At the suggestion of Vince’s doctor, Tamar and Vince head to therapy to sort out their concerns. Vince’s health problems have taken their toll on the both of them, and the constant fighting and bickering is starting to get worse. There is only one rule; no one is allowed to interrupt each other. Tamar explains to the therapist, Sevin that since Vince was hospitalized their lifestyle has changed considerably, as well as their timeline for having a child. After Tamar speaks, Vince states that the baby issue isn’t even an issue at all. T&VQuote: “I am cool on that. That has left the station.” This causes Tamar to be understandably upset. Vince wants to act like everything is cool, but then still partakes in the arguments every other day. Either these two talk out their issues in therapy, or they find a way to deal with all the arguing. When asked what his biggest issue is with Tamar, he quickly replies, “Your mouth!” It is clear Tamar’s ways of expressing herself are Vince’s characteristics of acting out of control. These two just agree to disagree. T&VQuote: “It’s hard to know what’s hurtful and what isn’t. And it takes time to figure it out.”
On that positive note, aloha Hawaii! T&VQuote: “Oh wow! This is gorg!” Joined by April and LaShawn, these two couples are here for some straight up R&R, and like Tamar said, “not ratchet and ridiculousness.” As the fab four drive through the scenes of Hawaii, they listen to another track of Tamar’s, “Love and War”. This is the first time WE have heard a ballot, and Tamar is a truly talented singer. Vince is just incredibly proud of her, and each time he hears her sing with such vulnerability he falls in love with her all over again. And after such a touching moment, things just keep getting better and better as Vince is approached by a young fan, and the group stumbles upon one of the many beautiful waterfalls of Hawaii. T&VQuotes: “It’s damn near breath taking.”
The couples head back to the resort for some lounging and boozing… funners! But, that was short lived since Vince and LaShawn had to bring up the fact that they met a female dolphin trainer at the airport. Did we also mention she was blond?
Next stop, a canoe ride in the scorching heat with two non-swimmers… funners? This is sure to be one hot ass mess when Tamar is the most athletic person on the excursion! Thankfully, everyone gets it together in time to start paddling and go on the search for turtle dingaling. This is short lived as well with LaShawn spouting nonsense about a gusty sea report and Vince having to do #2. Have several!
And soon we are back on the subject of Vince and his preference for blonds. WE get that he likes blonds, but where are they all coming from? It’s like a moth to a flame! T&VQuote: “She wants a piece of my rib!” This is just all too much. Vince should just stay clear of any and all women so we don’t have to hear anymore of this nonsense ever again. Unfortunately, our wish is not granted and we are now on the subject of the “kiss” Tamar received from the canoe instructor… and then how Tamar doesn’t listen (which everyone agrees with). T&VQuote: “And SHE does not appreciate it. I’m gonna go HAM Nation on everyone.” Bless April for trying to bring everyone back to a positive place, but she should have quit while she was ahead.
All I can say is please let some coconut bras and grass skirts lighten this mood. LaShawn takes it upon himself to get up on stage and perform a little Bruno Mars for the buffet-lovin’ tourists. April and Tamar make Vince run interception on this mess in the making, but Vince joins right in! However, if our man gave us a personal shout out, we would just melt. What a sweetheart! However, LaShawn is just a plan jokester and he would have gotten major side eye!
As if the canoe trip wasn’t an indication that these men don’t do well with aquatic sports, April and Tamar take them on a snorkeling trip via a boat equipped with floaties and 30 life jackets. Between Vince’s high blood pressure, LaShawn reverting to his toddler years once he hits water, and April coming clean about her aquaphobia, Tamar is once again the bravest one here. This is a circus! T&VQuote: “All I could think of was no bottom… no bottom… You got Nessy the Lockness Monster, Big Foot, unicorns. You don’t know what’s down there.” At least LaShawn finally starts enjoying himself… must have been that bribery of French fries and pizza.
It’s the last night in Hawaii, and everyone is looking forward to a romantic, waterfront dinner. With everything going so great, each couple decides to share their beliefs about their marriage to each other. Sharing is caring, but sharing is also very dangerous… especially when you are sharing thoughts on money and mistrust. Once Vince starts to try and express himself, Tamar starts to interrupt him. And this looks like this may be Vince’s last straw on this trip. T&VQuote: “You don’t have to be the center of attention, and it doesn’t have to be all about you.” Tamar tries to explain to Vince they both share and equal amount of love and respect for one another, and it is extremely hurtful when Vince doubts that equality. It’s obvious Vince’s resentment is over something completely different; when Vince got sick, Tamar took a break from the hospital and went to Philly to visit a friend for a few hours. Hearing Vince express his anger over this is extremely hurtful to Tamar and she can’t do anything but defend herself. This situation has officially gotten a lot worse between the two of them since their therapy session, and Vince can’t do anything else but leave.
Will Tamar and Vince ever get through this rough patch and move on from all the past hang ups and issues? What’s your advice to this couple?