Bride’s Name & Age: Kimberly, 30 Years old
Bride’s Occupation: Accounting Clerk/ Bookkeeper
Groom’s Name & Age: Walter, 32 years old
Groom’s Occupation: Warehouse
How long have your been dreaming of your wedding day? What was/is your Dream Wedding: I have been dreaming of my wedding day since I was about 10 years old…. My dream wedding would consist of lush flowers, lots of sparkle and bling, candles, great music (Live entertainment), great food, me of course looking extra fabulous (old Hollywood glam) and I have always dreamed of having a firework presentation during the reception.
Approx. Wedding Budget: $23k
Who’s Paying for Wedding? Bride & Groom, and Brides parents
Who’s in Charge of Budget? Bride and Coordinator
What happens if you go over budget? Well I try and see if I can compromise or eliminate something. If that doesn’t work and I really feel like I need whatever it is……Daddy to the rescue!!!!!
Describe your dream wedding dress: This is easy…Mermaid style, Sweetheart cut (cleavage galore), with a belt that is full of bling, corset style back.
Who chose the rings? What’s the story behind the rings? My original ring was a family heirloom that belonged to Walter’s mother. It was a beautiful custom design, shaped like a rose. It was stolen along with all of my other jewelry. We had our new jewelry custom designed also by a close family friend and hope to pass them down to our children.
# of Guests attending: aprox. 150-200
# in Wedding Party: 24
How long have you been planning wedding? I have been planning this wedding since January 2010
How helpful has the groom been (or not) in the planning process? The groom has been helpful in the following areas only: Food Tasting, Cake Tasting and Wine Tasting…
Are you trying to lose weight before the wedding? How are you going about that? What’s your goal? Yes. I am a plus size girl and can stand to lose more pounds. I have already lost 50 pounds and would like to try and get off another 30 before June. I am on the Atkins program right now (low carb)….ugh because I love pasta…..I am doing okay though.
Tell us about your family. How have they been involved in the planning process? My family…… well my mom has been super helpful and excited about it. Anything that I ask of her she is with it…. She has had it with me going over budget but otherwise has been fantastic. My baby sisters are hostesses and have been helpful with the stationary and have tons of responsibility on the day of. I do have one problem child…. My baby sister Krystal who refused to be in my wedding because she doesn’t want to wear a dress…..and she pretty much isn’t into the girly stuff so she just plans on showing up, drinking, and leaving…..she has been a sucky sister in this process…lol…My dad just forks over the cash and likes to dress up so he’s working on upstaging me…..I don’t know many dads that wear white tuxes to the wedding….but he will be…yup me and dad walking down the aisle….both in white…..
Have you or your groom been married before? Any children? We have three beautiful children together…..As I told Vanessa we got married at the JOP because I went into early labor. My oldest daughter, Ashlynn is a twin and was born at 25 weeks. I lost the other twin and she was in for the fight of her life. Needless to say a ceremony was the last priority at that time. Anyway, our kids will be a part of the candle lighting ceremony and will be presented bracelets………love those babies: Walter- 12, Ashlynn- 10, and Kimorah- 7.
Who are your most/least favorite celebrity brides and why? Favorite Celebrity Bride: Reese Witherspoon…..this chick is classy, beautiful and has a great smile and my favorite movie is Sweet Home Alabama…. Least favorite is none….. To each her own!
What’s the worst thing that could go wrong on your wedding day? I have been having nightmares about stuff going wrong….from things like the DJ playing the wrong music to the florist not showing up…….I think that the worst thing would be for people to not recognize that it is the “KIM SHOW”. This is MY special day that I have been waiting for and I am not sharing the spotlight with anyone. I also am a control freak and I have every little detail planned out so people need to fall in line and the day will go smooth.
What’s been your biggest stress since you started planning the wedding? These damn bridesmaids…. Now grant it there are a couple that are wonderful and then there are the OTHERS…..They have all of these suggestions and ideas that I did not ask for. Staci thinks that this is her wedding too and that she can be in all of my business….she thinks that she can make her dress payments when she wants to. She has lost a lot of weight so now everyone is fat, and she has a major attitude with my wedding planner, she wants to walk alone down the aisle….ugh then there is Miesha, who is the first one to suggest something and also the first one to disappear when something needs to be done. Her dress still isn’t paid off because Fendi takes precedence over my wedding..It’s sad because my two closest people have been the WORST- NO EXAGERATION!!
How do you typically handle stressful situations in regards to your wedding? There have been so many threats of people getting kicked out of the wedding and at this point I mean it. There have been some tears and some sleepless nights and a whole lot of yelling because again I like to be in control and I have everything mapped out. If people followed instruction there would be no issue….. If I can’t make something happen then I go to the HMIC (Head Momma In Charge) my momma!!!!!!
Tell us any dilemmas or stressful moments regarding the below details of the wedding. What happened? How was it resolved?
Cake: Miesha’s gift to me and Walter was purchasing the wedding cake and she never came through….and never even said that she was no longer going to pay for the cake so I missed the contracted payment dates and now I have a short time to find a cake that will fit in the budget (because I did not factor in a cake), so we have to get the cake from……ALBERTSONS………now that’s special!!!!! (Careful….extreme sarcasm was just used)
Location/ Date: The venue double booked my date and so I had the invitations printed only to find out that the day was given to the other party because they booked first and I lost all that money.
