Tamar meets with surrogates, Toni models a sock dress, Trina takes a band hiatus, and Gabe talks about his “deposits”… ew!

Toni checks up on Trina to see how things are going.  BFVQuote: “Being the older sister, you know I’m psychic.”  Toni thinks Trina’s decision to drop the band is long overdue, allowing her to go out into the industry and figure things out for herself.  There is a lot of security with being in a group, and Toni thinks it is time for Trina to be on her own.  BFVQuote: “Don’t be afraid to fly.  Just sore on your own.”  Toni also gets a little something out of this conversation as well; Trina admits that she respects Toni and her opinion.  BFVQuote: “Don’t do what I do.  Let my screw ups help you.”

Tamar, her summertime hair, and Towanda go out for lunch… and for Tamar to tell Towanda she will not be her surrogate.  Why the change in do?  Apparently Towanda like Tamar’s classic hair so much, she stole it.  BFVQuote: “We can’t be sitting here looking like the bopsy twins.”  But apparently she stole it from Toni!  BFVQuote: “Back in the day… when Toni Braxton was doing The Flamingo ‘Revealed’.”  WE don’t know if Vince is really THAT worried about the baby picking up Andre’s “bad habits” or the fact that it’s a bit weird to rub his sister-in-law’s belly while she is pregnant with his child.  Like Mama E says, “I’m just sayin’.”  Although, Vince having his heart set on Tamar carrying this child may not be the right move either.  BFVQuote: “Why would I want to have a baby inside of me messing up my girly parts and stretching out my tight abdominal region that I work real hard for?”  But, the best part is Tamar’s song about Towanda’s cooch.  BFVQuote: “I sure see the light.” <a href=”http://we.tv/P5BNW3″>Click here to listen to the “Cooch Song”</a>

Toni has a dress fitting with Michael Costello, who has designed the sock dress Toni will wear in a photo shoot for Autism Speaks.  BFVQuote: “The cousins are good.”  With Toni starving herself for Fashion Week, I don’t think we need to worry about her looking “too big” in this dress!  BFVQuote: “I don’t want to look like ‘Oh, she knows where the dessert table is.  Not a good look.”

Mr. Braxton is in town!  Tamar goes to lunch with her daddy to catch up and talk babies.  BFVQuote: “I need a glass of wine for this.  This is stressing me OUT!”  With Tamar still wanting to professionally achieve so much, she feels that babies can sometimes be a hindrance.  BFVQuote: “It doesn’t have to be a Viking.  It could be a GE.”  After the back and forth, Tamar and Mr. Braxton decide to put this conversation on the shelf and enjoy their lunch.  BFVQuote: “Aw Tamar, Tamar, Tamar.  You my baby.”

Toni is in New York doing her photo shoot for Autism Speaks and SheKnows.com with Mr. Nigel Barker (BIG TIME!).    As soon as the music comes on, Toni works it OUT! The dress really looks beautiful, and with Nigel’s creative set design this is going to be a great photo.  BFVQuote: “I’m just a singer trying to look like a model.  It’s a whole body work out.”

Back in Atlanta, Gabe comes over to discuss the possibility of moving back in.  BFVQuote: “I’m just working on not being angry right now for the sake of the children.”  Can’t blame the guy for trying!  But, Trina looks like she just saw a unicorn prance into the kitchen.  He thinks the progress he has made in sex addiction counseling and with his therapist is enough to gain Trina’s trust back.  BFVQuote: “He is not supposed to be using it as a ploy to get back into the house, or back into my pants, or both. That’s a big negative, soldier.”  Gabe does raise a good point though.  While he is going through all this counseling, what is Trina doing?  Mr. Oral Transaction is still in the picture professionally.  And when Gabe calls it like it is, Trina looks like she’s seen a ghost.  BFVQuote: “My penis made a deposit into another woman’s vagina.”  Hate to say it, but WE are semi on Gabe’s side with this one.  But you’re still our girl, Trina!  We know it’s not about just this isolated incident.  At the end of the day, this couple still needs more time to sort out their beef.

