Bride’s Name & Age: Brittany, 26
Bride’s Occupation: Pre-school Teacher for Head Start
Groom’s Name & Age: Michael, 26
Groom’s Occupation: General Laborer/Carpenter/Construction
Honeymoon location: Unknown – hopefully summer in Tahiti
How long have your been dreaming of your wedding day? What was/is your Dream Wedding: I already had my so called “dream wedding” on my first marriage; I never thought I would get married and I certainly never expected to be doing it twice. I dreamed of a winter extravaganza that was lit with Christmas lights, snow, and a 200 person guest list. I had all of that. Now my dream is to have an intimate day with only our closest friends and family. I would like to have soft lighting, a romantic feel, and lots of fun/drinking!
Approx. Wedding Budget: $16,000
Who’s Paying for Wedding? My fiancé and I are paying for everything. His parents gave us money at the beginning of planning but none of that really went to anything wedding related.
Whose in Charge of Budget? Technically, I am in charge of the budget but I am not great at keeping track of money or remembering where I put receipts or wedding information. So the budget is kind of just a guess.
What happens if you go over budget? Mike will be working more overtime; which he has already been doing since I was not working for a few months. Unfortunately, he will likely be pulling 60 hour weeks if we go over.
Who chose the rings? What’s the story behind the rings? We had talked about getting engaged before we actually did so and I began looking online to give Mike an idea of what style I liked. I ended up finding my engagement ring but we looked at several before we actually went to see the one I wanted. I put it on in the store and told him it was what I wanted and he could buy it right then. He went ahead and put the deposit down and then went back and got it a few days later. My wedding ring is being specially made because I wanted a diamond and amethyst band. I left the actual designing of the ring to Mike but he has specifics on what I want. If it not correct when I get it, it will be re-done as soon as we get back.
# of Guests attending: Aprrox: 65
# in Wedding Party: Right now 6 or 7 but the number has fluctuated many times so we can’t be sure.
How long have you been the planning wedding? I had the wedding pretty much entirely planned by the end of August and we got engaged in July. Then we moved the date up and I just now started re-planning for the new date.
How helpful has the groom been (or not) in the planning process? Mike is as helpful as I want him to be. I think he would like to be more involved but since he works so much, I just make the decisions and show him what they are later. Since I am so picky if he’s over-involved it annoys me but if he’s not helping at all and need him to be, that also annoys me. He has not seen any of our 5 different venues in person; he lets me make the choices and trusts that it will look good in the end.
Are you trying to lose weight before the wedding? How are you going about that? What’s your goal? I would like to lose at least 8-10 pounds before the wedding although everyone keeps saying not to; including my seamstress who threatened not to fix my dress if I lost weight. I stay in shape with Pole Fitness classes and Aerial Acrobatics and I am not opposed to dieting if I have to. I had my dress fitted so early because I wanted to make sure I had motivation not to gain any weight.
Tell us about your family. How have they been involved in the planning process? Neither one of our families have been involved despite attempts to include Mike’s mother. My mom has done a few things with me but for the most part my family is very hands-off.
Have you or your groom been married before? Any children? I have been married before but no children resulted from that relationship. Thank God.
Who are your most/least favorite celebrity brides and why? I don’t particularly care for celebrity brides but I did love Carrie Underwood’s wedding because of all the personal touches she put into it plus she is gorgeous but understated. I also LOVED Brad and Jen’s wedding back in day; they looked so happy and in love I always dreamt of a wedding like that. There isn’t really any celebrity bride that I disliked. I know I will never have a wedding that over the top so I do not pay a lot of attention to what’s going on.
What’s the worst thing that could go wrong on your wedding day?
1.) My Dad showing up with my 4 siblings when I SPECIFICALLY told him not to. If that happens he will be sent home with the kids and my step-mom.
2.) Mike drinking too much at the reception and getting out of control. Sometimes he is not so great with handling his alcohol.
3.) Not having an officiant show up on time or at all. I will freak out beyond belief.
What’s been your biggest stress since you started planning the wedding? Family drama, money, lack of time and more family drama.
How do you typically handle stressful situations in regards to your wedding? I drink, cry and/or yell to get my point across.
Define the type a bride you will be: I would say I am a laid-back, type-A personality, controlling and emotional bride. I tend to get a little drunk, lazy, then I cry and someone gets yelled at. That pretty much happens on a regular basis not just during bridal planning. I get stressed out easily because I am a procrastinator and then I need everything done at once. I also tend to be extremely sarcastic and a lot of people do not get my sense of humor.
