Bride’s Name & Age: Cristal, 23.
Bride’s Occupation: Appraisal Coordinator
Groom’s Name & Age: Adam, 22
Groom’s Occupation: Office Supervisor
How long have your been dreaming of your wedding day? I have been dreaming about my wedding day since the day I came out of my mother’s womb-pretty sure I came out wearing a veil…My dream wedding is the typical Disney princess wedding with horse and carriage, handsome prince, and beautiful dress. I’ve always pictured walking down a long church aisle, with violins playing Canon in D, beautiful rose petals everywhere and having a handsome prince next to my side. The reception part always played through my mind like the final clips of Father of the Bride-a beautiful backyard dinner and reception filled with dancing, people and lots of food and drinks!
Approx. Wedding Budget: $25,000
Who’s Paying for Wedding? Adam and I with his mom helping with the rehearsal dinner.. and her “most important aspect” — the bar costs
Who’s in Charge of Budget? Me. Adam doesn’t understand the word budget. We completely failed the Catholic Archdiocese compatibility exam because of our disagreements on handling financial issues.
What happens if you go over budget? As of now we just fight about it until the other gives in. But if we end up having more debt after the wedding…check into Cash.
Who chose the rings? What’s the story behind the rings? Long story: Adam had taken me to select a “promise ring” on our 5 year anniversary. So we went and I selected one that I loved-custom made of course! Well he ended up proposing with that ring-which I was disappointed in because had I known that this was going to be my actual engagement ring I would have picked a better one. Either way, this past Valentine’s day, Adam bought me another ring (my true engagement ring) all by himself and proposed that holiday.
# of Guests attending: around 200
# in Wedding Party: 5 groomsmen and 5 bridesmaids and one ring bearer and one flower girl.
How helpful has the groom been (or not) in the planning process? Adam is my little Groomzilla. Together we make a good pair. I like one thing, he likes another. This is why we are getting married…because we keep it interesting. We both have very strong personalities and with the wedding our personalities and attitudes have begun to shine now more than ever. He ALWAYS puts his two cents in. I like purple, he wants more orange. I want more flowers, he wants more sticks…blah blah blah. I have to remind him that I’m a girl and that the wedding has to be somewhat girly..I sometimes find him planning for a wedding that fits the mold for a wedding for two gay guys-with brown colors and no flowers anywhere… But no matter what we are disagreeing about, Adam does try very hard to get what he wants.
Are you trying to lose weight before the wedding? How are you going about that? What’s your goal? Yes of course! I had a baby in January 2010 and yes I know that that’s a long time ago, but my body is nowhere near what I would like it to be. Ideally I would like to lose 20 lbs, but honestly as long as I can hide these stretch marks with a tan and conveniently placed fabric I’d be happy with losing 10. I have been going to the gym 3 times a week and tanning.
Tell us about your family. How have they been involved in the planning process? I don’t like to get my family involved in planning because I end up getting stressed out. I have a loopy sister who never understands anything and a know-it-all sister who forgets that the bride is me and not her-which is why she is NOT in the bridal party. My mom is straight from Puerto Rico and old fashioned in every way…so explaining to her that we are going for a simple, nature theme-she does not get it at all. She thinks a wedding isn’t a wedding unless there are flowers galore, gold rimed chairs, and hearts printed everywhere. What she forgets is that not only is it not 1987, but she already got married twice, AND even if I wanted all of that Adam and I are paying and we by no means have unlimited funds
What’s the worst thing that could go wrong on your wedding day? Drama between my sister Sam and I. Drama between my estranged dad and me. DRAMA with Adam’s dad and us.
What’s been your biggest stress since you started planning the wedding? MONEY, MONEY, MONEY. There’s never enough no matter what sacrifices we have made and there is always more that we realize that we need, especially with our wedding approaching. Adam and I rarely see eye to eye on what should be priority, and so we spend a lot of time going back and forth about things that seriously shouldn’t be sweated..
How do you typically handle stressful situations in regards to your wedding? As follows: Yell at Adam, Complain about issue, Complain about how much this wedding costs, Complain about how we’ve been living with my mom in a closet sized room for no reason, and lastly cry.
Tell us any dilemmas or stressful moments regarding the below details of the wedding. What happened? How was it resolved?
Cake: After our initial cake testing, we had picked our flavors and scheduled a final testing with our cake flavors and frosting. There was a huge snow storm in Milwaukee the day it was scheduled so we had to reschedule. The girl that picked up the phone sounded like trash, she sounded like she didn’t know A from Z and even when we got off the phone we knew that something was going to be wrong. Anyways the day came for the testing and go figure after waiting 20 minutes for them to find the cake slices, the lady finally came back to tell us that they could not find the requested flavors on hand. She apologized left and right and even after our description of the girl on the phone the woman knew right away who we had spoken to. Well it ended up with them whipping up a quickie version of our requested cherry chip and it didn’t taste too bad. At the end of the day we were not charged the $10/person final testing fee and were offered a mini cake to take home-which I rejected because I wanted to show just how irritated I was.
Date: Nothing really, just the fact that all the prices for everything wedding related are jacked up for Saturday June weddings…
Dress: Alterations cost $438! I purposely bought my dress off the rack to avoid spending a ridiculous amount of money and then the seamstress tells me the alteration cost will be $438! I ended up paying half at the first meeting and then calling her the next day to try to get the price down! Although I was unable to make her budge, I did get her to include other things like pressing, bead work, etc in the price.
Budget: Everything about the budget or lack thereof stresses me out. I hate money-I wish we could just barter with rocks…but then I would probably be the one with a pile of sand and no rocks…
Flowers: We are ordering our flowers at Sendiks (Adam’s work) and I swear the florist has a crush on Adam-which makes anything flower related really stressful since I just want to pop her in her face and put her in her face most of the time. But then I realize that her making the flowers for our wedding probably kills her enough and then I get happy.
The Groom: I can’t stand how involved he is in the wedding plans. Although for the most part I do end up getting what I want, it just would be easier if we could skip the whole arguing about his opinions all together and just plan my wedding
In-Laws: We all know how I feel about Adam’s prick of a father and my overbearing mother.
What do you love the most about your husband-to-be? That he’s still with me after all the bitching and pinching.
What does he love about you? My honest and hilarious personality and slammin body! Cellulite and all!
What’s your biggest pet peeve about your husband to be? He bites his nails/cuticles/skin all day!
When you disagree, what is it usually about, and how do you handle it? Always about how he wants to spend money on watching movies or buying DVDs. He tells me all I do is nag and act like a mom, but he acts like a spoiled 4 year old all the time!
When things aren’t going your way in regards to how you want your wedding, how do you handle it? I usually start off by yelling and screaming and then I start to cry and if I am dealing with Adam I pinch him.