Bride’s Name & Age: Gloria Ruiz, 28 years old, September 20, 1982
Bride’s Occupation: Medical Assistant in an OBGYN office
Groom’s Name & Age: Erik Senhouse, 32 years old, March 19, 1978
Groom’s Occupation: Assistant Manager for Mavis Discount Tires
Honeymoon location: We want to go to Disneyland with the children in Calfornia.
Approx. Wedding Budget: $25,000
Who’s Paying for Wedding? Erik and myself
Who’s in Charge of Budget? Erik is for the most part.
What happens if you go over budget? HAHAHA, nothing because we already went over budget with the upgrades I wanted thus far. And, there is no price for any HAPPINESS!
Describe your dream wedding dress: My dream wedding dress would have to be ivory with a long train and beautiful detailed beading. Which basically describes my dress.
Who chose the rings? What’s the story behind the rings? OMG!!! This is a pretty romantic story. Erik and his mother went to buy me an engagement ring together. Erik brought a beautiful setting. Then Erik’s mom gave him her aunt marys diamond to put as the center diamond. It was a family heirloom they wanted me to have as my beautiful engagement ring.
# of Guests attending: I do not have a final head count, but my guest list is between 160-170 guests including children.
# in Wedding Party: 6
How long have you been planning wedding? Well, I would have to say since mid October is when I started actively planning. Although I am no way near close to done.
How helpful has the groom been (or not) in the planning process? Explain.
Erik has been pretty good with the planning as far as paying for the things that I want for MY wedding day. He tries to tell me NO sometimes but that don’t ride easy wqith me, because in the end I get whatever I set out to get. There is no ifs, ands, or buts about it! It’s my day and I want it to be perfect!!!!
Are you trying to lose weight before the wedding? How are you going about that? What’s your goal? Yes I am trying to lose weight? Yes, I am trying to lose weight! It just so happens that my back fat don’t fit in my dress and it got me so TIGHT!! I will be a loose cannon if I don’t fix this situation by my wedding day!!
Tell us about your In-Laws. How do you get along with them? How does the groom get along with your parents? My in-laws are great. We really get along well. My soon to be father in law is a retired New York State Court Officer with a lot of connects. My soon to be mother in law is a retired school secretary. My soon to be in laws have been excepting and loving towards my children and myself. They treat me as if I was there daughter and my children were really their grandchildren. Erik also gets along really well with my parents. I thought it would be really difficult for my parents to accept him after everything that has happened in the past.
Tell us about your family. How have they been involved in the planning process?
I live at home in a basement apartment downstairs from my parents house. My father has a really long work schedule so he is not really around much. And my mom doesn’t have that much interest in my wedding plans. But that’s ok because I’m a grown woman and can do what I need for myself.
Have you or your groom been married before? Any children? If so, what role will the kids play on the wedding day? I was married before when I was 18 years old to the “biological” father of my children. I have 2 children, 9 years old and 6 years old. My daughter Jolene is the junior bridesmaid and my son John is the ring bearer.
Who are your most/least favorite celebrity brides and why? I don’t really pay attention to celebrity brides because the only wedding that is important to me is mine!
What’s the worst thing that could go wrong on your wedding day? The worst thing that could go wrong on my wedding day is that I go to put on my dress and I didn’t lose enough weight to fit in it.
What’s been your biggest stress since you started planning the wedding? My biggest stress so far is actually 2 things, the first being the seating arrangement. There are a few tables near the bathroom. That really bothers me because who wants to sit and eat near the toilet. And the second stress point is if venue room is big enough to fit all my guests. Because it seems small and not big enough to dance.
How do you typically handle stressful situations in regards to your wedding? The way I handle stressful situations regarding my wedding is getting a really bad attitude with Erik and I look for a fight.
Tell us any dilemmas or stressful moments regarding the below details of the wedding. What happened? How was it resolved?
Cake: I haven’t had a dilemma about the cake because I won’t be able to order it until January when the Venue has its new cake selections.
Location: I have huge dilemma with the location. The room we are in seems so small to fit the amount of guests I think are coming. I am worried there won’t be enough room to dance. Also, when I saw a diagram of how they would set up the tables, it got me even more worried. There will be a few tables near the restroom. No one will want to sit there. And, where they set the DJ up doesn’t look right in the room we will be in. I have had a lot of sleepless nights, aggravation, and anxiety.
Date: Well, I just realized about 4 months after we set the date, that his b-day is in March and his parents wedding anniversary is also in March. So I wonder if wanted that date because of those two events.
Dress : OMG!!! Where do I get started? I went to find a dress with my MOH on 10/20/10. We had a few places we wanted to go to, but since we both worked near DAVIDS BRIDAL we decided to go there first. I tried on a few dresses until I found MY dress. The bridal consultant said to me I had to order the dress that night nd leave a deposit if I wanted it here by in time for my wedding. So, of course I did it. I went back exactly 1 week after to pay off the dress in full. I asked the cashier as she was taking my money if the dress was in fact ordered, she told me it was. A couple of weeks ago I get a call while I was at work from the alterations department to set up a date to start my first alteration. I got excited and said, oh is my dress in? The women says to me we thought you had the dress and you were bringing it in with you. PAUSE!!! WHAT?? Oh no!! HAPPENING NOT GONNA!!! I told them put your manager on the phone, she gets on the phone and says let me get to the bottom of this and call you back. Fine I say. I never got a call back from her. I had to call her because I was freaking out. She had the nerve to tell me it was NEVER ordered! I flipped out on her. How could they make such a crucial mistake like that? This is my wedding day, I need a dress. She said I will make sure that the dress is still available to be here in time. SO long story short I said fine, but when I got home I lost it! The next night after work I went there and told them how upset I really was and how not professional they were. She gave me the number to call their corporate office. So the next day I called and explained the situation to the head person and she said she would make sure my dress was here in 2 weeks and I would get 20% back on my dress. I was not happy but I accepted it.
