Long term relationships in High school
So, I'm seventeen now and I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend/best friend since we were both fourteen and 3 and a half years is just a LONG time. We fight a lot because of stupid little things that really shouldn't matter - I hate to compare, but it's a lot like Crystal's story from High School Confidential. He's my rock, I lean on him when there's no one there because my parents just don't understand and there's no one else who would be there all the time. However, the little fights are just too much, especially on top of all the stresses from the AP classes I take, professional internship and just other activities I do. Is that normal? We've been talking a LOT about breaking up because of all that's going on and I just don't know anymore. He's just the perfect guy - 6'0", 4.0, National Merit, 2190 SATs, 5s on APs, drummer, pianist, Varsity sports, newspaper journalist, attractive (not just biased! lol!) and very very trustworthy and honest; however, I think he's just taking me for granted now because I used to have a lot of guy friends so he'd feel the need to take care of me and think about me, but now I'm not even a second thought... I'm more of a fifth thought. What should I do? Will things ever change? College is right around the corner... so... ???
I am sixteen (soon to be seventeen) and like you i am also in a long term relationship ( almost 2 yrs) and I believe that you should let him know how you really feel. Let him know that you feel taken for granted and express your feelings openly and honestly to him. Tell him this calmly in a way that won't hurt his feelings in order to prevent an argument from starting. Then see how things work out from there. Honestl,y I also think you're very young to start out your first year of college with a relationship. It's your first chance to have fun and live freely while your on your own. I mean depending on your coping skills, you wouldn't want to spend the whole first semester constantly worrying about him and missing him so much. I mean I know it's extremely difficult, especially since you've been with him for so long so it's your decision. He might or migh not be the right guy for you and like Cate said, look at the pros and cons of your boyfriend then follow your heart. Lots of luck with desision making and I hope it all works out for you.
-Kate
I think it's normal. That is a long time- especially for a long age! I recommend not being in a relationship when you first go to college, especially if you go to different schools. Crystle and Tyler are still together... but that is very rare! If you guys take a break and realize you really want to be back together, then it took the break to realize that.
Just because he is the stereotypical perfect guy, that doesn't mean he's necessarily perfect for you! There are SO many great guys out there... he's just one of the many.
But, it's your choice! Making a "yay" and "nay" list always helps.
Good luck,
Cate