Relationships are built on a foundation of trust, but nothing can cause the structure to crumble quite like lying. Couples on Mystery Millionaire must decide if starting their relationship on a white lie about money is too much to handle or a forgivable fib.
While your partner might not have pretended to be middle class when he was actually raking in the dough, if your relationship ever faces any of these 5 lies, you should think twice about staying with your guy.
Lies About Infidelity
Cheating can end a relationship on the spot – but there is a stark difference between the someone caught in a weak moment, and someone who had an affair for an extended period of time. The person who confesses right away didn’t try to hide it. The other person, however, had invested a lot of time and energy in developing lies surrounding the unfaithful situation to hide it from you. The latter is a deal-breaker.
Lies About the Future
It’s important to be with someone who wants the same things you do, but some people just want a wedding to have the big day (and the big dress!) – while others are actually committed to the work of a marriage. Some might think they want a baby, but when it comes to actually throw out the birth control and try – they get cold feet. These kinds of liars don’t realize what they’re doing because they’re so caught up keeping up with the Joneses that they forget reality.
Lies of Omission
Did someone get laid off but they never tell their spouse? Did you make plans to go to a party your ex was at but fail to mention that detail? People who think lying by omission isn’t lying are lying to themselves and jeopardizing their relationship’s foundation. Ultimately, it’s a sign of a deeper kind of damage that can only be dealt with on an individual basis.
Lies of Manipulation
Whether it’s convincing a person to be less confident or doubt themselves, or using lies to convince them to be suspicious of friends and family, manipulation in any form is not healthy for any relationship. It’s a power struggle for control that will never end well, and could ultimately lead to violence. Anyone who manipulates someone to forge their own will is nothing short of a monster and should be avoided at all cost.
Being in a relationship with a pathological liar is very dangerous. Sure, little white lies happen (“No, you don’t look like you’ve gained 5 pounds!”) – but when they pile up, it’s a sign of a larger issue. Pathological liars lose the ability to decipher between the truth and their made-up stories, and eventually small lies turn into more lies which turn into big lies. It’s hard to build a relationship on all of those misgivings.