Bride’s Name & Age: Regina, 31
Bride’s Occupation: Chemotherapy IV technician
Groom’s Name & Age: Steven, 41
Groom’s Occupation: Pharmacy Pyxis Manager
Honeymoon date and location: We have not made honeymoon plans and will not make any honeymoon plans until we have the full cost of the wedding and reception. However, it will probably be a cruise of some sort.
How long have you been dreaming of your wedding day and what was/is your Dream Wedding: examples: age 9 or age 15 etc… I have been dreaming of my wedding day since the first time I was proposed to, when I was 21 years old. My dream wedding would consist of David Tutura as my wedding planner and a fairytale wedding with me in a fabulous white gown with real diamond jewelry and a beautiful tiara and veil. All of my closest girlfriends would be bridesmaids and everyone I know would be invited. I’d like to have a spring wedding outside with cool weather and fireworks at the conclusion of the reception. Unfortunately, due to financial constraints, time of year, etc, the wedding will be indoors at a hotel with no more than 200 guests, a modest gown and small wedding party with only 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen.
Approx. Wedding Budget: Since neither of us have ever had a wedding, he came up with the budget of $7,000.00. I am almost positive we will go over budget, but I won’t tell him that!
Who’s Paying for Wedding? We are both responsible for paying for certain parts of the wedding.
Who’s in Charge of Budget? Steven is in charge of the budget.
What happens if you go over budget? We probably won’t go on a honeymoon right away if we go over budget. It will be probably be postponed anyway since my son will still be in school and the weather will be cold.
Did you hire a wedding planner? How are they doing? We tried to hire a wedding planner, but no one really would get back to us, or either they’d cut off communication after one or two times corresponding with us. I wonder what the problem is with wedding planners?
Describe your dream wedding dress: My dream wedding dress would definitely flatter my fuller figure. I have curves, so it would have to be something that accentuates my curves. I wouldn’t want a really long train, but I would like for the back to lace up, and lots of bling on it without it being gaudy. I’d like a strapless gown, like the one I have, but it would be more detailed than mine, with Swarovski crystals on the bodice and outlining the ruched waistline and down the back of the dress. Basically, just like my dress but with a different back and crystal beading.
Who chose the rings? What’s the story behind the rings? He e-mailed me a picture of a ring he saw online from Sam’s that just so happened to be the exact ring I had tried on with a friend several months earlier. He knew exactly what I wanted. A week later, he proposed when we went out to dinner. He and I picked out his ring when we took mine back to see if we could have it sized. He wanted a plain, titanium band, but I convinced him to choose something with a few diamonds.
How long have you been planning wedding? Since about September 15, 2010
How helpful has the groom been (or not) in the planning process? He has been very helpful, especially with finding a venue. He wants to be sure we stick to a budget.
Are you trying to lose weight before the wedding? How are you going about that? What’s your goal? Yes, I work out atleast 4 times a week, stopped drinking soda and only eat 100 calorie snacks if I want something sweet. I've also been taking water pills intermittently when my feet swell from working out. I’d like to lose about 20 more pounds before the wedding.
Tell us about your future In-Laws. How do you get along with them? How does the groom get along with your parents? My future in-laws are nice people. I have met most of the family and they have all been very sweet. I have yet to see Steven’s mother smile. I don’t think she likes anyone at all. My family loves Steven, he loves my son and treats him like he’s his own. My mother was hoping that we’d get married. I guess she’s getting her wish.
Tell us about your family. How have they been involved in the planning process? I am 31 years old, and this is my third marriage. First wedding, but third marriage. My family hasn’t been helpful at all. My mother and step-father did offer to pay for the photographer as a wedding gift, but that’s about it. My dad didn’t offer to do anything and accused me of not inviting him. I tried explaining to him that we hadn’t even printed or sent out invitations yet as we were still looking for a venue, but he wasn’t hearing it.
Have you or your groom been married before? Any children? If so, what role will the kids play on the wedding day? We have both been married before, him once, me twice. Steven has no children, but I have a six-year-old son who has known and interacted with Steven since before he was a year old. He will be the ring bearer.
