About Alex

Bride’s Name & Age:  Alexandria, 22
Bride’s Occupation:  Full time education student/server/manager at restaurant
Groom’s Name & Age: Brian, 26
Groom’s Occupation: Human Factors Research Scientist

Honeymoon location: Mexico

How long have your been dreaming of your wedding day? I never even really thought of my wedding until Brian and I started talking about getting married. I wasn’t one of those girls that had everything planned to a T as far as colors, designs, what I wanted it to look like, etc. I had NO IDEA. I have only been considering all of these things within the last year, year and a half or so. My dream wedding would be fancy, elegant yet fun, beautiful, everything needs to be PERFECT to MY expectations.

Approx. Wedding Budget?

Who’s paying for wedding?
Bride’s father and the couple

Who’s in charge of budget?

What happens if you go over budget? We change the budget. We have already changed the budget 3 times.

Did you hire a wedding planner? No, I want to be in charge of everything. I don’t trust someone else to take care of my wedding.

Describe your dream wedding dress? Long train, tight upper boddess, flows into a poofy bottom, not a lot of sequence or decoration, simple, yet elegant and different.

Who chose the rings? 
I chose my engagement ring BOTH times. When we talked about getting engaged, we went looking at rings so Brian could get an idea of what I wanted. Once we started looking and I would point out what I liked, he said he NEVER would have picked out something like what I was picking. Everything that he said he liked and would have picked out was UGLY. I told him I didn’t like anything he was looking at so we decided to let me pick. The first time we got engaged, he had money saved up for my engagement ring and spent it on new wheels and rims for his car so I had to wait. Once I got my ring, we had a falling out about 2 months later, in December, 2008 and called it off. We decided to work things out in January and got re-engaged in March, 2009. I told him that since he screwed me over with my first ring, I wanted a bigger diamond. He agreed. He bought the initial set and I hated the band so he took it back. We went back to the jewelers in October, 2009 and I decided I loved the wedding band that came with it so we went back and bought it. I helped pick his out as well. He wanted a black, carbon fiber ring, I refused to let him have such a non-fancy ring. It didn’t even look like a wedding ring. I told him he had to get white gold so it would match mine. He had a choice between 3 rings, and picked one.

How long have you been planning the wedding? Since September of 2008

How helpful has the groom been (or not) in the planning process?
He has gone to bridal shows willingly, gone to most appointments with vendors when he is available, yet the only input he says he wants is that he wants to have a say in the music. He doesn’t think we need flowers or a cake, or lighting for the reception.

Are you trying to lose weight before the wedding?
YES! I bought my wedding dress back in March and it fit perfectly. I tried it on again in September and it was getting tight. I am dieting and exercising. I am trying to stop drinking pop (which I am ADDICTED to) and eat less. My goal is to lose 15 pounds by the wedding.

Tell us about your future In-Laws. How do you get along with them?  How does the groom get along with your parents?
My future in laws are very nice for the most part. I don’t think they know how to let their son live without them however. They always have input on anything he does. Brian always calls his parents if he needs help or has a question about ANYTHING! They need to cut the chord already. 

Tell us about your family. How have they been involved in the planning process? My father is supposed to be giving us $5000 for the wedding. The wedding is in March and he says he won’t have the money until after the 1st of the year. I honestly don’t think he is saving the money up. He told us he SHOULD have it for us unless something severe comes up. The fact that he even put those circumstances on it means that he doesn’t even want to do it and may not. Brian’s parents are not putting any money into the wedding because they are paying for the honeymoon.

Have you or your groom been married before?  Any children? If so, what role will the kids play on the wedding day? Neither of us have been married or have any kids.

Who are your most/least favorite celebrity brides? My favorite brides are Gisele Bundchen and Khloe Kardashian. They were elegant and classy and beautiful. My least favorite celeb brides would be Mariah Carey and Heidi Montag because I just don’t like either of them. They are way too overrated and obnoxious. They just thought they were so special but nobody really cared.

What’s the worst thing that could go wrong on your wedding day? If everything does not go perfectly. I want everything to be extravagant and beautiful and everyone to pay attention to ME!

What’s been your biggest stress since you started planning the wedding?
Living in Virginia and planning a wedding in Ohio, money issues, vendor issues- we had a huge problem with our first cake vendor.

How do you typically handle stressful situations in regards to your wedding? If it has to do with money, or wanting something, I just tell my fiance that it’s going to happen and to get over it. He usually argues with me for awhile then gives up. I typically yell because it’s my wedding and I am not going to let ANYONE ruin this.

Define the type a bride you will be? Controlling, Neurotic, Whiney and Demanding.

Tell us any dilemmas or stressful moments regarding the below details of the wedding. What happened? How was it resolved?

Cake: We had been going around to cake places doing tastings, trying to decide on a vendor. We finally found someone decently cheap that could do exactly what we wanted which was a topsy turvey cake. We put down the Deposit back in July and we were so excited that we had it taken care of. In September, I had e-mailed them with some questions about my cake and they ended up e-mailing back. However, when they e-mailed me back, they said they had no idea why the girl told me they could do that cake but they wouldn’t do it. I was moving to Virginia the first week of October and this was September 28 that I found this out. I FREAKED. I continued calling and e-mailing them demanding that they do my cake because I signed a contract and they had agreed.

