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Will there be a new Dubious Bride blogging soon?? (Jessica has been awesome!!)

Why not give couples that can't afford a wedding the dream wedding. Instead of always doing shows about couples getting or giving brides the perfect wedding when they can pay for it themselves, give it to someone less fortunate. Trust me city hall weddings are not all that when you have your set on the big fairy tale wedding.

Hello ladies! I have a bit of an issue I am struggling with and could use a little advice. I was in a terrible relationship and have been free now for a year and a half (yaay!). I was so beaten down by this guy that I never thought i could trust again or even want to be with someone after all the abuse I endured. Well, lo and behold, I met a guy who helped me change my mind. I have been with my current bf for bout a year and things are cool. But here is the rub...I can't talk to his guy about anything he views as unpleasant conversation. I mean, like, who does, really? Too bad, that is what adult life is all about. So, anyway, whenever I bring anything up (i.e. maybe you can initiate sex sometimes so I can FEEL that YOU want ME!). It is always a one-sided thing and I used to try to talk to him about it but, you see, he just reacts! And it becomes about me but it's not about ME, it's about US!!! It has always turned into a huge fight if I want to voice a concern(any kind of concern, really). So I just drop it and try to turn it around and take the blame so he won't be mad. (keep in mind, it is not always like this, but it concerns me, greatly). I have learned from gtowing up in abusive households and being in an abusive relationship that it is best to hold your tongue and be cautious. I don't wanna do that anymore! I don't know how to not do that, though. I know he loves me and I love him, so, what can I do to empower myself to not feel that whenever i open my mouth, I won't get smacked down(figuratively, of course)? Thanks in advamce for any comments or advice. Take care!

Hello ladies! I have a bit of an issue I am struggling with and could use a little advice. I was in a terrible relationship and have been free now for a year and a half (yaay!). I was so beaten down by this guy that I never thought i could trust again or even want to be with someone after all the abuse I endured. Well, lo and behold, I met a guy who helped me change my mind. I have been with my current bf for bout a year and things are cool. But here is the rub...I can't talk to his guy about anything he views as unpleasant conversation. I mean, like, who does, really? Too bad, that is what adult life is all about. So, anyway, whenever I bring anything up (i.e. maybe you can initiate sex sometimes so I can FEEL that YOU want ME!). It is always a one-sided thing and I used to try to talk to him about it but, you see, he just reacts! And it becomes about me but it's not about ME, it's about US!!! It has always turned into a huge fight if I want to voice a concern(any kind of concern, really). So I just drop it and try to turn it around and take the blame so he won't be mad. (keep in mind, it is not always like this, but it concerns me, greatly). I have learned from gtowing up in abusive households and being in an abusive relationship that it is best to hold your tongue and be cautious. I don't wanna do that anymore! I don't know how to not do that, though. I know he loves me and I love him, so, what can I do to empower myself to not feel that whenever i open my mouth, I won't get smacked down(figuratively, of course)? Thanks in advamce for any comments or advice. Take care!

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I'm hoping you could give me some advice on this question I'm about to ask, my man is 49 and I'm 48. I've been married,divorced and commmonlaw with my last boyfriend for 10 years and my husband 18 plus years. My current boyfriends longest relationship was 1 year. My relationships were lets just say dysfunctional,abusive,and me being the caretaker and the child... Finished with that so I won't get into it. I know what I want now, just taken my 2nd boyfriends death 3 years ago and my x's abuse, Now my man, beautiful, spiritual, nature lover, cares for his body, etc. We laugh like children, we love like crazy, I went to school with him 30 years ago then pow out of no ware we hooked up...Love story "yes" ok hes very independent but so am I, when I love I love, that I do not want to change but I need to be couscous that I have learnt the hard way even with family and my female friends. My man calls me before work, and when he gets home, then our goodnight call before bed....We Laugh and talk like we are bestfriends. We have intamacy he tells me his fears, his dreams and the same goes for me, I have to poke a bit to get him comfortable, He is very imature with relationships and i don't want to be the expert because I aloud and participated in the unhealthy relationships I had. I want to see him after work not just when he says jump he says, can I come over only when he doesn't work or waits til saturday because he won't work sundays because he plays soccer for fun with the guys. How do I tell him I don't want a phone relationship even though when were together we walk talk watch t.v. listen to soft music etc. I am a giver and thats who I am, he has so many great qualities, I feel selfish for wanting more of him and not "just me buying flowers, making picnic lunches, bringing dinner and buying groceries...." "Whats his first clue or is it just me!" How do i deal with his imaturity of having a relationship when he has no experience. Oh I could go on, but I love to write also and this could turn into a book. Wev'e been together 3months.
Thank you again

Me and my boyfriend have been together going on 2 years. He has 1 child with an ex-wife, and 2 other kids with 2 different mothers. Neither of them, he claims he wants to be with. I have 1 son, by my ex-boyfriend. OK, the problem is...His last child's mother lives in Arizona. He has already expressed to me that she still has feelings for him. He says he doesn't want to be with her or even talks to her on that level. Hard to believe because she is one of the only ones that he gets along with very well. So, he went to visit his daughter in Arizona in May. I was worried about it because it would just be him, his daughter and her mother. Millions of thoughts crossed my mind, but he assured me that he loves me and nothing will go on with them. So, the day he gets back, she posts up on her myspace that she is "sad to see him go". He had to confess that she did tell him that she had very strong feelings for him still, he "told" her that he was in a relationship and in love and "left" it at that. OK, here it is 2 months later and she posts some more statuses about her and him on her myspace. Not to mention, she is 29, he is 31. They are fully grown people...that I wouldn't expect to be on myspace like that. Anyway, she was hinting to the fact that she was going to be visiting his home state, "right or wrong, I'm going" is her words with a nice signature "love BDH" which are his initials. Now, I'm stuck trying to believe that nothing is going on with them, but I have such a gut feeling that there is. That she is going to be coming to this place...I don't know what to believe. There are other details within the story that makes it even more convincing to me, but I don't want to type a story. Long story short, I don't know whether to believe him or not, even though my gut is tearing me up inside.

My husband and i have been together for 14 yrs since we were teenagers. recently he moved out of the house becuase he has been under a lot of stress overwhelmed or so he said he also said even thoough he was moving out he did not want to seperate at all. he swore tome he wanted no one else. but today i found out he has been "talking" to some chick he plays pool with and he sent her flowers last night after spending the weekend here with me. I am so mad and confused and hurt i dont know what to do with myself right now. i trusted him completely. i dont know what to do.

My husband and I have been married for six years. There has been infidelity in our marriage on both parts. We started going to couseling last year I thought that this was going to be a fresh start. While we were in couseling he cheated on me and I found out from someone else that he did. We stopped going to counseling because he hid it from me the whole time anyway. I was going to leave but he convinced me to stay saying that he only did it to get back at me for cheating three years prior which made me feel really guilty. So I stayed thinking that things would be better we decided to try to have another baby which was a big mistake four months into my pregnancy I found out that yet again he was cheating, but this time was worse this was a full blown affair not a one night stand. Now I feel stuck and have no idea what to do.

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