Who are your most/least favorite celebrity brides? Least favorite was Star Jones, favorite would have to be Mariah Carey. She looked absolutely beautiful in her dress on the beach with Nick Cannon. Even though I don’t think their marriage will last, she is one of my favorite divas.
What’s the worst thing that could go wrong on your wedding day? The worst thing would be any one of our exes crashing the wedding and trying to ruin it, or my sister disappearing or it raining, even though it’s inside, people don’t like to travel in the rain.
How do you typically handle stressful situations in regards to your wedding? Sometimes I totally shut down. Sometimes I scream or yell at people.
Define the type a bride you will be: Controlling, Neurotic, Demanding, Emotional or Laid Back? I will probably be a controlling, demanding perfectionist. For example, my hair and make-up has to be JUST RIGHT! The pictures that will be taken are part of my future, and will be seen by my grandchildren and great-grandchildren. Also, I need to be in complete control of the bridesmaids too. There is a certain way I want their hair. All except for one have TATOOS on their BACK! UGH! They will have to wear weaves to cover the stupid tattoos.
What’s the story of how you got engaged? Steven asked me to marry him after having dinner at Pappasito’s one night. We had talked about it, he knew which ring I wanted. And after dinner, he asked me to go to his car with him, turned on some song about getting married, and made me close my eyes. When I opened them, he was holding the box open, with my ring inside, and asked me to marry him. I said YES!
What do you love the most about your husband-to-be? I love that he takes care of business. He loves my son like his own, and he is good with money. He always makes sure we are taken care of.
What does he love about you? He loves that I am ambitious about my goals in life (finishing school), and that I work to be the best at whatever I do. He also knows that I love him for him only, and not what he can do for me.
What’s your biggest pet peeve about your husband to be? My biggest pet peeve is that he will sometimes purchase things he doesn’t need, then forget to take them back when he realizes he doesn’t need them. Then he’s stuck with stuff he’ll never use and cannot get his money back.
When you disagree, what is it usually about, and how do you handle it? We usually disagree about things that are said and how they are perceived. For example, we argued, and he walked out without saying anything. I thought he wanted to call the wedding off and be done with ‘us,’ but he says that he just needed to cool off. I didn’t know that until after an hour of crying, yelling, discussing and arguing that he just needed to cool off. If he had said that in the beginning, we could have saved a lot of time and headache!
What disagreements have come up about the wedding? Money spent on the wedding, the fact that he doesn’t want my ex-sister-in-law to be a part of the wedding at all, the number of people we are inviting to the wedding (which are more of HIS people than mine!), the fact that he is waiting too long to order his tuxedo and have his groomsmen meet him at the place to get their tuxedoes, and the fact that he wants two of his nieces to be flower girls instead of just one. We only need ONE flower girl, but he wants two, that’s more money, but whatever!
Has the engagement/wedding ever been called off, or in jeopardy? If so, what happened and how did it get resolved? Only once, because we had an argument over me not doing what I said I would do, but I was tired and not feeling well, and I told him, and he still got mad and walked out on me. We resolved it by talking and arguing (I cried!) and reiterating expectations of each other.
In what ways have you shown Bridezilla behavior during the wedding planning? I am highly controlling, and I simply want my bridesmaids to look their best. They may say I am just being mean, but I’m not.
Who tends to bring out the Bridezilla behavior in you? Why? My bridesmaids tend to bring out the bridezilla behavior mostly because they don’t want to listen and do things my way. If they’d just do what I say, everything will go as planned!
When things aren’t going your way in regards to the details of how you want your wedding, how do you handle it? I will try talking first, but if that does not work, I will go off, in a nice-nasty kind of way. I’ll also blast people on Facebook if they are not being cooperative, so everyone can see that they are trying to ruin MY special day!
Do you have any events, meetings or work planned within that week before your wedding day? If so we need to know about this as we come out to film you one week before the big day! I’d like to hire a choreographer to have the bridesmaids learn a dance routine to one of the popular songs, maybe Beyonce’s “Single Ladies,” but I am still working on that. I also want to do group mani/pedi/facials the day before the wedding.