Tamar and Vince meet with a slew of potential surrogates, you know from the beginning this is just a recipe for disaster.  BFVQuote: “It’s not gonna work for me, but I’ll check it out.”  Margie kicks it off with a hug and Vince dives right in with offering for Margie to stay at the house while she’s pregnant.  Tamar looks like she is going to fall off the chair.  BFVQuote: “She’s not having it.”  BFVQuote: “What’s personal is you not wanting to push the baby out your coochie.”  Next is Sarah, who may have wanted to wear a slightly more conservative top that didn’t reveal the goodies.  BFVQuote: “I don’t know how many other ways I can say hell-to-the-niz-o.”  As soon as she says, “I would love to have your son” it is an open and shut case.  NEXT!  Oh, Lily, Lily, Lily.  BFVQuote: “This ain’t 1-800-Rent-A-Womb!”

Trina meets with the band to break the news that she is officially leaving.  BFVQuote: “I am taking a band hiatus so I can kinda fly with my own solo career.”  Trina is taking some members of the original band with her, so she knows certain people will be upset… including Mr. Oral Transaction, Christian.  BFVQuote: “I don’t need the sexual innuendos.  What I need to do is clip his balls and neuter him out of my life.”  Besides Christian, all the other band mates are extremely supportive so go figure that he needs to follow Trina outside to have a “talk”.  HE should be a stranger!  BFVQuote: “Your account with the First National Bank of Trina is closed!  You need to take your business elsewhere.”

On to Trina and Gabe, round two.  Gabe is concerned about Caleb’s grades, and Trina think it has something to do with all the emotional stress he has been going through.  BFVQuote: “I don’t think that Caleb is failing.  I think that we are failing.”  Gabe thinks they need to spend more time with Caleb, whether it is together or separately.  BFVQuote: “Gabe is pulling at my heart strings being a good father to the boys, but he was a really terrible husband to me.  But, sometimes you have to choose what’s right for your children over what’s right for you.”  Trina appreciates Gabe’s commitment to staying around for the kids, and thinks it is the best thing for the family.

What do you think of Tamar talking in the third person?  Will Vince and Tamar EVER find a surrogate?  Are you on #TeamReunion or #TeamSeparation with Gabe and Trina?  Let us know what you think!

This season has had its share of ups and downs, love and drama, and wonderful, tear-jerking moments.  Below is a list of my top 10 favorite moments from this season:

  1. Mary Mary ROCK their Go Get It Performance
  2. Tina finds out she is pregnant (again!)
  3. Erica gives birth to baby Zaya
  4. The “Vagine” Monolagues a la Mary Mary
  5. Goo and Mitch (Fights 1-35)
  6. Tina and Erica call off their tour
  7. Teddy and family surprise Tina on Thanksgiving
  8. Jill Scott creates an original lullaby for Zaya
  9. Mary Mary record “Go Get It”
  10. The sisters take a “relaxing” trip to Palm Springs

CLICK HERE to create your own top 10 list from this season.

What did you think of the Go Get It debut performance?  What are you most looking forward to next season?  Who can’t wait for season 2?  WE want to know what you think!

The sisters enter a very rocky part of their relationship, and struggle to agree on anything.  In the meantime, Warryn works on the sisters’ new track, and Mama Campbell plans Erica’s baby shower.

The sisters are at Fever Studios with Warryn recording a new single to present to Sony Records.  MMQuote: “I want to still keep that momentum going and make some more records.”  It is very important that the sisters keep the fans interested in their music since Erica will be giving birth soon, and Tina has a baby on the way.  MMQuote: “I want this joint to be monumental on the dance floor.”  Enter Ma$e.  WE all remember him as the rapper who rode with Diddy and Bad Boy Records, and then left the limelight to become a preacher, so WE are glad to see him back in action.  MMQuote: “He found God, or should I say God found him.  So, it makes perfect sense for us to get in the studio with him and create some hot music.”  As soon as Ma$e gets on the mic, his flow is on point and WE know the sisters will have a hit on their hands (but, this better happen soon with only 10 days left until their Sony meeting).  However, Tina doesn’t agree the sisters should rush to release a hit, MMQuote: “I think it’s smart to delay the record” and this results in another argument.  Even with Ma$e backing up Warryn and Erica, Tina is still not listening.  MMQuote: “She is who she is.  I can either accept it or deal with it, or we just won’t be a group anymore.”  MMQuote: “Erica and Tina have got to figure this out, because if they don’t I am not sure what the outcome is going to be.”

