge for all we know of you said they really love one another and if thats true that speaks tons!!!!
No! I got married when I was about to turn 18 and I was divorced after 6 years of marriage. I would tell people to think twice before getting married young. I married someone who wasn't grown up yet himself and he was 22.He treated me like dirt and was constantly telling me he had to finish raising me. His family told me when we separated that they were always wondering why my parents were so eager to get rid of me.
maybe they should go for counseling.
You know... It really depends on the two people in the relationship. If they are young but very mature for their age and have gone through past experiences that have helped them to grow, then I could see them lasting. If they both know 110% that they are right for each other and no one else than why not? I have been dating a guy for 3 months and we are concidering getting engaged. Now as for the Marines issue... she HAS to be a very strong minded woman to deal with this. If she's not then yes, they need to re-think this.
they say that you dont see your problems until you are on the outside looking in. I think that if they are ready then they are. I also understand where you are coming from but if it isnt meant to be then time will tell. But they should be the judge of that.
I was only 18 and he was 20 when were married. We have been married 38 years. He was in the Navy at the time in Vietnam. The first few years were kind of rough out of 2 1/2 years of marriage we were only together 38 days. I say those were the best 2 1/2 years of my marriage because I didn't have to answer to a husband, cook dinner, or ask if he would like to go here or there. If she is the kind of girl who can't be alone for long periods at a time marriage to a military man is going to be hard.
I had a job and my family to help me through. We didn't have any children until he got out of the Navy (later joined the Army for 18 years) and we had been married 3 years.
I'm not saying that it has been a bed of roses. He is now retired from the military, 22 years, and now drives a big rig (13 years) for a living. So I am alone alot. We raised 3 children, which at times was not all that easy but me and the kids survived. I had by job and my children to keep me company while he was gone. And a good book or tv show to keep me company at night.
You need to communicate at all times. Don't make any big decisions without talking about it first. Learn to listen to each other not just hear. Tell each other at least once a day "I LOVE YOU". AND REMEMBER ITS NOT ALWAYS 50/50 sometimes you might have to give or take more than your share.
GOOD LUCK TO THE YOUNG COUPLE AND HOPE THAT THIS HAS BEEN OF SOME HELP.
I met my husband when I was 17 years old and he was 23.We had many of the indicators that we wouldn't last.He had been married before with a child and his divorce had been final only 2 months(I was NOT the reason for their divorce).We slept together on our first date which is supposed to be a big no-no.I was still in high school and we only dated for 3 months before we got married.We got married on Christmas Day 1989 and this Christmas will be our 19th anniversary.Our daughter is 17 and a senior and our son is 10.We struggled along the way but our love always saw us through the rough patches.His parents have been married for 39 years and my grandparents passed away after 64 years of marriage.We never seperated because we entered this union for life.Of course I knew that he loved me and my friends and family always say he treats me like a queen and that is true.When I was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2006,I saw the true depth of his love and commitment to me.I had a bilateral mastectomy and 4 months of chemo and he was by my side through it all.The treatment left me with alot of health problems and I am in pain pretty much constantly so our sex life has cooled alot.He has never complained and is perfectly content to just hold me.He works 10 hours a day,comes straight home then picks up the kids for school.We don't have friends or buddies,we never needed them.More often than not,if I am feeling bad,he throws in a load of laundry and cooks dinner.He is a wonderful father and helps our son with his homework and spends all his free time with them.The only thing he really does without me is ride his motorcycle and even then our son is right behind his Daddy.I am truly blessed to have my soulmate and I thank God for him everyday.So,you see,young love can blossom into a forever love.Mine did.
I am currently married to a marine and I can understand the frustration that you make think, about your brother because my family expressed the same feelings for me, they sat me down and asked if it is what he wanted me to do, and I told that i loved him and he loved me and we, they gave me thier blessing, so talk to your brother and make sure that, its what he wanted to do. If he says that it's what he want, then just give him your blessing because like one of the comments say up there, different strokes, for different folks ok.