Bride’s Name & Age: LaTashijuna "Tasha", 27
Bride’s Occupation: Teacher
Groom’s Name & Age: Jeff, 40
Groom’s Occupation: Security Officer
How long have you’re been dreaming of your wedding day and what was/is your Dream Wedding?
I’ve been dreaming of my wedding since I was 7, but it wasn’t anything big except a princess dress. It wasn’t until I was a teen, about 13, that I really dreamt about my big day. I watched Rodgers and Hammerstein’s Cinderella with Brandy and knew that’s what I wanted. I dreamt of a huge ball gown surrounded by tons of people looking at me, lots of choreographed dancing and fun. I wanted a ball. I wanted lots of sparkle surrounding me and lots of pink. I wanted my dream prince to be in a marine uniform and to be handsome. I wanted steak and salad, and to be the envy of everyone.
What is the approx. wedding budget? $5,000
Who’s paying for the wedding? Mommy & Daddy primarily (bride and groom here and there)
What happens if you go over budget? My parents are going to flip and probably threaten to not give me any more money to pay off wedding expenses, so then I’ll have to resort to begging (not a fan of that)!!!
Did you hire a wedding planner? How are they doing? No, I am my wedding planner. My Mommy was supposed to help me, but she always seems too busy lately… actually makes me kind of sad!! But I did hire a day of coordinator to make sure things run smoothly and that I’m not bothered. So far I’m doing good with planning. I have a lot of things done, but still have a few things here and there that I need to get done.
How helpful has the groom been (or not) in the planning process? Jeff has been helpful-ish. At first he was a little overzealous in helping and gave absolutely stupid advice. “Honey what’s wrong with paper plates?” “Oh babe, the food we eat doesn’t really matter.” I finally started just saying, “It’s my wedding. You don’t get my vision.” After a few days I realized this will work better if I just ask him to do specific tasks to do like call these venues and limo companies (which he did a fantastic job with). He even tried to help me find the pink wedding dress of my dreams, but we couldn’t and I told him I will just get a gorgeous white one(which he thinks I did). Granted all this help was 10 months before the wedding. Now he has kind of let me take the reins and do everything, but he does ask, but I say I got it, cause I don’t want him to mess up all my hard work.
Tell us about your family. How have they been involved in the planning process? They haven’t been!!!! It’s a constant battle to get them to do anything!!! It’s like pulling teeth to get my sister to try on a dress. My mom seems to be too busy. She lied to me at my first makeup trial and missed my second makeup trial. Granted, mom was there when I purchased my wedding dress, but of course in mom fashion she tried to talk me out of it. Every time I come up with an idea it gets shot down. “Tasha gerbera daisies are too big to be a boutonnière.” “Tasha you are not going to bake anything for the wedding cause you just going to cry when it doesn’t come out right.” “Think realistically!” "Tasha, your sister is not wearing that in her hair.” “No, don’t make them do a group dance.” Like I said, no help!! If she doesn’t give me a flat out “That’s ugly” response I get “It’s your wedding.”
Have you or your groom been married before? Any children? If so, what role will the kids play on the wedding day? We have both been married before. I had a “Hollywood marriage." We were married for 2 years, but separated after 6 months. He was married for 8 years. Jeff's ex had a daughter already (whom he considers his own), and he also has Moya, who will be the flower girl in the wedding.
What’s the worst thing that could go wrong on your wedding day? If Jeff doesn’t show up!!! If the DJ sucks, that could potentially ruin my special day. I actually read negative reviews about the DJ company and it has me on pins and needles. If it rains, my butterfly release will be ruined and I will be devastated. If my cousin shows up with my ex-husband (who she is currently dating), that would ruin my day, or I could rub my happiness in their face.
Define the type a bride you will be: Neurotic. I asked Jeff to gather pictures of him from birth until we met so I can compile them and do a wedding slideshow. Two weeks later he still didn’t have them. He said, “The thing is, babe, all the pictures are at my parent’s house in Michigan. And my parents are at the Florida house for the winter.” You would have thought I got news of a death in the family. I screamed and yelled and cried like my life was over. I cried that the wedding was ruined now and how my visions never come true and everyone is out to get me and how hurt I am that his parents won’t fly to get them. I cried so much I actually made myself sick. Two weeks later I had my pictures, courtesy of his parents who went to Michigan and his sister from Michigan. I thanked them for all their hard work.
Another example was when my sister refused to participate in a bridal party dance. I asked her nicely and she flat out accused me of trying to make her look stupid and said, “No.” I told her how unkind I felt she was being to me and how unsupportive she is as a sister. She slammed her door and I told her she was out of the wedding. If she didn’t want to dance next me then she doesn’t have to stand next me at the altar either. I ran in the laundry room and just sobbed for 10 minutes, which is until my unsupportive mother called and told me how wrong I was. I jumped in my truck and drove off boo-hooing at the betrayal I felt from my family.
What disagreements have come up about the wedding? Jeff and I rarely bump heads regarding this wedding. He thinks, "Whatever makes her happy...", but its not entirely disagreement free. We disagree on how much he thinks is spent on my dress. He thinks I spent $1,100. I spent less than half of that. When things go wrong (the slideshow got erased before I could save it, my ring bearer pillow I made fell apart) and I spaz out or get super stressed, that’s when Jeff gets mad. Some stress is good, but he thinks it’s going to send me to an early grave, LOL. When it comes to the money aspect of this wedding, even though he isn’t paying, that’s where we sometimes bump heads. Because If I feel it’s within my reach (a third reception dress, a helicopter ride to our island for our honeymoon), he says do you really need to spend more money? Just be happy with what you got. Don’t tell him, but most of time he’s right about the money aspect of the wedding.
Has the engagement/wedding ever been called off, or in jeopardy? If so, what happened and how did it get resolved? It’s always in jeopardy every time he pisses me off. I think I’ve threaten to end the engagement so much it no longer has the same effect. “You don’t think I should worry so much about the slideshow. OK, I won’t because I won’t marry you then.” Then I take the rings off, put my pink one in my purse and hand him the one he gave me and sob sob. He says “Babe come here," pulls me close to him, takes the ring and slides it back on my finger. He says, “I’m sorry. I love you.” I say *huff huff, tear, tear* “OK, love you, too.” And I get what I want. Issue is resolved and ring's on finger til next time I get mad. He is so used to it by now it’s sad.