Sandra (Warryn’s mom), Goo and Alana head to Hotcakes Bakery to discuss all things sweet for Erica’s upcoming baby shower.  Everyone loves the cake tasting, especially Goo.  MMQuote: “Oh my God, yes!  That sounded like something else.”  WE love Goo!

Back at Fever Studios, Alana visits Tina and Erica to talk about the baby shower.  Unfortunately, it looks like Tina wasn’t aware that she was not planning the baby shower.  MMQuote: “We’re gonna let you live.”  MMQuote: “You don’t want a last minute, thrown together baby shower is what you’re saying?”  It would be nice if Erica acted like she would have at least wanted Tina to organize the shower, but WE’ll let that slide.

Tina meets up with Honey to discuss all the pressure she is under.  MMQuote: “I feel like I’m busy keeping up with my life, not living it.”  Honey thinks that Tina’s need for perfection is really becoming a problem, MMQuote: “She goes overboard a lot of times with some issues, and I know she hates it herself.”  When Honey suggests getting more help around the house, Tina immediately goes on the defensive.  WE understand she doesn’t want someone else raising her children, but sometimes a little help goes a long way.  MMQuote: “Real talk!  You was home, mama.  You did this.”  Tina’s value comes from what she does at home, not on the stage, so it is very difficult for her to sacrifice her time at home for her career.  MMQuote: “I feel frickin overwhelmed all the time.”  Honey raised 14 kids and refused to stop, so she knows Tina can handle this.  MMQuote: “You’re the greatest, girl!”  With her behavior starting to effect her kids actions and frustrations, Tina realizes she may need to go to a therapist for some help.

Erica and Honey spend the day together, and while they are having some mother-daughter time, Honey decides to fill Erica in on the conversation she had with Tina.  MMQuote: “Sometimes I feel like, is this not really supposed to be?  Maybe it’s time for me to move on from this group.”  Honey thinks the girls need to work out their own issues with a third party, and Erica is not into the idea.  Erica thinks Tina needs to come to some realizations about herself before they have any conversation.  However, Honey does not think the blame should be put completely on Tina.  MMQuote: “There are two sides to every story.  Two sides and then the real side.”  Erica thinks her and Tina need to come to some resolve, even if that means no more Mary Mary.

Tina takes the kids for frozen yogurt, and hopes to talk to Laiah about her frustrations with perfectionism.  MMQuote: “She is really hard on herself for an eight year old.  She’s her mama’s child.”  Tina wants Laiah to realize she does not to be 100% perfect all the time.  MMQuote: “I want you to work on telling yourself that you can, rather than get frustrated that you can’t.”

Erica and Tina decide to have a relaxing evening and concentrate on just being sisters, but Erica can’t help but bring up the conversation she had with Honey.  Tina explains that her conversation with Honey was strictly about her, and had nothing to do with Mary Mary.  Erica says she gets frustrated with Tina because, MMQuote: “We have differences of opinions in how we want to work.”  Tina admits she feels pressured to agree to certain commitments.  MMQuote: “Does that mean I do more solo stuff?”  Tina doesn’t want Mary Mary to break up, but if that is what has to happen, than that’s it.  These sisters need to be on the same page!  Luckily, Erica agrees to go to therapy to try and make this right.

Tina and Erica finally go to therapy.  MMQuote: “I’m not surprised we are here.” When the therapist asks why the sisters are at therapy, Tina and Erica discuss how they have different views on situations and different work styles.  Tina does not feel that time off will cause you to become irrelevant, but Erica obviously disagrees.  It’s clear the sisters have completely different work ethics, and Erica’s work ethic is to be working 24/7.  The sisters either need to get over their problems, or move on.  MMQuote: “If I can’t sprinkle it with sugar and spice, it will be sprinkled with salt and it’s going to be sour.”  The sisters do feel that their sisterly relationship is the most important, and it is easy to see they want to continue their journey together.  Tina and Erica realize the way Erica feels about work is the same way Tina feels about parenting; since God gave them their blessings, they need not say no.  The sisters are able to use the strength and drive they learned in Englewood, CA to move forward.  The sisters need to go back to their roots!

