How long have your been dreaming of your wedding day? What was/is your Dream Wedding: I have been dreaming of my wedding day since I was about 18. My dream wedding used to be a princess gown full and fluffy in the church my parents got married in here in Bakersfield. Since getting older and getting out of town the wedding I am planning is becoming my dream. A beautiful Chapel in the Paris hotel followed by dancing in a night club atmosphere. I want there to be a lot of drinking dancing and fun!
Approx. Wedding Budget: $7,500
Who’s Paying for Wedding? Jason and I are paying for it mostly ourselves, but our moms have contributed about $2,400 so far to help out.
Who’s in charge of budget? Mostly I am. I handle most of figuring how much things will cost and trying to find the best deals to get what I want at the price we can afford. I have to do it, otherwise it will either not get done or it will be done very wrong and at the wrong price.
What happens if you go over budget? I don’t even want to think about it! But, if we do, then we will have to ask his dad for help. Unfortunately my father passed away 7 years ago and his father would have to help out. I’m not sure that he is very willing, as he has already told Jason that the wedding is the Bride’s family’s responsibility. I hope that he would be understanding and help out seeing as how my mother is a pre-school teacher and has offered as much as she can afford to help out.
Describe your dream wedding dress: My dream wedding dress is a dress I saw at a store that was a trumpet style tight fitted tube top sweet heart neckline that made my boobs and butt look phenomenal! It had these frill looking things at the bottom, and they were gorgeous, I dreamed about this dress. However, the funding for the dress was not there so I got a dress from my dear friend's bridal shop which sadly has since closed, it is a demetrois dress and it is very gorgeous!!
Who chose the rings? What’s the story behind the rings? Jason and his mom chose out my bridal set. He was looking for weeks and couldn’t decide which to get so he took his mom because there was a ring he kept looking at, but wasn’t sure it was something I would love, but she assured him that I would and I do! I chose his ring. I looked at the same place he got my ring because I liked the way they treated us. I saw a ring and it just looked like something he would actually like and would like to wear and of course I was right and he does like it. However, it is too bulky he says so we are going to get another ring that is less thick for him to wear every day and the other ring will be for special occasions.
# of Guests attending: 65-70
# in Wedding Party: 5 bridesmaids, and 5 groomsmen. Children tend to ruin weddings so I prefer none to attend.
How helpful has the groom been (or not) in the planning process? He actually has not been very helpful. Every time I ask him to do even one little thing like call the reception hall to talk to the coordinator to make sure who exactly our coordinator is, he can’t even find the number to make the call. Even though I’ll be at work and do not have the time to do it and he is home, he can’t figure out just to google the name of the reception hall to be able to even make the call. So I get home and ask if he called and he will tell me, “Oh, you never gave me the number so I figured you would just do it.” REALLY!?!?
Are you trying to lose weight before the wedding? How are you going about that? What’s your goal? ABSOLUTLY!!! I have been going to the gym trying to go 5 days a week but so far have only been going 2-3 days a week. I’m currently about 126 and want to be 115. I refuse to eat sweets and get mad when people eat sugar or pizza or anything of that sort in front of me. I feel like you know I am trying to lose weight and that obviously doesn’t help with you sitting there tempting me!
Tell us about your future In-Laws. How do you get along with them? How does the groom get along with your parents? I honestly love his mom and her husband. I would say he is Jason’s step dad, but they got married when Jason was 23 so it doesn’t seem much of a step dad age. I do like them both and they are so supportive. Jason’s dad and I don’t have much contact. I don’t like how he treats Jason or his brothers very much and I don’t like that despite having more than enough money to help us out with the wedding he has thus far made no attempt to help out in anyway. He called me a coloring book during Christmas because I have tattoos!!
Tell us about your family. How have they been involved in the planning process? My family has been very absent in the planning process. Except for my mom. I wish she would be more absent though to be honest. She is driving me insane with all of her stupid little questions. Whenever I tell her about how I am going to get the invitations soon she keeps making faces and saying how if I wait too soon we will not get them in on time. I don’t know why that bothers me, I think it’s because every time she says that I tell her not to worry about it. She nit picks at everything and says if it were her wedding she would do this or that, I have had to tell her, “Well, it’s NOT your wedding so back off!!” To which she cries and tells me how awful I am being to her.
Have you or your groom been married before? Any children? Thankfully no kids or previous marriages. All though most of my friends have children I have made it clear no children will be in the wedding and I would prefer if none came.
Who are your most/least favorite celebrity brides and why? I don’t follow celebrity weddings because I just get pissed off and jealous that I am not loaded rich and can’t afford even a 16th of the things they got to do for theirs.
What’s the worst thing that could go wrong on your wedding day? Jason parties too much with his boys and oversleeps and misses the wedding. It is an actual concern that I have!
What’s been your biggest stress since you started planning the wedding? The bridesmaid dresses. Every time I like something the bridesmaids would tell me that either it was too expensive, or unattractive. I picked out a beautiful dress that I wanted them to wear and they all told me it was too much! I gave up and told them to wear whatever they wanted since I was incapable of finding something to THEIR liking. Finally my MOH found a dress that I kind of liked, it is a little casual but at that point I couldn’t muster that ability to care. I was at work and just said yes.
How do you typically handle stressful situations in regards to your wedding? I try everything to get my way. I yell or cry and take it out on whomever I feel deserves to get yelled at for the stupid little things that aren’t being taken care of. Whether that is the reception hall, Jason or my bridesmaids. Mostly I seem to argue with Sarah, Jason or my mom. They are the ones that tend to get in my direct line of fire or are the least useful in helping me out and actually add to the stress. Which makes me yell more or cry more depending on how stressed I am that day.
