About Stephanie

Bride’s Name & Age: Stephanie "Diva", 26
Bride’s Occupation: Public Relations Account Executive
Groom’s Name & Age: Deboris, 23
Groom’s Occupation: Lead Server at a Restaurant

Honeymoon date and location: Negril, Jamaica

How long have you been dreaming of your wedding day and what was/is your Dream Wedding? I started dreaming about my wedding probably around middle school age (9-10).  I always envisioned something with a ton of people, probably because I figured I’d get married later in life after I’ve become famous for who knows what!  Always envisioned having a long train and something very classy! I also really, really wanted to have this Guyanese ceremony called a queh-queh (pronounce “qway-qway”).  It’ s basically a huge party the night before the wedding where all the old people get drunk and sing songs about what your supposed to do to keep your mate happy (mostly dirty songs), and they put the bride and groom on a chair in the air – very fun event) but I’m not having one.

Approx. Wedding Budget? $25,000

Who’s Paying for Wedding? Mostly my mom, with a few things being paid by us

Who’s in Charge of Budget?

What happens if you go over budget?
Umm, we can cry about that later…I’m a bit of a penny-pincher though, so I don’t think we’ll go over TOO much!

Did you hire a wedding planner?
I chose to not have a wedding planner because having seen how much my friends who had planners stressed out over their weddings even with a planner; I decided to just do it on my own.  Our venue is doing our day-of coordination though, which I pray goes well. And the venue liaison, Rachel, has been pretty great so far!

Describe your dream wedding dress? Sexy, lots of rhinestones and shiny things, shows off the girls and all my curves (mermaid cut), loooooooong train with buttons and a corset back

Who chose the rings?  What’s the story behind the rings? There’s no story behind my ring really.  My fiancé used to work in a jewelry store, so when it was time to look at rings he picked the one he thought was the best, and since he knows his stuff I went along with it.  In my mind, the ring should embody what my husband likes because after all, it represents my commitment to him. As for his ring, I have 30 days to buy it…did I mention I procrastinate…a lot!?

# of Guests attending? 90-125

How long have you been planning wedding?
Over a year in total — began planning in November 2008; began actively planning in early 2009

How helpful has the groom been (or not) in the planning process?
My fiancé honestly has been a real champ, but because he’s a stereotypical guy, he doesn’t really know all the little details.  But he’s been very willing to help (too bad every time he wants to help I end up having to explain a bunch of things to him and sometimes I just want to get it done).  Our venue director/day-of coordinator said he was one of the most competent, helpful grooms she’s worked with. I’m a lucky lady!

Are you trying to lose weight before the wedding? OMG – this is such a sore subject for me!  Yes – I am really wanting to lose weight.  The problem is I am in a very deep, long term relationship with sugar, so it’s been tough (I’ve actually gained about 20 lbs. Since we got engaged).  My plan – do some kind of cleansing and no/low carbs diet starting next week. Goal is 20 lbs (let us pray)!

Tell us about your future In-Laws. How do you get along with them? I don’t even call deboris’ mom my mother-in-law.  She is like a real mom to me and is so much fun to be around.  Deboris gets along very well with my mother as well.  My mom’s husband is deboris’ biggest fan (even though deboris can barely understand him half the time because he has a thick African accent…lol, I guess that’s beside the point).

Tell us about your family. How have they been involved in the planning process? My mom has essentially acted as the wedding planner in that she’s visited venues and worked on centerpieces and a lot of the small details.  Only problem is I disagree with almost everything she likes. Other than that, my family has been pretty hands off (which is a bad sign because they are very opinionated). Deboris’ family is very laidback, so they’ve been acting as cheerleaders really, which is a great thing.

Have you or your groom been married before?
Never been married before and no kids (unless you count our dogs, which unfortunately will not be in the wedding).

What’s the worst thing that could go wrong on your wedding day?
I trip and fall, or don’t look as pretty as I want to, or the DJ sucks, or any drama from my sorority sisters and/or family.

What’s been your biggest stress since you started planning the wedding? Finances and getting people to get things done (ex. My bridesmaids are really slacking on their bridal shower/bachelorette party planning). Also, getting invitations out was pretty stressful because I procrastinated (as usual).

How do you typically handle stressful situations in regards to your wedding?
Yell/debate it out until people see it my way.

Define the type a bride you will be? Well, if the invitation process is any indication, I need to know exactly how and when everything is going to be done…don’t want to walk into any surprises on the day of.  Example – right now I’m pulling teeth about my centerpieces because the lady that is doing them has yet to send me any pictures of what she has in mind…if I don’t get pictures by the close of the week she’ll be issuing a refund because I need to know! Next week, I will be having a bridesmaid conference call to make sure they all know what is expected of them (is that too much)?

What’s the story of how you got engaged? Well, the story seems pretty strange but Deboris decided to move to Miami. The day he moved here we went out to eat at Tony Roma’s because he had been traveling all day and we just wanted a quick bite to eat. The service was horrible; I started acting like a diva (as always). And we decided to leave 15 minutes into dinner.  Ended up just heading home to watch movies. When we arrived home, he jumped out of the car like a crazy person…I thought maybe he had to use the bathroom really badly or something.  In the process of him sprinting out of the car, he shut his door on the straps of my purse (which made me angry).  I stretched over the passenger seat, opened his door to free my purse, and just as I turned around to open my door to yell at him, I saw that he had already opened my door and was on one knee…the end!  See, I told you the story was pretty strange!

What do you love the most about your husband-to-be? He is the total ying to my yang.  I’m too serious, he’s super silly.  I’m into the arts, he’s into sports.  Deboris has taught me how to appreciate the simple things in life and has tried to keep me from freaking out when things don’t go as planned. He’s pretty hott, too!

What’s your biggest pet peeve about your husband to be? He can be too silly, too messy, and too lazy if I’m not paying attention (here’s that control issue again).

When you disagree, what is it usually about, and how do you handle it? Money or something he failed to do.  We yell or ignore each other and then yell some more…and then make up within a few minutes.

Has the engagement/wedding ever been called off, or in jeopardy?  If so, what happened and how did it get resolved? Ha! It’s been called off, delayed at least a dozen times.  Stupid arguments lead to name calling which leads to, “I refuse to marry you!” Which leads to calling our mom’s who always straighten us out.  It’s gotten much better, thank goodness!

In what ways have you shown Bridezilla behavior during the wedding planning? I have pretty much been a drama queen when it comes to the location, the food, the drinks, the centerpieces (oh, the centerpieces have caused hours of disagreements between my mom and I), the Caribbean cultural stuff I want added, the bridal shower and now the details for my bridesmaids (what to get them? Who needs their hair done? Etc).

Who tends to bring out the Bridezilla behavior in you? My mother – she tends to do what she wants to do and not ask me for my feedback at all and it drives me insane!

When things aren’t going your way in regards to the details of how you want your wedding, how do you handle it? Debate the issue until it is made my way! It’s my wedding and at the end of the day what I say goes!