At the suggestion of Vince’s doctor, Tamar and Vince head to therapy to sort out their concerns. Vince’s health problems have taken their toll on the both of them, and the constant fighting and bickering is starting to get worse. There is only one rule; no one is allowed to interrupt each other. Tamar explains to the therapist, Sevin that since Vince was hospitalized their lifestyle has changed considerably, as well as their timeline for having a child. After Tamar speaks, Vince states that the baby issue isn’t even an issue at all. T&VQuote: “I am cool on that. That has left the station.” This causes Tamar to be understandably upset. Vince wants to act like everything is cool, but then still partakes in the arguments every other day. Either these two talk out their issues in therapy, or they find a way to deal with all the arguing. When asked what his biggest issue is with Tamar, he quickly replies, “Your mouth!” It is clear Tamar’s ways of expressing herself are Vince’s characteristics of acting out of control. These two just agree to disagree. T&VQuote: “It’s hard to know what’s hurtful and what isn’t. And it takes time to figure it out.”
On that positive note, aloha Hawaii! T&VQuote: “Oh wow! This is gorg!” Joined by April and LaShawn, these two couples are here for some straight up R&R, and like Tamar said, “not ratchet and ridiculousness.” As the fab four drive through the scenes of Hawaii, they listen to another track of Tamar’s, “Love and War”. This is the first time WE have heard a ballot, and Tamar is a truly talented singer. Vince is just incredibly proud of her, and each time he hears her sing with such vulnerability he falls in love with her all over again. And after such a touching moment, things just keep getting better and better as Vince is approached by a young fan, and the group stumbles upon one of the many beautiful waterfalls of Hawaii. T&VQuotes: “It’s damn near breath taking.”
The couples head back to the resort for some lounging and boozing… funners! But, that was short lived since Vince and LaShawn had to bring up the fact that they met a female dolphin trainer at the airport. Did we also mention she was blond?
Next stop, a canoe ride in the scorching heat with two non-swimmers… funners? This is sure to be one hot ass mess when Tamar is the most athletic person on the excursion! Thankfully, everyone gets it together in time to start paddling and go on the search for turtle dingaling. This is short lived as well with LaShawn spouting nonsense about a gusty sea report and Vince having to do #2. Have several!
And soon we are back on the subject of Vince and his preference for blonds. WE get that he likes blonds, but where are they all coming from? It’s like a moth to a flame! T&VQuote: “She wants a piece of my rib!” This is just all too much. Vince should just stay clear of any and all women so we don’t have to hear anymore of this nonsense ever again. Unfortunately, our wish is not granted and we are now on the subject of the “kiss” Tamar received from the canoe instructor… and then how Tamar doesn’t listen (which everyone agrees with). T&VQuote: “And SHE does not appreciate it. I’m gonna go HAM Nation on everyone.” Bless April for trying to bring everyone back to a positive place, but she should have quit while she was ahead.
All I can say is please let some coconut bras and grass skirts lighten this mood. LaShawn takes it upon himself to get up on stage and perform a little Bruno Mars for the buffet-lovin’ tourists. April and Tamar make Vince run interception on this mess in the making, but Vince joins right in! However, if our man gave us a personal shout out, we would just melt. What a sweetheart! However, LaShawn is just a plan jokester and he would have gotten major side eye!
As if the canoe trip wasn’t an indication that these men don’t do well with aquatic sports, April and Tamar take them on a snorkeling trip via a boat equipped with floaties and 30 life jackets. Between Vince’s high blood pressure, LaShawn reverting to his toddler years once he hits water, and April coming clean about her aquaphobia, Tamar is once again the bravest one here. This is a circus! T&VQuote: “All I could think of was no bottom… no bottom… You got Nessy the Lockness Monster, Big Foot, unicorns. You don’t know what’s down there.” At least LaShawn finally starts enjoying himself… must have been that bribery of French fries and pizza.
It’s the last night in Hawaii, and everyone is looking forward to a romantic, waterfront dinner. With everything going so great, each couple decides to share their beliefs about their marriage to each other. Sharing is caring, but sharing is also very dangerous… especially when you are sharing thoughts on money and mistrust. Once Vince starts to try and express himself, Tamar starts to interrupt him. And this looks like this may be Vince’s last straw on this trip. T&VQuote: “You don’t have to be the center of attention, and it doesn’t have to be all about you.” Tamar tries to explain to Vince they both share and equal amount of love and respect for one another, and it is extremely hurtful when Vince doubts that equality. It’s obvious Vince’s resentment is over something completely different; when Vince got sick, Tamar took a break from the hospital and went to Philly to visit a friend for a few hours. Hearing Vince express his anger over this is extremely hurtful to Tamar and she can’t do anything but defend herself. This situation has officially gotten a lot worse between the two of them since their therapy session, and Vince can’t do anything else but leave.
