About Kym

Bride’s Name & Age: Kym, 30
Bride’s Occupation: Sales and Marketing
Groom’s Name: High, 31
Groom’s Occupation: General Manager of Movie theater

Honeymoon: Royal Carribean Cruise

How long have your been dreaming of your wedding day?  What was/is your Dream Wedding:

Honestly, I dreamt of my wedding day since I was old enough to realize what it was, but my parents were dreaming of it even before that. I have heard about my wedding from my dad since I was a little girl.  I even thought it would never happen, until I met High. My dream wedding is honestly one that goes off without a hitch. A huge wedding with all of my friends and family there and everything extravagant, elegant and perfect. If I had the money I would LOVE to get married at the Hard Rock Hotel.

Approx. Wedding Budget:$10,000

Who’s Paying for Wedding? Half me, half parents

Who’s in Charge of Budget? Me and my father

What happens if you go over budget? I will pay for it (NOT my family.. that is extremely clear)

Did you hire a wedding planner?
No, my father believes he is the wedding planner.

Describe your dream wedding dress: I FOUND IT! Alfred Angelo… but I can not afford it, so I ordered a knock off online. I wish it was as nice.

Who chose the rings?  What’s the story behind the rings? HAHA, he picked out an engagement ring (which was a nice ring) but it was too plain for me. There was no band that went with it. So I exchanged it and paid the upcharge to get a better ring. I already got the band and I have been hounding him to pick his out.

# of Guests attending: 150-175

# in Wedding Party (Bridesmaids, Flower Girl. Groomsmen, ring bearer, etc.) 19

How long have you been planning wedding? Since December 2009

How helpful has the groom been (or not) in the planning process? Explain. NOT, he seems to never have his own opinion, I ask for help he tells me I don’t care.  I have been asking him for weeks out pick out a ring…STILL NOTHING! He watched football while the caterer was here, played on the computer while the cake lady was here.

Are you trying to lose weight before the wedding?  How are you going about that?  What’s your goal? I AM!! I have lost 21 pounds so far! I want to lose another 30. I am drinking protein shakes and eating fruit. It stinks! I am Italian and love food.. so dieting makes me even more cranky, especially when others in my house bring home all the bad stuff!

Tell us about your in-Laws. How do you get along with them?  How does the groom get along with your parents?
I try not to talk to his family too much. They are VERY conservative and not at all like my family. He gets along real well with my family (at least to their face) he doesn’t understand how they can be so rude.. but keeps it to himself because he likes to be polite.

Tell us about your family. How have they been involved in the planning process?
WELL….. My family is a VERY loud Italian family. They speak their mind at all times, they do not have a filter and they are not afraid to tell you what they think. They are VERY involved to a fault. I believe they both think this a party for them.. not me. My father was a wedding photographer for 20 years and thinks he knows EVERYTHING about weddings!

Have you or your groom been married before?  Any children? If so, what role will the kids play on the wedding day?
Groom was married briefly when he was very young, it is not something we talk much about.

Who are your most/least favorite celebrity brides and why? CARRIE IN SEX AND THE CITY!!!I love her look!Other than that, I try not to follow celebrities weddings. They all get divorced anyways.

What’s the worst thing that could go wrong on your wedding day? ANYTHING!! Lets start with everything not being in place when we sit, someone in the wedding not showing up, me tripping and falling walking down the isle. The caterer not showing up.. my parents driving me up a wall!!!!!!!!!!!

What’s been your biggest stress since you started planning the wedding? My father. He wants us to move out before the wedding. He wants to fix up his house before people come in from out of town. It kills me because we moved in with him to help them pay the mortgage when my mother was laid off. Funny how we are asking for two more months and that is a problem. He thinks if he lets us borrow the money it will all be okay, but I will still have to pay him back. Cant I save that money for the two months to help pay for the wedding!

How do you typically handle stressful situations in regards to your wedding? FREAK out on whoever will let me vent. Mostly fight with my mom.. and eat!! I stress eat badly.

Of your friends, who is the straightest shooter – who always tells you the truth, no matter how bad it may be?
HMMM .. my maid of honor Michelle. She is very blunt as well… to a fault. She always tells me.. “Kym you are being a bitch please stop”. I remember a few times when she calls me out in front of groups of people.