Tell us any dilemmas or stressful moments regarding the below details of the wedding. What happened? How was it resolved?
Location: We have changed venue’s 5 times and lost money on all of them because we decided to change the place after we had paid the deposits. We finally settled on our current venue but we did not tell any of the other places that we were no longer planning on working with them. It was resolved by me deciding on a place and sticking to it.
Budget: Our budget is really without a firm place. We picked a budget out of thin air and had no real idea about how that was getting paid for. We are not really keeping track of anything we just assume that things will all work out.
The Groom: We have had a lot of ups and downs with him pissing me off because of the way he handles his family. It was resolved by him finally growing a pair and telling his mother to back off.
Wedding Party: I have had a grand told of 7 bridesmaids that have all been rotated around and kicked out of the wedding in the last 6 months. Friendships have ended and now I want to just get rid of everyone. I am down to 2 or 3 depending on if their dresses come in on time. They can take care of their own business. I’m not their babysitter, they can just not show up.
In-Laws: As I stated above my mother-in-law and I are not on good terms and quite frankly I don’t care if she shows up or not. I know she will because she had friends to “impress” and she will put on a fake showing of togetherness. She has been instructed not to speak or to me or my mother the day of or things will get out of hand quickly.
Family: My father has been instructed not to show up with my 4 younger siblings and if he does he will be instructed to turn right back around and take them home.
What’s the story of how you got engaged? I knew that Mike had the ring because my mom had called and told me that he bought it. I went shopping (knowing he was home) and returned thinking he was going to have some elaborate plan for a proposal in place. I walked in to him sitting on the couch watching TV no surprise in sight. I made it about an hour before I asked what the hell was going on. I demanded him to just give me the ring because obviously he didn’t care enough to be creative. I cried and started drinking so he brought the ring out and sat it on the table. I then told him that I didn’t want it at all. He took it back and then we fought for about an hour. As I stormed off to get dressed to go out he grabbed me by the hand and got down on one knee. He gave an amazing speech that I can’t really remember but I know I cried and then said yes. The ring didn’t fit so I wrapped clear tape around the bottom so I could go out with the ring on after that.
What do you love the most about your husband-to-be: He is gentle: genuinely kind-hearted: goofy; fun to be with; patient; calm and laid back; works so hard to take care of me which I sometimes can’t stand; efficient, affectionate; giving without expecting anything in return; a little introverted (so he balances me out); thoughtful; protective; he loves to cook; he’s an animal lover and he is always willing to try new things.
What does he love about you? He says: I’m smart; hilarious; beautiful (my eyes especially); giving to those around me; fun to be around; sensitive but honest; non-judgmental; well-spoken: confident; loving; motivated; rational, open-minded; successful; I love dogs and he always says I will be a great mother.
What’s your biggest pet peeve about your husband to be? He often needs to be told something more than once to “get it”; he doesn’t always understand the small things or see problems before they get out of hand; he works too hard and puts too much pressure on himself; he is not as confident as he should be and it shows in his behaviors at times.
When you disagree, what is it usually about, and how do you handle it? We argue about his family or our inability to be on the same page about relationship issues. I hate having to EXPLAIN a problem to him, I am not his mother and I don’t want to be. We handle it by discussing the problem first and when he inevitably does not do things the way I think they should be done; a full on fight will ensue. However, he does not yell, he just sits quietly. Eventually he sucks and it up and realizes that I usually am correct about what is going on. I don’t just make up things for my health.
Has the engagement/wedding ever been called off, or in jeopardy? Between the two of us we have put the wedding on hold 3 times (we don’t tell people). It has been in jeopardy several times because of family issues and his occasional immaturity. I have been married before to someone who was basically an abusive child and I don’t want to make another mistake. I pretty much just obsess over any little thing that displeases me until it is corrected.
Who tends to bring out the Bridezilla behavior in you? Bridezilla behavior comes out for a multitude of reasons and not just one person. Mike usually brings it out the most because I get mad at him when things are not getting completed (as if he had any control to begin with). I whine a lot and start to get angry if I feel like he doesn’t understand me. My mother also gets on my nerves because she always has an opinion and it usually doesn’t agree with mine.
When things aren’t going your way in regards to how you want your wedding, how do you handle it? According to my wonderful fiancé; I will “flip the f—k out, probably start crying out of frustration, quit consulting anyone else and make a decision about what I want, then I will go about getting what I want by whatever means necessary.” Afterwards, I’ll tell everyone around me how things are going to be and what they need to do to make those things happen. I would say that is a pretty accurate statement.