As the sisters drive around Englewood, they are able to remember the good memories they had and how far they have come.  MMQuote: “I didn’t expect to feel all the things that I felt.  I didn’t expect to remember and connect back to all the things that helped us build and make us who we are.  But I did.”  As the sisters visit their old church, they remember the dedication they learned there.  MMQuote: “Family man.  Family.”  All these memories make the sisters realize they need to fight to stay together and stay committed.

It’s shower day and it’s carousel themed.  Erica arrives with the family in toe.  MMQuote: “Mama Campbell outdid herself.”  WE agree, Erica.  Zaya is very lucky to have a grandma who can arrange that kind of party to welcome her into the world (and Erica is lucky to have that kind of mother-in-law!).  Tina takes advantage of this special occasion, and begins to announce her pregnancy. MMQuote: “No one’s stealing her shine.  These are all my people.  These are all my friends.”  Tina is right… it’s the secret she keeps on telling.  But, I’m sure if WE had good news like that to share, we wouldn’t be able to keep it a secret either!  Mama Campbell comes up with a very clever (and appropriate) shower game.  Each group must create a song about Zaya, and perform for the whole party.  This is hysterical!  Unfortunately, not everyone in attendance can create hits like Mary Mary, but all the renditions are awesome!  We would not expect anything less than the attendees at a Mary Mary shower. MMQuote: “Brilliant! I loved it.”

As always, Mary Mary is back in the studios finalizing their single with Ma$e, but Warryn is concerned he can’t quite get it right.  Something is missing.  MMQuote: “This is dope.  That’s dope. But everything together is not flowing.”  With this single and “Go Get it” not finalized, Warryn still doesn’t know which single he will give to Mitchell to present to Sony in New York.

Will Warryn finish “Go Get It” in time to present to Sony?  Will the sisters finally move past all the arguing to become a stronger, more unified Mary Mary?  Will Goo and Mitchell ever put aside their differences to co-exist on Team Mary Mary?  Let us know your thoughts!

If you’ve watched The Girl Effect videos, you know that educating girls is key to alleviating poverty. Today’s gift guide is for the folks on your list who want to support children’s education around the world.

1.  Send a girl to school for a year with a donation to the International Rescue Committee.

2. Help build classrooms in Uganda with a donation through GlobalGiving.

3. Buy books for children with a donation to Oxfam America.

4. Purchase school uniforms for girls with a donation to Room to Read.

5. Fund a classroom project on DonorsChoose.org.

6.  Set up a temporary school for children during times of emergency with UNICEF’s School-in-a-Box Kit.

Check out last week’s gift guide: 5 Gifts for Animal Loving Do-Gooders.


Each month, WE Volunteer Partner, Ladies Home Journal, posts a Do Good Challenge. This month’s challenge is to give the gift of music to children. The February 2011 issue of LHJ will feature a story, Perfect Harmony, about Strings for Kids. Strings for Kids is a nonprofit organization that helps low-income students learn how to play stringed instruments.

I’ve collected a sample of organizations that support music education for you to check out below.  Let me know if I’ve missed your favorite:

You can also search for music-related volunteer opportunities on match.wevolunteer.tv, or contact your local public school to ask how you can help give the gift of music to their students.

The last episode of filming was very memorable for both Bryan and I. It was the first filming in Florida that we really felt like we were home. The kids were loving it, the weather was warming up so we were able to make it to the beach, and Bryan and I were really starting to feel like a team for the first time in 3 years.

We were so excited about getting to meet with our counselor Dr. Deb Mandel for a second time. We had really learned a lot from her the first session, and were ready to invest some more time and energy into our marriage. She had a way of really digging into the root of the issue and teaching us a practical way to resolve conflict. We left feeling refreshed and renewed!

The last week of filming overall was very good, we had a lot of fun, and implemented some changes that were only going to make our life in Florida better than it already was! It was fun to see where Bryan and I had come from and where we were going, and we both like the direction that we are heading. Life can be really messy, but we have both realized if we take an active part in confronting issues head on, listen to one another, and actively try to make things better little by little everyday, we will be much happier in the long run. We are so thankful that God gave us the courage and energy to embrace our journey and all of its experiences (both good and bad). Overall, we are humbled and blessed!