Tell us any dilemmas or stressful moments regarding the below details of the wedding. What happened? How was it resolved?

Cake: High would not help pick it out.. he played on the computer while talking to the cake lady. Also, my mother stood behind me telling me how ugly the cakes I liked were.. it was a fight waiting to happen.

Finding a location that would let us have our own booze in there and caterer was difficult. My mother wanted this place, I did not.. but I settled and kind of like it now.  The worst thing now is the fact that they don’t give us the hall for all day.. we have to pay extra for extra hours and we need time to set up!!

Date: my cousin picked the date, I had no say in this. She thought I should pick a date as soon as I got the ring, so she picked it.

Dress: I could not find a dress, I cried a lot while trying them on. Mom wanted certain dresses, I did not like any of them. Finally I found one I loved… but it was 1400.00 and my mother would not help me pay for that, so I found a knock off online, but it is not the best. I guess it will work

Budget: This is the most stressful. I have expensive taste and we do not have the money to go with it. I am trying to stay in a budget and still have the wedding of my dreams. Still not resolved and I cry a lot.

Flowers: UGGGH, still don’t have a florist and we are trying to get the grooms parents to pay for this, so I am still not sure how much we can spend because he wont ask them!

The Groom: TOO MUCH! HE DOESN’T HELP… and he has no opinion (which drives me nuts)

Wedding Party: On his side I don’t know a few so I am hoping they actually show. The girls on my side some still haven’t ordered their dress, one ordered one too small so she could lose weight, 2 GOT PREGNANT!, one wants to do her own hair when I am paying to have it done, they all are wearing different shoes, and I don’t know that they will all be on time the day of!

In-Laws: I still don’t know how much they are contributing, they are so conservative, she wants to help create the flowers, and I am worried they wont help as much monetarily as we are expecting

MY PARENTS ARE CONTROLLING EVERY ASPECT!! Especially my father! And all their friends have  to be invited!

 What’s the story of how you got engaged? He tried to be sweet and slip it on my finger while I was sleeping. Too bad it backfired. I woke up when I scratched my face with it. I thought it was a joke so I started screaming at him for tricking me. I kept yelling “this isn’t funny put it back (thinking it was my fake diamond in the bathroom).. eventually he convinced me to look, and I was happy, but disappointed he didn’t get on his knee and do the traditional thing. At least he tried.

What do you love the most about your husband-to-be? He is my best friend, he truly loves me, compliments me and I know I want to be with him for the rest of my life. He is the first person I think of when I wake up and the last thing I think of before I fall asleep. He helps me to be a better person.

What does he love about you?
Sometimes I cant figure it out but, when asked he names off so much. He knows I help him to be more vocal,  I complete him, he loves the way I laugh, talk and love him.

What’s your biggest pet peeve about your husband to be? His inability to express himself. If he is mad about something he doesn’t tell me, how can I fix that. When I fight with someone if he agrees he doesn’t tell them because he hates conflict. IT DRIVES ME NUTS

When you disagree, what is it usually about, and how do you handle it? It is usually about what he is NOT saying. I blow up at him, he gets mad then we talk it out. It is never resolved until I BLOW!

Has the engagement/wedding ever been called off, or in jeopardy?  If so, what happened and how did it get resolved? No way! No matter what happens we both want this. Although… my dad has asked him several times if he wants to back out yet…. Telling him it is his last chance.

In what ways have you shown Bridezilla behavior during the wedding planning? I emailed the girls today explaining that they ARE NOT DOING THEIR OWN HAIR AND MAKEUP. They can not pick out any shows.. they all have to be uniform height so I can line them up. I am tired of them trying to do things on their own.  I expressed on the invites children are not to come

Who tends to bring out the Bridezilla behavior in you?  Why? MY PARENTS!!! I do not like being told what to do about MY WEDDING… who do they think they are and why is this their wedding all of sudden! They are so not easy to deal with!

When things aren’t going your way in regards to how you want your wedding, how do you handle it?
Either scream or cry.. my emotions tend to get the best of me. I try to be calm and collected…. But it never seems to work that way.