Question for all that have been marrried twice or more
This will be my second marriage as well as the second for my groom. We both have completely furnished homes that we will be combining to a certain degree. How do we inform our guests that the gifts we wish for should be monetary? Is there an appropriate place or way it should be stated in the invite? Also, if we have no need for any household items, should we bother with a registry?
Hi Tess,
I am actually not married but will be in less than two months so maybe i can help you a little. My Fiance and I already live together and we too only really want monetary gifts so I did MUCh reaserch on this and this is what I decided. First, according to all the experts, my family, and friends it is extrememly rude to put that you only want money as a gift anywhere on the invitation. What i am doing is a word of mouth campaign. At first i refused to register and basically told everyone that was invited "i hope everyone just brings envolopes because we already have two of everything" But i did it like i was talking about someone else not like i was telling the person directly. I am not sure this is comming across right, but you ge the idea. I did eventually cave in and do a small registry at Bed Bath and Beyond only at my mother's insistance because of my shower. So there it is..hope it helps.
Thanks Ski...
I actually heard the same thing about putting monetary gifts on the invite...but I wanted to be sure.
I think using the word of mouth plan may work..Lord knows we don't need another toaster or blender. We have been in our two homes for over ten years....need I say more. I guess it wouldn't kill me to register somewhere.
You know about registring...you can register for new towels, sheets, hampers, bathroom accessories, new pots and pans, You would not think that you NEED anything..but go look around, you may find that you WANT some stuff. That's what happened with us. We have everything we need, two of this two of that..but NO matching towels!! So we registered for the stuff we want. I scanned in the Ramba robot vacum, he scanned in a massager chair, we scanned in matching hampers for the bedroom, new sheets, towels..stuff like that. It was alot of fun! You know i have also seen sites like Liberty where you can register for a Honeymoon! Good luck and let me know how goes the planning!! Congrats!
Thanks for the advice...I'll begin to make a list of things that we can register for....and a chance for a free honeymoon sounds real good to me.
The planning is going well..I have a good support team this time around and we began extremely early. My wedding is not until Labor Day weekend 2009. As I have advised many other brides to be...don't do this whole wedding planning thing alone...if someone offers to help you..TAKE IT!
Congrats to you on your upcoming nuptials in a few weeks!
Holy Cow..we are getting married exactly one year apart. My Wedding is Labor Day weekend too!! Okay so now TRUST me when I tell you send out your INVITATIONS way earlier than you would think..like three months because alot of people make plans for that weekend in advance. Okay I am out of advise, you probably will have yours planned and ready to go better than i could. Good luck :)
Wow...Thats great. At least our husbands to be won't say that they didn't remember their anniversary. (OR shall I say they better NOT FORGET!)
And yes...my plans are well on course...I refused to wait until the last minute...my save the date cards are going out right after Christmas this year.
I should have done those..oh well. I put up a post on the Bridezilla page about my wedding flowers, check it out and tell me what you think.
I am also a second-time bride, and I'm registering for a honeymoon. I was against the idea at first, but family and friends pointed out that guests are going to buy gifts anyway, so it may as well be something you want.
Two of my girlfriends registered with www.thebigday.com, and they both raved about it. Guests can buy you a night at your chosen hotel, a day trip, a romantic dinner, or a bottle of wine--even a bottle of suntan lotion, whatever fits in their budget. It's not the same as getting cash gifts, but at least it's money you won't have to spend on a great vacation. And guests are happy because they actually bought you something.
Well I too am getting married again to the same man. But we never got divorce, we made a deal I want an extravagant wedding and he wants a small. So we had his wedding first and now it’s my turn and we have a house so what I am going to do it out monetary gifts only, on the invite.
It’s nothing wrong of doing that remembers you are the bride.