We are in our second month in Florida and we’re finally making it feel like “home.” After the initial culture shock of being 1800 miles away in an environment where nothing is familiar and we are doing this alone, we are ready to set up and make our house feel like a home.  I have always dreamed of having a garden, and having fun with the kids in the garden. I thought it would be a fun family activity and something fun to do with the kids, and maybe a way to make “vegetables” more appealing to them! Not to mention, the money it will save us in the grocery store!

Planting the garden was a lot of fun because I got to watch Bryan do it all!! 🙂  I didn’t mean for it to work out that way, but it was easier for me to keep the kids distracted, and he genuinely enjoys yard work/gardening.  We were able to go together as a family and pick out the fruits and vegetables we wanted to plant, and it was fun to just learn what all grows here! We never even attempted a garden in AZ due to the heat, the rocks and lack of water.

We also had another “big surprise”! My mom had wanted to buy the kids a jungle gym for the backyard to help occupy their time and attention. We thought we were going to get it for their birthday, but one day a huge truck pulled up to our driveway and unloaded a jungle gym!  We were SOOO excited, but it was almost comical because it came in pieces.. and lots of pieces.  I could see it in Bryan’s face that it was going to be a lot of work putting it together.  I spent a lot of time encouraging and “cheerleading” for him. You can do it honey! I believe in you!!!  We were so fortunate that near the end of the project (though their was probably still 6 hours of work left) we had a dear friend Kip come help Bryan with the jungle gym. Hence, the project finished in much less time than we thought, and I know it was a HUGE relief for Bryan.

We were also blessed to meet another expert Dr. Ari Brown, a pediatrician from Austin TX who specializes in toddlers and different issues with toddlers. Our biggest issue with our children that we had not yet resolved was sleeping. They were not taking naps nor were they sleeping through the night. By the morning we would have anywhere from 2 to 6 kids in bed with us, and it was making for not only 6 tired and cranky toddlers, but 2 tired and cranky parents. We were at a loss!  Dr. Brown has some great ideas and we were really excited to hear them!  We knew whatever changes that needed to be made were going to be painful, but we desperately needed to make the changes so that everyone would get more sleep, and in the end we would all be more happy and energetic throughout our days.

Fortunately, it only took a few days to implement the changes and we were in luck! Bryan and I were ecstatic. And RESTED!  And the kids moods improved greatly too!

So far, we are loving our life in Florida and things are really moving along smoothly!  A new garden, new jungle gym and gymnastics, and lots of new adventures in our new home! We are so thankful for this opportunity to be here and all the wonderful new friends we have met. Thank you Lord!

It is hard to believe we are finally in Florida, after 6 months of preparation… and without family or anybody we know!  Bryan and I are both so excited to be on this new adventure together, however we both know it isn’t going to be completely easy. In fact, it is going to be very exhausting! It seems like we argue every morning: “You get up with the kids, no you get up.”  Between Bryan working on setting up his new business and myself working nights in the ER, we don’t have one second of down time, or so it seems. We know that even though this move will be good for us and our marriage, we still need to be actively working on our marriage, especially without our support system.

During this shoot we were able to schedule a marriage therapy session with Dr. Mandel, and boy did we need it!  Even though things seemed to be going well for us, we realized just how important it was for us to have alone time, having meaningful conversation and simply working on “us”. It is so easy for us to be distracted and not even have a real conversation in a day because we have no time. But having this counseling session was so refreshing, and we both left with big smiles on our face and a sense of accomplishment. We both desperately want our marriage to work and we will do whatever it takes to keep it solid and strong.  Overall, the move so far has been a huge success, other than we’re both completely exhausted all the time. Still, there is a sense of “we did it!” The Lord has blessed us with an amazing church and precious people who are soon to be friends in just a matter of weeks! And we even found trustworthy babysitters so we can continue our date nights!  We are so thankful to be here and excited to see what God has in store for us in Florida!

