For this season you all will be fortunate to get the male perspective on these Bridezillas from me. Many times my female friends ask me why their men treat them the way they do. Most of the time I find that these men have grown frustrated with the insensibilities of his needs and responsibilities. So hopefully through these blogs you wonderful women will gain an understanding about the way we think. So let’s get to it.
I recall Marlene’s husband-to-be, Jose, having no say in being involved with wedding plans until the cake tasting. This was his big moment to finally help with decisions. He liked the rainbow colored cake and she liked none. Then she had the nerve to tell him “shut the f*c$ up.” Later, they went to a friend’s house where they arrive an hour and a half late, but its okay with Marlene when it gets her friend upset. Jose compliments the cake and Marlene gets so mad she cusses Jose and her friend out. Does this all make sense to you? He does what is asked and is considerate, but is still disrespected. This is the problem with many relationships. As men do what is asked it is still never satisfactory to some women
This past Valentines, I took my girlfriend to one of our favorite restaurants in L.A. called Maggiano’s. We order a three course meal and when deciding on the dessert, dinner becomes a mind game. We usually get the chocolate cake, but I suggest we try something new like the Tiramisu. Tiramisu has a light coffee taste and she loves coffee. It’s delicious, and since she never tried it I thought it was a match made in heaven. She says it sounds “good.” I ask her what she wants and she replies, “Get whatever you want. We can try the Tiramisu.” At this point the waitress notices my girlfriend is mad, and I decide to put my foot down and order the Tiramisu. Five minutes later she tells me, “I’ll catch a cab. You always get whatever you want,” and I am left to eat Tiramisu in candle light by my self. #WINNING. It sounds very impractical to get mad about cake to me, so I understand how Jose feels.
A woman will be a woman just like a man will be a man, but is there anything wrong with a good compromise? Why can’t we both make the decision together? I understand some men out there might be a bit machismo, but for guys like me and Jose we do the best we can with the headaches in our lives that we love.
Jeremi Dudu is an intern in the Digital Media department at WE tv. He enjoys writing about health, wellness and relationships. Jeremi received his degree in Communication from the University of Southern California.