Eating Disorders
Not to sound harsh, but I have been recovered from anorexia for 12 years now and Heather is an incredibly selfish, snotty person. I cannot believe what I am watching and her nasty attitude with her Dr and her friends and I'm on the side of having been there. I don't know why but is anyone else rubbed wrong by her?
i think you are being harsh. i thought she seemed like a very sweet person. having a film crew following you around i bet can be a little nervewrecking, i dont blame her for freaking out at the doctors, it wasnt like it was just her and the doc in the room hello there was a film crew. people should focus on her how far she has come, its difficult to get over eatingdisorders, every day is a fight and it was very brave of her to share her story, it helps people understand the disorder, and to have compassion.
anyways she's a beautiful person inside and out
and i hope she relizes how prescious she really is.
Heather if you ever read this i just want to let you
know that im rooting for you; your a strong person and can overcome this. God has a plan for you.
read Jeremiah 29:11
Thanks for the clarification. Sometimes I really get frustrated when people "trivialize" this whole disorder. I know keeping a sense of humor is important, but it's also a painfully sad, lonely, and unhappy way to live. At least for me, anyway. It's about so much MORE than food, weight, and body image. One of the hardest things to do is "open yourself up" publicly for judgement and criticism. Especially when your whole problem can be stemming from a poor self image to begin with. Just remember, if even one life is saved, or if one family member or friend is enlightened, your sharing is worth it. It takes a lot of courage. Best of luck.
~ Tracy
someone had posted a bunch of stupid comments... talking about gross things... nothing related to this post... but egging it on. so basically an internet "troll". luckily those comments got deleted. :)
Hi. I've been following this dicussion on the WE program about Eating Disorders. Can anyone 'enlighten' me about the "gotta love trolls" comment? ~
Knowing other WE programs and the editing, scripted stuff, I did watch this with a grain of salt after reading some of the postings. Heather did sort of rub me the wrong way but I didn't see her as selfish. From what I understand through this show and other stuff is this disease is like any addiction, the person has to acknowledge they have a problem and WANT to get better before they will. I'm sorry but I didn't see Heather as someone that really wants to get better. I have body issues but also know life is precious and you have to take care of yourself. Until these girls realize this, they will never get better.
** gotta love trolls **
...sigh...
Hi, again. Sorry for rambling on in my previous entry.
I wanted to apologize for my error in spelling BULIMIA in the first paragraph. It must be a mental block. I've always detested that term. It even sounds unattractive and barbaric! :O
~Tracy Venice, FL
Gosh, I sometimes forget how PAINFUL even engaging in dialog about this is for me. I am a 37 year old woman, living in Venice Florida) *Heather I live pretty close to you, and I NEED a friend!) I have been battling anorexia and bulima for more than twenty years, and it has DESTROYED my life. To those that consider Heather "selfish", I am very sorry for YOU. Part of being
truly 'recovered/recovering' is developing compassion for others. I was so struck by the "unconditional" love that these two women; in very different places on their journey; had for one another. I would treasure EITHER of them as a friend. Both exhibited courage and sincerity in the face of this HORRIBLE disease. I cannot tell you how many people~ friends, family, boyfriends,doctors, etc... have dismissed me from their lives because I am STILL struggling. Being left alone (tough love) only makes my wish to die stronger. The up-side to this is that the people that HAVE stuck by me, love me, and haven't given UP on me, even when I have given up on myself. I, too have been in treatment dozens of times. Each time, I've met the most amazing, women, girls, and yes, men and boys. I NEVER want to see them hurt, as I have hurt. I've lost EVERYTHING. I was a school teacher, now I'm on disability and living with my parents. I've had ALL of my teeth replaced , and am $20,000 in debt because I didn't want to look like a scary, shriveled up, toothless, bony witch. I have severe osteoperosis, dry, brittle, thin, hair, and so many WRINKLES I look ninety instead of 37! ~ Oh my gosh, I really have rambled on. I do NOT want pity, and I do not see Heather as wanting pity. It's time people stopped putting the "sensational" spin on these disorders. It's not the spoiled, rich girl syndrome it has been portrayed as in the past. Tell me, WHO would wish THIS on themselves?? I wish you, Heather, and Adrienne the best. If you want a new friend on this journey let me know! ~Tracy O. from Venice, FL
Any eating disorder is a hard thing to recover from but it seems that Heather has a death wish. She kept putting things back on her friend, Adrienne. That since her friend still has some body image concerns that she obviously can't see Heather in a proper light. I think most of America who watched the program can see that Heather is dangerously underweight. Add that to the health problems she already has, well, who is to say she will wake up everyday? Harsh but true.
I too am recovered. Just a couple of years but I KNOW what it's like. I am unfortunately on permanent disability due to the severity of my heart condition & osteoporosis -- not what I had planned for my life. I'm only 24.
I would hate to see Heather end up like this. She seems to have at least some support and I hope she will take better advantage of it. It's time to give up being a child.
Woops - I meant to say that my friend is NOW bulimic, I wrote the word "not" by mistake.
This is Joy/Mistress Dominae Drakonis from last week's episode "Dirty Little Suburban Secrets." I agree with Heather. They only use a tiny bit of footage from three days worth of taping. I think that they did a great job with both my episode and this episode on Eating disorders.
I have a close friend who was anorexic and is not bulimic. She's beautiful, but she just can't see it herself. I'm very happy that the eating disorder episode was on. I'm sure it will help some women find the recovery that they need. So, thank you Heather. I know it was hard for you to put yourself out there, but good will come of it!
it is hard to accurately portray someone in a one hour show from three full days of filming... there is alot that goes into filming the episode and i would be happy to talk to you about the whole "scene" with the dr... there was alot more to it than what was in there... i am sorry if i came across as selfish and snotty... i was nervous about how i would be portrayed, but am glad that the show was not sensationalized. that was one of the fears i had going into it. i did not want them to turn it into something dramatic and overdone... some of the scenes DID get dramatized etc, and what is done is done, but overall, i am glad that they were able to keep a positive spin on most of it.
-heather
No I wasn't bothered by that. I imagine that having an eating disorder can be incredibly difficult and if she doesn't want to be weighed then she shouldn't have to be. She's over 18 and therefore recovery is up to her. I do think she should see a nutritionist who could weigh her backwards and just let her know if she needs to gain or not (I'm sure she does). But I didn't think she came off as snotty at all. Just someone struggling with anorexia, which I'm sure is hard.