About Johanne

Bride’s Name & Age: Johanne, 34
Bride’s Occupation: Student / Homemaker
Groom’s Name & Age: Edgar, 43
Groom’s Occupation: Business Owner; Computer & Security Systems IT

How long have your been dreaming of your wedding day? I’ve been dreaming of my wedding day since I was 16 years old. I was married at 18 and that was not my dream wedding and again at 21, and that so was not my dream wedding either. My dream wedding consists of the beautiful gown, the perfect man, roses, great food, and being treated as if I was Cinderella for a day.

Approx. Wedding Budget: $10,000 without honeymoon

Who’s Paying for Wedding? Ed and I

Whose in Charge of Budget? I am

What happens if you go over budget? Then I freak out and call my best friend. I have no idea at this point. We better not go over budget.

Describe your dream wedding dress: My dream wedding dress would be the one that I am wearing. When they say “the bride doesn’t pick the dress, the dress picks the bride”, that is so very true. The dress is just like me “One of a kind.” It’s my dream dress, my princess hottie dress.
Who chose the rings?  What’s the story behind the rings? The rings don’t really have a story I don’t think behind them. The ring that I currently have as my engagement ring Ed picked out and surprised me with when he asked me to marry him for a second time. I have no idea what my wedding ring looks like and I haven’t even gotten him his yet.

# of Guests attending: 100-150

# in Wedding Party (Bridesmaids, Flower Girl. Groomsmen, ring bearer, etc.)  14

How long have you been planning wedding? Planning since last year when he proposed but I got sick with cervical cancer and just started re-planning a few months ago.

How helpful has the groom been (or not) in the planning process?
He hasn’t been helpful really at all. He thinks he has been but all he does in my opinion is blow hot air. For example, his list of invitees I have yet to receive their information to send them invites and he will say “I got that” I can’t trust that he will because he is a procrastinator. He still hasn’t gotten tuxedos or anything for the wedding.

Are you trying to lose weight before the wedding?  How are you going about that?  What’s your goal? I was going to try to lose weight before the wedding but I got a mommy make over instead so I don’t have to lose weight, I look great.

Tell us about your future In-Laws. How do you get along with them?  How does the groom get along with your parents? I don’t know Ed’s father but his mother is your typical New Yorker from Puerto Rico. I always thought she hated me because she and I never really spoke until recently. So I guess you can say we have a normal relationship when it comes to in-laws. As for Ed and my parents, they have a decent relationship. They talk and hang out on a regular basis.

Tell us about your family. How have they been involved in the planning process? My family hasn’t really helped at all until recently. My mom went to the tasting with us and was willing to help with the venue until it got changed. My sister has her own stuff going on so she’s a hit and miss. There is no real commitment from anyone accept myself, but isn’t that how it always is.

Have you or your groom been married before?  Any children? If so, what role will the kids play on the wedding day?
I have been married twice before and Ed has been married before. We have 3 children, 2 youngest are together and the oldest is from my best friend but knows Ed as his father. They will be in the wedding as Junior Groomsmen, Junior Bridesmaid, and a Ring bearer.

Who are your most/least favorite celebrity brides and why? Most favorite- Ivy, the Pilipino, because she wasn’t too crazy unless she really had to be and she was very well organized. She knew what she wanted and how it should be. She displayed the characteristics of a princess and a bridezilla, as it should be.
Least favorite- Karen, the Italian, because she was a little too much and over the top for me. There is no reason to be a crazy maniac just to be one. She didn’t manipulate or anything she was just a loud mouthed idiot. She needs to learn tactfulness and should understand how to choose her battles.

What’s the worst thing that could go wrong on your wedding day? That it’s not going to go as planned or as I see it. A vendor backs out or the groom doesn’t show up.

What’s been your biggest stress since you started planning the wedding? Absolutely, everything. The knowledge that there is even going to be a wedding alongside trying to figure out how everything is supposed to be and what I need for the wedding.

How do you typically handle stressful situations in regards to your wedding? Typically, I say screw it and there will be no damn wedding then. I go into complete and utter stress mode with tunnel vision for that situation until I know it has been handled. I get pissed and throw a fit and I tend to take it out on everyone who is around me.

What’s the story of how you got engaged? Ed and I had been together for about 10 years with some major ups and downs throughout the relationship. I was about to move out completely and leave him when he asked me to give him 6 months. I decided to do so and we began to live as friends not as a couple causing me to fall in love all over again with him. On St. Patrick’s Day at a local bar that him and I go to sometimes to sing karaoke he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him.

What do you love the most about your husband-to-be?

No matter what when it all boils down to it I know that he will always have my back and he is a wonderful father.

What does he love about you? I don’t my he always says my damn feet, he calls them feetzies and the fact that I am filled with life and a firecracker.

What’s your biggest pet peeve about your husband to be? He is a procrastinator and I don’t know whether or not I should believe what he says or not because he bullshits a lot about things.

Has the engagement/wedding ever been called off, or in jeopardy?  If so, what happened and how did it get resolved
Yes, because it seemed as though after I bought the dress and stuff Ed was no longer involved or cared about the wedding because he knew that I wasn’t leaving him. I don’t know if it has gotten completely resolved but I do know that with or without him I’m walking down that damn aisle.

Who tends to bring out the Bridezilla behavior in you?  Why? Ed because he doesn’t listen and he will say ok but really not do shit and he never justifies the way I feel about things, he always has something condescending or negative to say.

When things aren’t going your way in regards to how you want your wedding, how do you handle it? I get pissed off, throw a fit, manipulate, and do whatever needs to be done to get what I want where the wedding is concerned.