Today I received a $10 GivingCard in the mail from DonorsChoose.org, an online charity that connects you to public school classrooms in need.  It came with a note that said:

“Happy Birthday! This birthday GivingCard was covered by a partner of ours – for you to experience the joy of giving back on your special day.”

I’ve donated to DonorsChoose.org projects in the past.  It’s cool.  You can browse school projects by state, city, school, subject, cost, poverty level, and urgency.

My birthday isn’t actually until August, which is why there was a second note with the card asking me to donate my birthday through DonorsChoose.org’s Great Give-Back Birthday.  Here’s how it works:

Some celebrities who have donated their birthdays to DonorsChoose.org include Steven Colbert, Adam Lambert, and Darius Rucker.

I haven’t decided yet whether or not I’ll donate my birthday to DonorsChoose.org.  Last year I set up a Facebook Birthday Wish, and asked people to donate to Women for Women International for my birthday, which was fun, and rewarding, so maybe I’ll do something similar this year.

Have you ever donated your birthday to a nonprofit, or charity?

The most eventful moment in our six years of marriage, 2nd to having sextuplets, was MOVING across the country away from our family with SIX 2 yr olds!  Of course leading up to the move was a bit stressful for all involved. Our families were sad, hurt and even mad at us about the move. But Bryan and I continued to be more and more excited for the adventure that awaited us! We had prayed long and hard about this move and knew that it wasn’t just a quick, flippant decision… it was a well thought, well prayed about move. With that said, it was now time to actually make the move…. 4 long months in the waiting!

The last few days in Havasu were filled with many emotions, lots of tears and even some conflict. Fortunately, Monday morning December 28th finally came around and we headed down the road for a 5 day, 19 person adventure!  We had many plans for this road trip. For anyone who knows me, I’m the road trip queen and there is nothing I love to do more! However, this was the first time I was going to embark on a cross country road trip with 6 two yr olds….and we were only headed one way!

We left Lake Havasu and within 20 minutes our Excursion started to act funny…. what? How could this be happening? Is this a sign from the Lord? What does this mean for the rest of the trip?  We were dumbfounded and scared. Within minutes my scattered, lost little brain, realized that I had put regular fuel in my diesel vehicle….. hence, the problem!  Surprisingly, Bryan was not mad at all and just kind of laughed….. praise the Lord!  So $500 later and about 2 hours behind us, we’re with Bryan’s parents. I have to say I was a little frightened that happened so early into our trip and wondered what may lie ahead of us!

Fortunately the rest of the day was lighthearted and fun, with my hubby, best friend, parents, brother and six precious children in tow. We arrived in New Mexico in the freezing cold and snow flurries! Our beds were welcoming and the kids needed a break. Day 2 consisted of another boring drive through much deserted dry lands. We stopped in El Paso for one of the best Mexican meals I have ever had!  That was enough to make all of us smile!  And at the end of the day we landed in Ft. Stockton, TX.  Day 3 we were headed to our first “fun” stop. We were staying at a B&B Ranch outside of Houston, TX and I was going to see some of my best friends from college.

We had an amazing time at the B&B and the next morning we took the kids horseback riding for the first time. They continue to this day asking me to go horseback riding!  It was a thrill for sure and SO exciting to see the excitement in the kids eyes. We then had an amazing meal at the BEST BBQ restaurant  in Houston. They we headed to Louisiana to spend the New Years and my 35th birthday Cajun style!!! We stayed at these quaint Cajun cottages just outside of Baton Rouge. We had a Cajun feast with gumbo and a birthday cake the kids couldn’t keep their eyes off of! And of course, my favorite, red vino!  It was definitely one of the most memorable birthdays I have ever had!

Moving to Florida with sextuplets, staying on the bayou in Cajun cottages and spending time with my family and best friend…. so fun!!!  And then for the last day, we had an easy drive through Mississippi, Alabama and then to home sweet home!  Being that it was day 5, I think frustrations were setting in and Bryan and I had a few conflicts. There was no way we were going to have 5 days on the road with that many people and not have conflict.  I guess the blessing in it all is that we could of had more!

Overall, my memory of the trip was just absolutely amazing. One of the most surreal journeys of a lifetime that I definitely will never forget. You will see lots of drama I’m sure, but we’ll save that for the show! Can’t wait to watch and re-live!