Budget: I don’t really have any stress or dilemmas because Erik knows he will give me what I want in the end anyway.
Flowers: The florist just so happens to be a really good friend of my future father in law. So when we went to talk to him he and Eriks mom came with us. The florist was insisted I have a “cascade” bouquet, I didn’t even know what it was. Then he showed me the picture of a “cascade” and it was BIG. It was not the bouquet I had in mind. But I went with it, then he starts with the bridesmaid bouquets. I said I wanted lavender and purple, so he insisted lavender with hints of purple. I am sure it is going to be the most beautiful flowers I ever saw. But a tiny part of me is worried.
The Groom: Whatever Erik says regarding the wedding is a stressful moment because it reminds me of the other things I mentioned.
Wedding Party: I originally had 5 bridesmaids. I am down to 2 now. My ex friend who I use to work with from my old job wanted a part time job. I thought I could try to get her in my office part time. She had an interview, got hired and never showed up to work. I called her a million times and her phone kept going to voicemail. I left her message and told her how could she do this to me, she made me look bad (not really), and I never will speak to her again, and she is out my wedding. She finally called me back that same night and left me a message saying some bull story that her brother took her phone and she didn’t know my number by heart and couldn’t remember how to get to my job. I never called her back and that was 8 months ago. Then my other friend, Crystal O. who loves in PA text me that she couldn’t be in the wedding because she couldn’t afford it all. Then as luck would have it, my aunt who was a bridesmaid said she didn’t want to be in it anymore, I don’t know why or what happened with my aunt making that decision, but I am so done with it.
In-Laws: My dilemma and stress with my in-laws is what happened last year with my future mother in laws health. She had a benign brain tumor removed and she has never been the same since. That situation has made me very stressful.
Family: the stressful dilemma I have in regards to my family is mostly about my mother. She dresses like she still lives in the 80’s with stretchy socks, slinky socks in multiple colors with Keds. And her socks always match her hair tie. Also, she does the HUSTLE at every wedding she has ever gone to. I just hope she realizes that I will be in charge picking out her dress and her hair, nails, and make up
What’s the story of how you got engaged? The story of how I got engaged is really romantic. Erik first asked my dad for my hand in marriage. When he was ready to propose he asked me to take a ride with him to his friend’s house. So, I went and he took a detour. We ended up under the Throgs Neck Bridge at Fort Totten where we had our first kiss. That’s where he proposed to me.
What do you love the most about your husband-to-be? What I love most about my husband-to-be is that he always puts my kids and me ahead of himself because he is such a genuine good hearted man that loves us unconditional.
What does he love about you? That I work just as hard as he does to bring in an income. I make sure that he does not have the burden of supporting our household by himself. Plus, I’m independent!
What’s your biggest pet peeve about your husband to be? My biggest pet peeve about Erik is his SNORING!!!! I lose so much damn sleep because he snores so loud. My children wake up all hours of the night as do I to tell him to “SHUT UP” No matter how hard I try I cannot get him to stop snoring, I roll him to his side, he still snores, I kick him in the butt, he still snores, I elbow him in the side, he still snores. No matter what I do he does not stop SNORING!!! I tell him all the time how much I absolutely HATE his snoring and how DISGUSTING it is too. His excuse is “my deviated septum.” Do you want to know what I tell him when he uses that excuse? “go to the doctor and get it fixed!”
When you disagree, what is it usually about, and how do you handle it? When Erik and I disagree it is usually about money. We both work a lot to take care of our family and pay for the wedding ourselves and buy a house all at the same time. For the most part we have an argument and hold a grudge with each other for awhile. He usually ends up trying to forget about itand move on but I can’t get over it and stay with an attitude for a day or two.
What disagreements have come up about the wedding? The disagreements that have come up about the wedding is the guest list. I keep adding people to the list and I forget sometimes that we pay $70.00 per person after 125 are guaranteed. Also, we disagree about Jolene, he says she should be the flower girl and I say no she is the junior bridesmaid, I wanted all purple and he wanted hints and touches of purple, the invitations I wanted he didn’t like because he wanted modern ones, we also have disagreements about asking my father to pay for the rehearsal dinner.
Has the engagement/wedding ever been called off, or in jeopardy? If so, what happened and how did it get resolved? It was almost called off once and was absolutely in jeopardy when we first got engaged because he went out with his friends, shut off his phone and went MIA. I could not deal with how irresponsible he could be by doing that. It got resolved because I told him he can’t go out with his friends anymore.
In what ways have you shown Bridezilla behavior during the wedding planning? I have shown Bridezilla moments when I am home and I start thinking about the certain things I cannot stand about the venue, I call Erik at work and blow up on him until he finds a way to make me happy. An example is that Erik left work one night early to meet me at Davids Bridal because I made him think that I would be leaving there in handcuffs.
Who tends to bring out the Bridezilla behavior in you? Why? Erik is mostly the one to bring out the Bridezilla in me because he knows what buttons to push…Prime example, right now he is making me mad as I fill out this particular question!
When things aren’t going your way in regards to how you want your wedding, how do you handle it? I get a really bad attitude and bark at whoever is in front of me at that time. I kick butt first then take names later.