Will Tamar and Vince ever get through this rough patch and move on from all the past hang ups and issues? What’s your advice to this couple?
After last week’s desert diva bonding session, the ladies are hard at work mending (or moving on from?) their relationships with their men.
Tamar and her husband Vincent jet off to Chicago to speak at a relationship seminar…you know, because they’re the pinnacle of wedded bliss. On the way to the airport, Vincent drops a bomb that he and Tamar will need to move into their new house within a month. BFVQuotes: “He found a place that’s big enough for us. It has a lot of room for all my babies. And by my babies, I mean my shoes. I don’t need no real babies right now because shoes don’t even cry.”
Meanwhile, following rehearsal for an upcoming showcase, Trina hits up the bar for several martinis and shots with her band. She is subconsciously trying to avoid her issues at home with Gabe, along with the fact that she recently told Towanda to move out.
What Trina doesn’t know is that Towanda has recently saved up enough cash for a down payment on a house! The subject comes up during an outing with her separated husband, Andre, who is hoping to move in and make things work. When he admits that he hasn’t been to marriage counseling like Towanda had asked, she immediately shoots him down.
The next day, having slept at a hotel so as not to drink and drive, Trina returns home, again hoping to avoid Gabe. No such luck. He confronts Trina about her avoidance issues and admits he wants to try to resolve their problems. This is hard for Trina, who still sees Gabe as a serial cheater.
In Chicago over dinner, Tamar and Vince establish that they are both getting on each other’s nerves during this business trip. When Tamar sees the cute, blonde waitress flirting with Vince (so she thinks), she blows her snippity-snappity fuse. BFVQuotes: “Don’t be winkin’ at my man in my face, boo.” When the waitress encourages the couple to try a white and dark meat-infused chicken, Tamar goes to town, hilariously referring to it as “segregated chicken,” “zebra chicken” and “a hotdog.” BFVQuotes: “You know what’s good? Me. I’m the chicken breast you lookin’ for…that looks like a bunch of fried-up cow balls. I’m still pretty, and I am delicious.” Vincent’s answer? “I’m gonna pray for you.”
Andre helps Towanda move into her beautiful new house, who again tries to weasel his way back in. And Towanda puts her foot down again with the counseling card. Sorry, Andre.
During a meeting with Dr. Sherry, Trina finally admits that she plum doesn’t like Gabe. After she caught him behaving inappropriately with yet another female, she quit wearing her wedding ring. BFVQuotes: “He asks me, ‘Why aren’t you wearing your ring?’ Take it! Pawn it! I don’t want it! The symbolism is gone. It means nothing to me.” The session concludes with Trina stating that she no longer wants this marriage with Gabe, and that she is done. Gabe moves his stuff out of their bedroom into a different room in the house. As he says: it may be the beginning of the end.
Later that night in Chicago, Tamar is displeased to find out that she and Vince are hosting a speed-dating event at a local club. BFVQuotes: “This ain’t the big league! This is small-time French fry.” Nonetheless, the event goes off without a hitch, and Tamar and Vince quit their playful bickering long enough to give a heartwarming speech about dating and love.
Towanda invites Evelyn and her sisters over to her gorgeous new house; everyone is visibly thrilled. Except, Tamar insists on making the good news about her (shocker!), constantly questioning the whereabouts of Andre, even going so far as to demand that one of Towanda’s Yves Saint Laurent bags, and one of her coats, and several sweaters, are actually hers. Why go shopping when you can just go to your sister’s, right?
Your thoughts — do you think Tamar and Vince have a rock-solid relationship? What is it that makes their union work? And is there hope at all for Trina and Gabe, along with Towanda and Andre? Sound off! Comment with your thoughts.
Where shall I begin… well, I will just start from the beginning. I honestly feel that the comment from Toni was out of place, because I feel out of place as it is. I feel as if I am constantly judged by all of my sisters on a regular basis. I know a lot of you feel that I over reacted but if it was you sitting in the chair with all that built up, I know you would have acted the same exact way.
I don’t spend a lot of time with my sisters because I live in Maryland, but when I am with them I make sure to make the best of it because it is so rare. I love my sisters but things have not been the same since the Trio Braxton’s album. And yes, 15 years later it still hurts, because I deserved my chance as well as my sisters. But needless to say, the bond we have is strong and clearly became even stronger on the Sister’s Retreat to Arizona. It was a much needed vacation! So my advice from this episode is to always feel free to express yourself and never hold it in. Your family should be your backbone that you lean on no matter what – through the good and bad. And everyone is entitled to their own opinion…even me.
Love You #BFV Fans. See you next Thursday!