My name is Danielle, I’m 37 years old and a Customer Operations Manager. I’m a Bridezilla because I’m demanding and bratty. I like things to be a certain way and will do anything to get my way. When the vendors for my wedding weren’t providing the service I wanted and deserved I reminded them that mediocrity wasn’t an option for a royalty bride. When my bridesmaids would get out of order I reminded them that they were optional participants too.
In hindsight my bridal party was too large. I had many people who didn’t qualify to participate in a royal wedding. When selecting my bridesmaids I wish I would have selected not to have anyone. For some reason, some of my bridesmaids thought in the process of planning my wedding I was supposed to care about their feelings and opinions. I had the same problem with some of my in-laws thinking that their opinion of how, where or what my wedding should be actually mattered to me. I’ve learned that many people want to be in the presence of nice things, but aren’t ready for the big league of my class and taste.
It took 9 months for me to plan my wedding. Over those 9 months I experienced every emotion that any human can have. I had wedding planners and I still had to freak out over making sure things would be the way I wanted them. I met with different people over and over to make sure they understood what I expected. Down to 7 days before my wedding and you would have thought I had just met these same people for the first time. It was unbelievable! I had quite a few blow ups and break downs during the planning of the wedding that I never thought would happen. In many cases sanity didn’t seem to be an option in order for people to give me what I wanted.
Virgil and I went through a pre-marital boot camp type course at my church. That class helped me erase all of the preconceived expectations of our marriage. I had expectations for everything else besides how things would be after we were married. I still wake up each day having to remind myself that I’m married. My husband and I have known each other for so long and already have a set of 2 year old twins together. We didn’t live together before we got married so I keep waking up wondering why is he still here and when is he going home? (lol). Overall, we are still learning to be a husband, wife and parents and just learning how to love one another the way we want to be loved.
I never anticipated having so much stress with the last minute details of my wedding. I was a ticking time bomb the entire time we were filming. Many times I had a weird calmness about myself because I was afraid of me. I kept thinking to myself “I don’t want to go to jail on national TV”. The Field Producer many times would ask questions about things I had done or how I planned to handle certain situations. I would provide an answer, but after we would finish filming for the day I would lay in my bed thinking about who I was, how other people see me, how I see the world and the overall institution of marriage. The filming process helped me in some ways, it was very intense and a memorable experience. I appreciate my husband agreeing to expose my craziness to the Bridezilla Viewers. (lol)