Define the type a bride you will be: Emotional. I am quick to cry if I don’t get my way or something goes wrong or I get bad or even unexpected news. I am very impulsive too.
Tell us any dilemmas or stressful moments regarding the below details of the wedding. What happened? How was it resolved?
Dress: originally my brother and his wife said they would pay for the whole thing, until I told them the dress I wanted then it went to half the price. But I hadn’t saved up my half so my brother told me either save up then we’ll order it or find a cheaper dress. So, I had to find a cheaper dress because it was not in the budget for me to have to pay anything for my dress.
Budget: We recently downgraded our package for the ceremony because we owed $3,700 and can only afford $2,700. Jason’s mom said they couldn’t help out with the other grand and suggested that we down grade the reception to not have a dinner, but I found that tacky so I decided to go from the 2 night honey moon suite package at the Paris hotel to a less inclusive wedding package with more of just the basics.
The Groom: He just has a total inability to do even one thing without my help. So, I just hold his hand and sometimes argue with him about the little things I ask him to do that he says I should handle, I think he just doesn’t want to do it and plays dumb, so to resolve it I just do it myself after a brief semi-heated argument.
Wedding Party: So far just the wedding dress ordeal. As the wedding draws nearer the more benign questions they all tend to be asking, because we don’t have enough to figure out! Like where they should stay, what color nail polish, what hair dye color, shoes, accessories, and so on! They’re adults, and they apparently can’t dress themselves.
What’s the story of how you got engaged? Well, we went to Vegas for Jason’s 26th birthday. Three days before we left, his mom and him went and got my ring. We were walking around Vegas for 2 days with the ring in his pocket before he was able to find a place he felt was good to propose at because he wanted to have someone take great pictures of our engagement. So we went to the water show at 7:30pm on May 20th, 2010 at the Bellagio and he wanted to ask there, but due to high winds the show was cancelled. So we went to the Paris hotel. I just bought a HUGE souvenir alcoholic drink when he asked if I would go to the top of the Eiffel tower there. We went to get tickets and they wouldn’t allow us up with my big drink, I didn’t want to throw it away and they wouldn’t let me leave it with them. So off we went walking around the hotel. We found this cute fountain and Jason looks at me and says “This is a cool fountain huh? Let’s take a picture here” So I say OK! He hands the camera to a guy and asks if he will take our picture. While handing the guy the camera he smoothly leans in and says “I’m going to propose” The guys just nods. So I go to put my arm around Jason when he drops to one knee with the ring box open. I start crying and had to force myself to stop crying long enough to say “YES!” Well we kiss and the whole casino around us goes into an uproar of cheers and clapping. It felt like a scene out of a movie and was the most perfect proposal!
What do you love the most about your husband-to-be? I love how affectionate he is and how supportive he is. I said I wanted to go back to school to try for the RN program and he gave me the encouragement I needed to get back to school.
What does he love about you? He says, “Everything. That’s why I am marrying you.” Very insightful babe, thank you.
What’s your biggest pet peeve about your husband to be? Getting more detailed information out of him! It’s like pulling teeth. As the above answer indicates, that’s as detailed as it gets.
When you disagree, what is it usually about, and how do you handle it? Money spending. I say we should save more and he likes to spend now and worry later. Usually we fight because he says I accuse him for how little we have saved up for the wedding and I get on the defensive by saying it’s not my fault you gambled it all in Vegas! He says my correcting him is what we fight about most. Usually we argue on my intentions and then after an hour or so we both forget it happened and move on.
What disagreements have come up about the wedding? So far I have had to do all the compromising. I wanted more decoration, a nicer dress, more photography and the better bigger wedding package. I knew I wouldn’t win because the funds just aren’t there so I gave in and did the less is more way. But that doesn’t mean I don’t pout about it and bring up how much I’m giving up whenever we discuss the wedding. I feel when it comes to that it really should be recognized that I am being very giving with the stuff I don’t get for my own wedding.
Has the engagement/wedding ever been called off, or in jeopardy? If so, what happened and how did it get resolved? 3 weeks ago it came very close to being postponed. We owed too much and nobody was willing to give us help. After crying and being very disappointed I said we could wait until September and get all the stuff we want for the reception instead of down grading on another aspect. That’s when I came up with the ingenious idea of down grading the wedding ceremony and that allowed us to stay on track.
In what ways have you shown Bridezilla behavior during the wedding planning? I’m actually being one now! My bridesmaid actually texted me that her dress fit her weird and since this crap with the damn dresses has been ongoing with her I said, “Too bad, you’re wearing it or you’re out of the wedding, I am fed up with your attitude about the dresses! The only dress that matters is mine anyways!!!”
Who tends to bring out the Bridezilla behavior in you? Why? Some of my bridesmaids when I’m stressed will just by little things, picking apart dresses, bugging about hotels, their clothes ect. My mom especially due to the fact that she has an overpowering opinion about everything in my wedding. My MOH is also starting in on me with “where are we staying” and other such questions that really don’t concern me. I don’t care where everyone else is as long as they’re at the door and ready when the music starts. Otherwise, there will be fewer bridesmaids as far as I’m concerned.
When things aren’t going your way in regards to how you want your wedding, how do you handle it? Cry. I cry and vent to Jason or Bre. Then cuss a lot while venting about how that person or that situation is irritating and it leads to a lot of crap talking and tears. Then I get all revved up and get mad. Then I start yelling and depending on what it is about it’ll be me yelling at a bridesmaid or my mom.