Bride’s Name, Age & Occupation: Blanca, Age 26, Administrative Analyst
Groom’s Name, Age & Occupation: Julian, Age 32, Electrician
How long have you’re been dreaming of your wedding day and what was/is your Dream Wedding:
I wouldn’t say that I'm the type of girl who has been dreaming of my wedding since I was a little girl. I typically wouldn’t dream of my big day. But if I did or was going to one day get married, I would want to be in control of my wedding.
Who’s paying for your wedding? Julian and myself. We are having a few family members help us out on a few things, but for the majority of this wedding it is Julian and myself.
What happens if you go over budget? We already did and I had to take out a loan. I am now hoping I don’t go over the new budget which is one of my biggest concerns and one of my biggest stresses.
Did you hire a wedding planner? How are they doing?
Yes, my sister Dalia, who is the Maid of Honor, hired a wedding planner because she could not deal with me anymore. Her name is Angela.
How helpful has the groom been (or not) in the planning process?
Groom Julian Lujan was not helpful the first time we attempted to get married. This is one of the main reasons why we didn’t succeed. This time around he has been helpful and has been there through this whole process. He typically lets me make the final decisions but I will let him make decisions on a few things for his groomsmen. My only problem with Julian is that he likes to take his time to do a task I have made him in charge of. He has no urgency to hurry up and finish the task and will just tell me not to worry about it.
Tell us about your family. How have they been involved in the planning process?
Mom : My mom, oh, I love that lady dearly. My mom and dad got a divorce three years ago, then got back together and decided to get married again. When they got engaged in front of us over a year ago they decided to get married in Hawaii in July 2012. Julian and I made sure we didn’t get married around their time. As much as we wanted to have a wedding in the summer, we couldn’t. When I had my final wedding date my mom had informed me that she had also changed her date and was getting married 2 weeks before my wedding. I did not take this very well and tried to hide my feelings but as time went on and my mother had no interest in my wedding for the simple fact she was planning her own wedding this made me very upset and angry. I would cry to Julian about how my mom would make me feel. I didn’t want to speak to my mom, let alone tell her about my feelings because she wouldn’t understand and only take it the wrong way. Eventually I told her and she was upset and took it just as I expected. After a few weeks she calmed down and told me she would change her wedding date to two weeks after my wedding. I was only able to laugh by this time. I currently don’t hear about “her” wedding plans but I am sure she is still planning. She is not involved like I would like her to be; She waits for me to call her and invite her. If I don’t ,then she takes it as I didn’t call her. My sister, the Maid of Honor, defends my mom to the end and it only leads to an argument every time. My mom has also changed her "look" dramatically in the last 6 months. She now has more tattoos then I can count and her hair is very different. I want nothing more than to see my mom they way I have known her for the past 26 years of my life. I don’t feel that she would take all of this well.
Dad: My dad goes with the flow, but I don’t ask him for much as I don’t want my mom and dad to argue over my wedding. My dad will be in the middle of it all.
Sister(s): My sister Brenda is still in high school so she is busy with her teen life and I don’t ask much of her. Dalia is my Maid of Honor.
Brother: I have one brother who is also in high school. He doesn’t really care to be involved and will just do what we ask or tell him to do from time to time.
Have you or your groom been married before? Any children? If so, what role will the kids play on the wedding day? Julian was almost married to his ex-fiancé of 9 years but called it off. He has one child with another woman. I have never been married.
What’s the worst thing that could go wrong on your wedding day? Wow, I don’t even know where to begin. I have constant nightmares that no one in my bridal party is ready or anything ready. Then when I get everything and everyone ready I realize it's 2 AM and I'm still in my pajamas. I am worried that all of my hand-made decorations I made will not be where they should be. I am worried that people will bring guests that were not invited. I am worried about Julian’s family arguing and fighting with each other. I am worried about my wedding coordinator quiting on me. I am so worried that all my hard work will just go to waste and my wedding will be ruined.
Define the type a bride you will be & please give us examples: I would say controlling and demanding. I am naturally a controlling person and I like to be in control of my life. This is my wedding and I only plan on doing this wedding one time so I do feel that I am demanding as far as what I want and how I want things to go.
What disagreements have come up about the wedding?
It is usually about our guest and our families. He does not like to be the bad guy so he will usually blame everything on me.
Has the engagement/wedding ever been called off, or in jeopardy? If so, what happened and how did it get resolved? We have called off the wedding once before. We were supposed to get married on Labor weekend in 2008. Sadly, Julian’s dad passed away.