Where do we go for definition of liberty and law
Where is the law that should have protected my daughter? I bellieve having the liberty to love anyone of any sex, creed, color, or sex is a beautiful cause for freedom and liberty, but because we are an infallable society the law must place limitations on that liberty. When my 15 year old daughter became involved with a 28 year old woman local law enforcement was unable to help us. I was told since her partner was a woman that sexual contact could not be proved, therefore she was not treated as a predator. Is an adult seeking out intamacy and sex from a child not a predator irregardless of gender? Our society has evolved to a day when stalking, hitting children, and all rapes are recognized and subject to due process. These movements were created by victims and families who fought for them. It is too late for my daughter, her life will never be the same, I want a fight for the definition of the law, I want justice restored, and freedom respected. Could someone point me in the right direction, someone please talk to me. As a person this woman is responsible for her actions, as a mother I am responsible, as a community and country we are all responsible. Marla Hogan
I agree with the principal of your statement. I can’t belive Law enforcement would make such statement, yet they do! It is well known you can prove if a woman assaults another, you don’t always need seaman to prove sexual assault. In most states if a man over 17 has consensual sex with a woman 15 to 17 they can and many times are charged with rape and assault, so why not a woman? I was 17 when I enlisted in the Navy my 15 year old girlfriend and I did have a sexual relationship, however we knew attitudes changed when I enlisted. So we kept it very quite, until we ended our relationship. When I was at sea she turned 16 and took up with a man who was 19, later they married and moved out of the state. The attitude of her peers was; how Cool, you have a real man, had her folks known they probably would have put him in jail. For me I started dating older women, it was safer and I liked them better than women of my age. More so the women I met in the different ports I visited. The oldest woman was 30 when I was 18. My Dad was 14 years older than my mom when they dated, when they were married Dad was 32 and mom was 18. My Moms folks were angry, but they stayed married (sometimes happy and other times Very unhappy) until mom past away, they had been married 18 years; I was 16, my sister 17 and my brother was 14. My oldest daughter had a physical syndrome that aged her in all aspects. When she was 12 she went through Meadipause. When she was 15 and wanted to date a man who was 21 I nor her mother had a problem with it, after all in reality she was older than him. Don’t get me started on teachers! I realize when I 15, and the other 15 year old boys realized the new 24 year old (and some older) teacher looked Hot! We even talked about what it would be like to ‘date’ her! Had we been lucky we would have told no one, just bragged to our peers. The problem is teachers are an ‘authoritive type figure’ this causes problems. Those who are in that role shouldn’t have a personal relationship with those who they ‘rule over’. I know too some of the teacher student relationships were started by the student. I hear the crowd boo and hiss saying, but the teacher should have said no, they are the responsible one! True, but I counter that with; don’t underestimate the seductive power of those who purposely set out to seduce! After I enlisted at 17 The teacher I wanted to date, didn’t see me as a 17 year old student, she saw a sailor who was pestering her for a date! She was 8 years older and one of the most fun dates I had experienced, including the 28 year old nurse I seduced into dating me when I was 16! So it is difficult for me to put age to a loving relationship. With all that said, under normal conditions 15 year old girls should not be with anyone older than 18. I don’t believe kids should have one on one dates until 16; group dates at 13.
Now to address your concern I do believe law enforcement fail too many times with kids who are abused by rape and or physical and psychological abuse. Look at the incident with the preachers adopted child that aired on WE last night. Where was the law and social workers when the adoption wasn’t complete, yet she stayed with the family. Where was the help when she showed up in church bruised and battered? Oh, he’s the pastor and he says he isn’t abusing her, so she must be clumsy! We should know by now ‘men/women of God’ do commit crime, including child abuse! One the flip side we have proper law abiding parents swat a child on the behind and they are arrested and charged with abuse! A mom of similar caliber steps out of her car leaving the sleeping child in the child seat wail she walks 20 feet (always watching the car) to place a letter in a mail box; she is arrest and the child placed in foster care! Where is the Justus? Yet when I was shopping, I witnessed a parent slap a child in the face, as a social worker for the county I am obligated by law to report the abuse. I spoke to the offending father, telling him what he did was not needed and a crime and I was going to report him. He cursed me out, and threatened me! After waiting 45 minuets the police still hadn’t showed, the parents run off and I give up an leave as well. I was angry that law enforcement decided too finch their break before responding.
We need law reform to clear up this mess and make laws more stringent and more standard from state to state; our children need our love and our protection!