About Ashanti

Bride’s Name & Age:  Ashanti, 22
Bride’s Occupation:  Loan Coordinator
Groom’s Name & Age: Geoffery, 28
Groom’s Occupation: United States Navy

How long have your been dreaming of your wedding day? As crazy as it seems, I didn’t start thinking of my wedding day until I was in college. When I was growing up I was sort of a tomboy. I became much more involved in lady-like things in college. I was introduced to make-up and magazines, and then all of a sudden I was planning my future five years down the line. I always said to myself “I want to be married at 25, and have kids at 30." I NEVER dreamed I’d meet my husband-to-be the second month of my senior year in college. It wasn’t in my timeline, it wasn’t how I thought it would happen. And this wedding is DEFINETLY happening so soon I still cannot grasp it completely!

What is the approx. wedding budget? $10,000

Who’s paying for the wedding? Grandmother of Bride & Groom

What happens if you go over budget? Realistically, my grandmother is going to let me get what I want because she raised me and I’m like her princess. My mom might get upset because she never had her own wedding. 

Did you hire a wedding planner?  How are they doing? We are not hiring a wedding planner. I will be planning the wedding with my grandmother and mother.

How helpful has the groom been (or not) in the planning process? The groom tries to act like he’s been helping by adding suggestions every once in a while. But he has been a complete procrastinator about everything. He started a website for people to RSVP, etc. I ended up having to complete most of it. He might be contributing to a caterer, but that’s only because he wants to incorporate a Jamaican-themed wedding cake and food into the wedding. I still haven’t told my grandmother that because I think she might be upset (she’s not Jamaican). 

Tell us about your family. How have they been involved in the planning process? My family has been involved in every negative aspect of the planning. If things could be postponed, go wrong, be cancelled, etc, you could list MY family as the culprits. Well, everybody EXCEPT my grandmother. My grandmother IS my rock. She cares about my wedding and she loves me so much and I'm just afraid that because she is disabled she can't be super involved like she wants to be. And that hurts well enough because I don’t want to put work on her. I just go to her for ideas because she has beautiful taste and she is the only person that has ever taken care of me. SO that leaves most of the important errands left to my mother, who I honestly think is trying to sabotage my happiness. My sisters don’t really care, they are just spectators. But when I get home, I will see who is really on my side. 

Have you or your groom been married before?  Any children? If so, what role will the kids play on the wedding day? Yes, Geoff has been married before. It doesn’t bother me because he was married in Vegas and his parents didn’t approve so no one showed up at his first small wedding when he was young. Now, he and I both agree this feels like the “real thing.” Geoff has two little sons; they are his little mini-mes. They won't be able to come to the wedding because they live in Hawaii, and will be in school. I really wanted them in the wedding. Their mother was divorced from Geoff three years before I met him. 

What’s the worst thing that could go wrong on your wedding day? If ANYTHING goes wrong it could be the worst thing. I just think that things can go wrong on normal days, but on your wedding day NOTHING should go wrong. And if it does, there should be TEN people in front of me making sure I have no idea anything went wrong. 

What disagreements have come up about the wedding?   We argued about place cards and whether or not to have them! We argued about how many people we should have at the wedding. We disagreed about catering.

Has the engagement/wedding ever been called off, or in jeopardy?  If so, what happened and how did it get resolved?  Hell, no!!

Define the type a bride you will be:  What bride is “laid back”? I’d sure like to have her number. In fact, can you make her my wedding planner? I’ll take the “laid back” bride for 100. A “laid back” bride either doesn’t want to get married, or plans to get married again someday. I only started freaking out when I realized this will only happen once. I only want to marry one man and be with him for the rest of my life, and that’s Geoffery. SO this is the day. I'm controlling and emotional. Demanding is an understatement. I only get what I want, there is NO compromise. I'm emotional when I'm not in Control, and I become controlling when my demands are not met. SO there you go. 🙂