Dress: Initially I was going to wear my mothers dress (if I could get certain alterations done), now mind you my parents renewed their vows a couple of years ago so she chose a dress that a more mature woman would like…. Well it wasn’t the dress for me, so I had to look elsewhere. I started with the dress shop where we are getting the bridesmaids dresses from and well she told me that their dresses would be there in two weeks back in January and they are still not there so I decided to go with David’s Bridal. I love my dress but every time my mother gets mad at me, she threatens to not pay off my dress…we will see what I look like on 06/26.
Budget: It’s always a problem going over when you don’t have the extra money. My maids of honors gifts were contributions to the wedding and neither of them stuck to their obligation and didn’t tell me and now here it is April and I have to figure out how to pay for the cake and the balance on the flowers…plus I have some other expenses….sucks!
Flowers: Staci was supposed to be gifting the flowers and was supposed to make monthly payments and didn’t and now she basically started all this drama I think so that we could fight and now she isn’t going to handle that….and again I find this out two months before the wedding…..I have to pull $1200.00 out of a hat…. I so should have chosen different maids of honor!
The Groom: The only real issue that I have with my honey is that he keeps inviting his “homies” to the wedding and reception, forgetting that we have to pay per person and I don’t know half of these people to be paying for them like that!
Wedding Party: The guys are great except for the fact that I just got word that there is this big crazy bachelor party that is being planned and I am not having it……The women have been more dramatic then “All My Children”. We have meetings and some show up and some don’t. We have a payment schedule and some pay and some don’t. They even are tripping to the point of fighting with me about how I want their nails done…..
In-Laws: His mom has been Negative Nancy and has not been supportive, his sister who I don’t get along with at all is saying that she doesn’t think that she can make it (grant it she does live in Germany) but they have had plenty of time to prepare for this. This is a big day for us…….
What’s the story of how you got engaged? We got engaged very young. He proposed to me when I was 17 years old. We were young, dumb and knew everything. He was so cute, which is the only reason I said yes…lol.. I went over to his house one night after work and he was on the porch looking all goofy and he got down on one knee…..I said yes and of course between that time and when we actually got married I must have chucked the ring at him 50 times but it was cute for kids getting engaged….
What do you love the most about your husband-to-be? He is hilarious……I can be mad and trying to have on my mad face and he will say or do the stupidest thing that just cracks me up. He sings to me and there is a look in his eye that says it all…. I used to have to question how he felt about me and now I don’t and that is amazing.
What does he love about you? I think he loves my goofiness, the fact that I take pride in my family and will stop at nothing to make sure they are okay. I think he loves that he can tell me anything and the fact that I love him unconditionally…and im pretty funny too
What’s your biggest pet peeve about your husband to be? ugh he is messy and he likes to do his laundry separate….but who do you know that takes 3 days to wash 4 loads of laundry and for those 4 days we are washer and dryer less.
When you disagree, what is it usually about, and how do you handle it? I am really good at ignoring him….which he hates…..we disagree a lot about the house being a mess and I sometimes need to watch what I say, like he feels like I'm talking to him like he’s one of the kids and that pisses him off…we also disagree about gas; he often drives out all of the gas and doesn’t fill up the tank, actually he leaves me with no gas…….pisses me off to no end.
What disagreements have come up about the wedding? He feels that I am spending too much money on the wedding. As far as Walter is concerned, we can serve Heineken and BBQ and have a great time but I want what I have envisioned. That is one of the biggest opposites between us. He is very simple and not details oriented and some times doesn’t take into consideration that it’s important to me. When it comes to clothes and shoes, he goes into detail but not when it comes to certain things that are important to me…like party planning (wedding planning).
Has the engagement/wedding ever been called off, or in jeopardy? Not really. Like I said before we were separated and we went through a lot of cheating and disrespect all together but since we made the decision to be 100% we don’t face those issues and we are mutual in agreement that this is necessary.
In what ways have you shown Bridezilla behavior during the wedding planning? Well I had another bridesmaid Fane that was supposed to be in the wedding and she was kicked out…she didn’t comply. Definitely with Staci and Miesha not following through with the obligations..that they, mind you VOLUNTEERED to do…that was really hurtful and caused me to go off and honestly at this point I still want to kick them out!
Who tends to bring out the Bridezilla behavior in you? Why? Staci. She has no consideration for anyone and no consideration for this process. I thought that she would have been more supportive and reliable being my best friend and she hasn’t. She decided to try and plan her wedding at the same time as me (please believe I shut that down) and she does things like, we will be somewhere looking for something for my wedding and she will turn around and start shopping for herself or start talking about her wedding.
When things aren’t going your way in regards to how you want your wedding, how do you handle it? I try to be professional and then if that doesn’t work, I do have to get forceful. I am considerate of the people and the things that I am requesting but the fact of the matter is that I am not doing them a favor; I am patronizing their business and am paying so they need to oblige.