Location: I couldn’t decide on a venue. Everytime we went somewhere I would change my mind about which one I liked. I ended up liking the most expensive place which we didn’t think we could afford. We ended up getting an e-mail from Elements and decided to go take a look. We looked and I thought it was a very nice place but it didn’t have the windows I wanted but it did have a high ceiling which I also wanted. We ended up compromising and picking Elements. We could not find any place with a high ceiling and a pretty set of windows.

Date: We had originally planned for the wedding to be in March because I wanted a Winter Wonderland theme and I was hoping for snow. Once we started thinking about it, we realized snow and freezing cold weather would be awful for travel so we moved it to March.

Our initial budget was $10,000. Once we started planning and I started investigating wedding accessories, I knew that wouldn’t be enough for what I wanted so brian agreed to change it to $12,000. I decided that still wasn’t enough so I argued with Brian telling him he was going to ruin my wedding and he decided to up the budget again to $15,000 which is where it stands for now.

Brian and Brian’s father don’t feel that we need flowers for the wedding or ceremony at all. I argued with them about the cost and what I wanted and they said it was entirely too expensive. I told them it didn’t matter and that I knew what I wanted and I was getting flowers. It ended at that. I did agree to cut back a little bit on the centerpieces but I did go bigger and more extravagent than I had planned for my bouquet.

The Groom: He keeps complaining that he is getting no input for the wedding. Everytime I ask him about the wedding or planning or what he wants he says he doesn’t care and it’s up to me. Yet once again, as soon as something is brought up in a conversation with someone, he complains again about being left out.

Wedding Party:
I have already gotten rid of 3 bridesmaids and I am working on getting rid of a groomsman. My initial maid of honor said she didn’t agree with our marriage so she is no longer in the wedding. She still wants to be invited but I told her if she can't be a good enough friend to support me I don’t want her there. The other two bridesmaids said that they couldn’t afford getting their nails, hair and makeup done so I told them if they weren't willing to do what I wanted then I didn’t want them throwing off my wedding with their tackiness. The only groomsman Brian had a say in I extremely dislike. I have told him he needs to get someone else and I actually already have someone picked out. I have already told the other guy that I want him to replace the current groomsman and he is all for it. I have told Brian that if the current groomsman so much as looks at me wrong ten he is done.

In-Laws: I have no idea where either of us stand with the others’ in-laws at this point after everything that has happened.

My sister and I do not get along at all. She is not going to be in my wedding and I am debating even inviting her, despite the fact that my family is very upset about the situation. I think that if she does come to my wedding, she will just end up making a huge problem and I don’t want her ruining my day. She is ridiculously jealous that I got engaged and I am getting married before her.

What’s the story of how you got engaged?
I had found out that Brian had been talking to his ex-girlfriends and some other random girls behind my back AGAIN. This has been a reoccuring problem and I was tired of it. I told him that if our relationship wasn’t going anywhere I was leaving. I wanted to get married and make something of us and I didn’t have time to wait around for him to stop screwing up. So he started working on his issues and we ended up getting engaged.

What do you love the most about your husband-to-be? He does whatever I want. He takes care of me. If I am sitting on the couch and I’m thirsty, all I have to do is ask and then if that doesn’t work, I whine until he gets up. I am ridiculously spoiled.

What’s your biggest pet peeve about your husband to be? 
He never leaves me alone. He is very clingy and constantly touching me and all over me, even if I am in the middle of doing something or out in public.

When you disagree, what is it usually about, and how do you handle it? It’s usually about something stupid that he has done that has pissed me off. I usually just yell at him until he fixes it or I make him feel bad about it so he doesn’t do it again.

Has the engagement/wedding ever been called off, or in jeopardy? The wedding was called off back in December of 2008 because Brian and I had gotten in a huge fight and I left. We didn’t talk for about a week or so then slowly started talking again. We realized that the only friends he really had anymore were my friends so we were bound to end up seeing each other again. We started talking and hanging out and trying to just be friends. We both realized we still had feelings for each other and decided to work on things in January. We got re-engaged in March.

In what ways have you shown Bridezilla behavior during the wedding planning?
When I went to deal with our orignal cake vendor, I flipped out and was extremely pissed off and freaking out. When it comes to what I get for the wedding, I don’t care what we do or don’t have money for or what anyone else thinks, I WILL get what I want. My plan is to have a better wedding than any of the weddings that we have been to, especially Brian’s college friend’s wedding that we just went to in October. I really don’t like his new wife and I just want to out-do her.

Who tends to bring out the Bridezilla behavior in you?  Why? My fiance, he insists on telling me I cant have certain things or do certain things when him and I both know how it’s going to end. I will get my way. Him and my mother always just end up giving me what I want or telling me it’s my wedding and I deserve everything I want so I know I’m going to get it.

When things aren’t going your way in regards to the details of how you want your wedding, how do you handle it? I argue and yell until everyone sees my point. If they don’t see my point it doesn’t really matter because it’s not their wedding. I will get my way. It’s my wedding, everyone else is just invited.