"Vow Renewal" Advice
Okay, so I am actually already married, but my husband and I were not satisfied with just going to the courthouse like we did. He said he feels like it won't be and I quote "right until we do it in front of our families". The only problem is the fact that our families say we shouldn't do it because we are already married. But not all our family knows we got married, so we decided to go ahead with it and start planning it. So I was wondering is it still okay to do everything you would at a wedding for our vow renewal ceremony i.e. (Unity candle, bridesmaids, garter toss, bouquet toss) Oh and did i mention we have 3 kids, none of which were there to see us get married!?!? I really want us to be able to share our special day with our kids so is it okay to do all the things people do at "weddings"????
You should completely do it. Marriage is a celebration of love in which you show others how you feel about each other to your friends and family and after 3 kids of course you must love each other. Why not to show that to other people. Plus everyone loves parties where they get to see friends and family they haven't seen in a long time an a wedding is just perfect for that.
Good luck with your planning, it gets so overwhelming sometimes.
Do what you want! Have a big to-do, if that is your thing....
My Husband's brother got married in Japan back in 2004. Because it would take the United States months to recognize a union outside the country, the got married by the justice of the peace here, a couple of weeks after they returned from Japan.
The following summer in 2005, they had a church wedding and big reception here in the states, because only immediate family was there with them in Japan.
Who cares if you are already technically married?
If you want to do this, go for it!